Pre-schooler-Pee coming outside and she wets her panties at school!?

Question

She is a pre-schooler 3 and 3 months old, at home I help her by completing removing the panties, at school she is supposed to do it by herself and every day there is an accident. Should she sit further inside and pull her panties all the way down ,any tips would be really helpful.

It was the teacher who informed me , that I should train (first 2 days they helped her)my kid to do it herself. With the panties I tried to make her go pee at home today , somehow it spills out and wets her panties ,socks and pants too. I don't know what mistake I am making !

Answer 1

I have two daughters -- ages 3 and 22 months. I know exactly what you're talking about with peeing down the front of the toilet and onto the pants. It's hard for kids to learn just how to sit on the toilet with their pants out of the way, ensuring that they're actually aiming into the potty.

My girls both need to pull their pants down below their knees (sometimes all the way to ankles) to be sure that they're completely out of the way. Then, when they sit on the potty, I remind them to lean forward. If they do that, all the pee goes into the toilet. If not, then the floor and pants can get wet.

Keep practicing with your daughter at home by having her pull her own pants down (it's easier to keep them at her ankles if she has shoes on like she would at school). Then, have her try to get on the potty and lean forward on her own. Also, see if you can practice with her on the school potties right before and after school.

How long does her preschool last? If it's only a couple hours, then maybe if you help her use the potty before class starts, she won't have to go again until it's over.

I know it can be a little frustrating that the teachers aren't allowed to help, but I think it has to do with state guidelines for preschools. My daughter does very well on the potty, but she can't reach very well to wipe for a bowel movement, so I'm just hoping she does all her pooping at home. :-P

Good luck to your daughter!

Answer 2

Schools sometimes seem to make parent's lives hell, they have so much control! My son was bitten several times at this new daycare and then he started biting too and they called me one day and said "you have to come get him now and he can't come back." I had quit my job that day! Could you imagine if we desperately needed the income, luckily we got by without it but it really could have been devastating!

Anyway, go into the school and complain but, also you can go to the toilet yourself and see what the difference is between her potty at home and the one at school. Train her there at the school to pull the panties down all the way.

I also want to add that whenyou go to the school and complain you should act concerned about ther hygiene and you are wondering why they are not concerned about a child with urine all over her walking around and getting it on things in the classroom. Why don't they change her clothes atleast if they're not going to help her?!

Answer 3

I am in the same boat as you - my son is 3 (in June) and we are starting home preschooling him starting on Monday. I have found many books at garage sales - preschool workbooks and such and I don't usually use the sheets themselves, but use them as guidelines to develop curriculum to use. I also have several websites that I love and use to add crafts, snacks, activities, etc. Here is a basic outline of what I am doing on a daily basis with my son: Every morning to start class we: Go over Month, Day of the Week, Weather, the Schedule and the Bible verse of the week. He also gets to draw a picture and write if he chooses a journal page. M-Th - Handwriting/Letter of the Week, Math, Geography, Science, History, Sign Language, Craft, Bible Verse Friday - Literature/Narration, Art Appreciation, Music Appreciation, Music (he is learning piano), Free Time, Story Telling, Computer Lesson, Chess Lesson We also attend a Mommy & Me playgroup and library story time each once a week, and we read books before Quiet Time and Bedtime. I have developed my own curriculum because nothing I found was what I was looking for and I feel like I can meet my son where he's at in various areas by creating this around his individual skills. My mom did daycare for 13 years and recently gave me all her old craft and activity books which have helped tons, but my absolute go to is Teach Me Mommy. It's pretty old by now, obviously, but most of the basic curriculum is still relevant (they do 3-4 day units about animals, homes, people, places, etc.). I use this ALL the time. Whatever you do, just do it because it's fun. Once it starts feeling overwhelming to you, it will definitely be overwhelming for your daughter. Feel free to contact me if you have any other questions!

Answer 4

Encourage her to be more indpendent at home so she can do it herself at school.

Show her how to take her panties all the way off and sit backwards on the toilet maybe? This helps some small kids.

Answer 5

You know I understand that 3 and 4 year olds need to start doing things for themselves, but I mean come on. This child is 3 years old. What would it hurt to help this child with pulling her panties up. I mean she is potty trained.

I'm sorry to me that would be so frustrating and disheartening. Why can't we just let our babies be babies for as long as they can be. This world is harsh enough they will learn about it soon.

Answer 6

I would say have her start doing it herself at home too...say maybe have her pull them down to her calfs for a while...just start practicing at home. How strange that they won't help the poor baby!! That's irritating!

Answer 7

all the other ideas sound good but have you talk to the principal about your concerns and that's why the teacher is there for to help so look in to that hope this helps

Answer 8

when I was in pre-school they helped us....why not now???