We know that finding the right one is not a thing that can happen very often, or may not happen, it may take to date couple of people, but lets say that for a person on his/her early 30s, to whom things with the "right one" hasn't worked for different reasons, the question is: How many times do you think a person can fall in love in a lifestime and think has found the right one, 3 would be too many, 5 an exageration and that is just not real love?. Please share your experience or knowledge if you don't mind, specially if you are older than 30 years of age. THANKS!!!
2006-09-08 08:33:15 · 5 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Darling, I just looked up how many questions you have asked and all I have to say is this woman did a number on your heart. There is no right answer because it depends on you. How open you are to love will dictate how much you can love others.
1) The timing has to be right
2) The person has to be right
3) You both are selfless in your commitment
4) You both want the same things
From what I can surmise from your questions is that you are freaked out about love, falling in love, and even more so being in your 30s.
Age is just a number. I wound up recently divorced at 39. Now I could have spazzed out. Really good boost for my confidence. Ran out and purchased some plastic boobs and try to hunt down a man. The reality is I want a man who loves me for me. So no, I didn't buy the mid life crisis car, get the boob job, and no I am not clubbing. I am 40, wear a size 4, and my ex husband REALIZED what he threw away. I value myself more now...so darling, marriage or love isn't necessarily the answer to your questions. You are in PAIN, you need to deal with it and learn from this relationship...and yes, you probably are more ready to commit to someone because YOUR biological clock is ticking and you want kids.
In order to have all of that you have to be HONEST with what you can live with. Marriage is a good thing when you can be unselfish. When you know what marriage is about. So, my dear, all I can say is take the time to heal. Let go of the emotional baggage (sure she was hot). Let it go and move on slowly. Date to heal, and heal well.
2006-09-08 16:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in my early 30's...and I can honestly say that I have found true love 2 times in my lifetime so far. I hope that wasn't it. I'm curious what you think and if you have found the right one yet? Contact me.
2006-09-08 08:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can fall in love with just about anyone. there isn't one destined soul mate, but i do think that if you give the person a chance you can see that you can love them for who they are. and they can love you equally. it's hard to think that you have a predetermined amount of Loves in your life. it all comes down to how comfortable the person makes you feel and how secure and loved you make them feel.
2006-09-08 08:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by Evangeline L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never understand found the one and only
what if you do but the oeder person don't feel the same way
2006-09-08 08:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol........still looking....
2006-09-08 08:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by levita45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋