See i have never meet my really dad and i tryed my best when i was 18 to 19 years old to talk to him and to try to meet my reall dad and it did not work I wanted to meet him so i would know what he is like!!! But that never happend!!!! My wedding is november 11th 2006!!!!! The thing is that i invited my dads dad to the wedding so i was wondering is if that is meen not to invite my really dad to my wedding? So can you guys help me please!!!!!
2006-09-08 08:59:49 · 26 answers · asked by S W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have told my grandfather that i want to meet my really dad and my grandfather has done his best for me to meet my really dad!!!!!
2006-09-08 09:15:17 · update #1
It's your day sweetie. Don't let tradition dictate whom you invite or not. Focus on the people who mean the most to you. My brother's walking me to my son and my son to my future husband. My daughter says when she gets married, she's having her future step-dad walk her down. She's not interested in inviting her "really" dad and neither is her older sister when she gets married. It's his loss! Always has been! It's a nice gesture on your part, but NOT a requirement. Hope this helps. Congrats & Good Luck.
2006-09-08 09:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure! You have been attempting to connect with your real dad, but some how it has not been working but since you have your grandfathers information now, you should be able to see him. YOu have always done the right things so keep doing the good work, Who knows his presence could be the best gift you gave for yourself! Invite him and also send in a note that will make it personal.
Happy wedding!
2006-09-08 09:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know my father either- I wasnt raised with him and I am going through the same pickle decision you are going through. Some say I should, some say I shouldnt. I think what I am going to do is send an invite and if he doesnt respond, then there is no love lost. I dont have any other parent to invite- as my mom passed 4 years ago. If i knew anyone else from that side of the family i would invite them.
HOWEVER- if you dont feel comfortable having him there- dont be bothered that you didnt invite him. Just because he helped give you life doesnt mean he has all access to it. If you make the effort to contact him about the wedding and he doesnt respond- then that is his choice and your conscious should be clear. You did what you could.
Good luck!
2006-09-08 09:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, has your real dad ever been part of your life? Obviously not, so if it were me, i wouldn't invite people i don' t know to my wedding, nor people who obviously don't care about me. i understand that you want to meet your real dad, which is a good thing, but are you sure you want that kind of drama on your wedding day? if it were me, i would not. Save that meeting for a different day, and why couldn't you meet him when you were 18 or 19?
2006-09-08 09:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by rollarcoaster brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him an invitation. Do not hang your hopes that he will answer or attend. He has made his position quite clear that he does not want to be included in your life. I am really sorry. This is the happiest day of your life and I would not obsess or romanticize that this is going to change anything or that a relationship will ever develop between the two of you. Good luck!
2006-09-08 11:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on you. When I got married last October, the only family I had there was my mom, two sisters and nephews. I haven't seen or spoken to my dad in years, and I have two brothers that I do not associate with.
Even though it hurt very much, I made it through the day fine. My dad left the scene when I was little, and I contacted him when I was 20. He showed no interest in me or my family. It hurts, and it always will.
However, like I said, it is up to you.
BTW, I had a very close friend walk me down the aisle.
2006-09-08 09:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by tiggerluv252000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally up to you. I have known my real dad my whole life and I didn't invite him. I had my friends dad give me away. So it is totally a personal preference. If you want him there, invite him. You only get married once, so make sure it's the way you want it. Good Luck and Congratulations:)
2006-09-09 11:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. My cousin isn't close to her dad and has not spoken to him for more than 8 years. She didn't invite him to the wedding due to the fact that she only want the people who she loves and cares for to attend her wedding and share her most happiest day with.
2006-09-08 10:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tryed to reach out to him and he didn't want to connect to you then why bother sending him an invite to the wedding still invite his dad if you have a good relationship with him but i wouldn't ask biological dad to come you've been let down enough by him so far why go and mess up your special day good luck with the new hubby
2006-09-08 09:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not invite your birth dad if you don't even know him. Your wedding is not a great place for one of those first introductions. It should be in a private setting where the two of you can get to know one another.
2006-09-08 09:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by PT&L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋