Would you do counceling or take your partner to one? Or have you already and did it work?
2006-09-08 08:30:13 · 27 answers · asked by D'oh! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally I think counseling is a pile of crap. what ever happened to 2 people talking out their problems and solving them? why do we need someone to talk at us until our heads feel like they want to explode!
2006-09-08 09:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by dread pirate lavenderbeard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely a good thing to do. But take some time and find the person you feel comfortable with. Don't feel intimidated. This isn't like going to see your doctor. You need a person you can trust, talk with in a relaxed way, and who helps you think more clearly about your issues. I have been going off and on for a long time and it works very well, either alone or with your partner. Be patient. It takes some time. There is no magic here, but there is the first steps to understanding yourself better. You can usually find referrals in your local community. Look for a psychologist if you can. Many therapists are MSW (social workers), but the deeper level counseling comes from psychologists. Psychiatrists can provide mediaction too. Don't be afraid of that either. I take some anti depression medication and I feel 200% better!
2006-09-08 15:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that both of you need to sit down without any distractions and talk about it first. find out if he is open to it. If not then your wasting your time. Most men find it hard to go and speak to a shrink. Is it a macho thing? Is it a cultural thing? Men find it hard to admitt that there is something wrong and that they are in total control in every situation. If they cant admitt to the problem then there is no solution (no treatment).
I would do counseling and am in the processes of doing it because my wife insists on it and because I love her so much that if she thinks it may work what the heck I'll try it. She See's the problem in me I cant see myself (my actions) so I'll be open minded and see if it will work. It may not be a magic pill and then again it may help me cope. its a 50/50 chance. My problem is different. You see I'm dying (cancer) my mind is racing 100 mph I am facing depression and anxiety I'm wondering whats going to happen to my family when I'm gone. Will they be okay. If our roles were reversed I would accompany my partner to counseling if she agreed to go. If she wouldn't you have nothing it takes two to make things work in this world (relationships/marriage) its no longer about one or the other its now both of you who make one (how bad does he want it to work). Remember not everything is 100%
2006-09-08 16:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not been in couples counseling, but I would, because it can be great. I know this because I used to *be* a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC). It's not always effective, it can take a few tries to find one that both spouses feel comfortable with, and in some cases it takes more time than people wish, but usually if both members of a couple are willing to give it a real try, it is very helpful.
2006-09-08 15:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been for myself and with a partner. You or both of you need to really want to go not being forced to go. Have an opened mind,be honest and get the most out of it as you can. It is also important to be comfortable with the counselor,there are good ones and not so good ones. Everyone has someone they feel they can click with where as some don't.I will always recommend
counseling for any subject.It's seeing and talking with a person who is not partial to either person.
2006-09-08 15:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Linda R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that you both sit in front of yahoo answers and ask and receive feedback together. Might try it. It's funny sometimes and may make the two of you more apt to communicate to each other if youre viewing several viewpoints. Counseling worked for a little while.
2006-09-08 15:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally counseling has never worked for me. Even though you explain situations to them, how can someone you just met tell you the solutions to all your problems. On the other hand, some people find it helpful.
2006-09-08 15:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to counseling and when the counselor said there is nothing wrong with you lets bring her in. Well she wont go as she sees nothing wrong from her point of view. Now I am debating the breakup of my marriage. The counselor helped me in many ways it came down to the wife wont go so there is no help for the relationship.
2006-09-08 15:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone for counseling on my own after my first marriage failed. It was actually quite useful. If my fiance and I were ever in need of this type of help I would have no problem seeking this type of help out.
2006-09-08 15:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a partner, but if I did and we were having problems, I'd SURELY take them to the counselor. He'd help so much. Sort though issues, etc. Definately think about it. ; D
2006-09-08 15:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by Interior Design Pro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋