My husband and I went through a rough patch lately, and things have been back to normal for about a month.(good) However it is odd because he has started to buy me gifts(unusual) but at the same time is very snappy and acts irritated towards me. What could be wrong? It is as if he says and does the right things, but inwardly can't stand me. I drive him to and from work so I know hes not cheating, and he doesn't have the time.
2006-09-08 09:02:41 · 22 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a man who is trying to make things work in the relationship and is over compensating by buying gifts. I think he feels like he is forced to do this even though I'm sure you didn't tell him so. I also think maybe he is starting to feel a bit trapped in the relationship even though he is trying to make things work.
2006-09-08 09:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is obviously friction in your relationship. Depending on how long you have been with him, he may be feeling smothered by the situation. Things may not be as great as they once were, you have gotten used to eachother, ect ect. So given these circumstances, his behavior isn't that 'strange.' Most men cheat; instead, your man buys you gifts hoping to change the way he feels for you and vice versa.
Perhaps you two need a little time apart or a vacation. Maybe take a trip with girlfriends out of town, or take a romantic vacation with him somewhere.
A change in surroundings = change in moods
2006-09-08 16:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably going through the motions of getting the past the ruff spots as best he can. He is buying gifts, etc. because he is trying to improve the relationship, but is still kind of grouchy because mentally he probably hasn't really resolved the issues yet within himself. One of two things is gonna happen- either he will eventually come to a release, let go of his negative feelings and then the relationship can really heal- or he will just get tired of pretending, and drop the mr. nice guy act, and everything will be crappy again- so all you can do is wait, and if it isnt really settled this time, just try to resolve the issues next time because they will keep coming up again untill healing is complete.
2006-09-08 16:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by Empress - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be he is not feeling well, some men don't want to go to the doctor, And it may have nothing to do with you, start to put a note in his lunch, telling him how much you love him. some nights do something special, have a hot bath ready for him, and then he can have a special meal, it may come a time you say, lets go and have a annual check up together. When he get out the car to work, say, "I Love You, baby.
2006-09-08 16:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he isn't inlove with you anymore. The gifts are just guilt b/c he's ashamed of his feelings. You know "it's not you it's me". If you have children maybe that's why he's holding on. The best way to understand is to ask relationships always suffer due to lack of communication. Besides how can he change if he doen't knw that he's doing something wrong?
2006-09-08 16:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks youre a mind reader and wants you to do something particular for the 'gifts' that you arent doing...probably why he's snappy. Better get him to open up or try on your own to figure it out. Good luck.
2006-09-08 16:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him away for the weekend - to a private little bed and breakfast and talk to him - both of you need to be completely honest and talk openly about your issues now and before. He has some resentment lurking in his psyche and it needs to be addressed.
If that is not possible, take him out of a date and start some dialog to get him to talk - he needs to talk about what is going on inside him.
2006-09-08 18:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
resentment for what ever reason or guilt alot of times people will cause anger between them and there spouse to make them feel better about a wrong that they have already done or going/ wanting to do. sorry to here that you look to be a beautifull woman
2006-09-08 16:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and ask him if there's something wrong. Nip the problem in the bud, before it gets worse..That's a man for you...they are nice one day and a jerk the next and then they complain about us being on the rag....lol
2006-09-08 16:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, if you want to find out instead of speculating, you need to ask him calmly. no finger pointing, no defensive shell, just an open question. it could be something simple that can be easily fixed. it could be simple as you getting him a gift with no apparent reason. see how he'll react.
2006-09-08 16:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋