I just broke up with my b/f yesterday after being together for 1 year just for the fact that he has been "talking" with other girls. But now that i am single i have this friend that really likes me and wants to go out, but since i just broke up with my ex i don't think i am wanting a relationship right now and i don't know what to tell him. Before me and my ex got together i liked this dude but he wouldn't do anything about it so i gave up, but now he has the feelings and i don't know what to do. I like him as a friend and maybe more but i don't want to be together right now and i don't know what to tell him to maybe keep him around until i am ready. He keeps asking me and i keep telling him that it is complicated and he gets mad at me. So what do you guys think?
2006-09-08 08:22:54 · 21 answers · asked by Shooting Star 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should wait until your ready. I understand he wasnt ready when you were no one can help thier feelings. But now the shoe is on the other foot and if he does not understand that then he is not any good anyways. Tell him exactly what you think and feel and if he sticks around good if not oh well you cant make yourself want to be with him right now. Do whats really in your heart or you will make the wrong choice.
2006-09-08 08:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you are not ready right now. however, figure it out, fast, if you want to try a relationship or not. if u keep him waiting around, it's not fair.
if he Chooses to wait around, he thinks u are worth it. but he has to choose to do so. and if he respects that you JUST got out of a relationship, he will wait, and not get mad.
you have to give him that ability to choose. tell him that u need some time to think, and u don't WANT to keep him hanging, but u need some space cuz u dont' want to use him as a Rebound. if he knows that, hopefuly he can respect you. if he keeps pushing what he wants, u have to realize he will always push u to do things u don't want, when ur not ready. if he shows u he has patience, respect, and wants to wait for you, he is showing that you are worth waiting for. also, same for him: if you say u need time, and later on u change ur mind about him and don't want to go out w/ him, obviously he should move on. but if u say u need time, and want to go out w/ him later, u will let him know, and he will know that u found him "good enough" to go out with.
good luck... it's a matter of respect... u have to respect that he has feelings for you..and he has to respect that u need some time. make sure u don't take advantage of him, and let him know where u are, and that u are confused..and when u become "un"confused, he'll be first to know. :)
2006-09-08 15:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had a similar problem happen to me... I am "talking" to this guy, and we occasionally hang out. Totally harmless hanging out. Just enjoying each others company. And if this guy doesnt understand that you just got out of a serious relationship and you kinda need some time then hes not worth keeping around anyway. Good Luck, I wish You the best!
2006-09-08 15:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by ashley65@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly that. You aren't ready for a relationship yet but maybe you could try in the future. If he gets pushy then just say no, clearly he isn't worth your time if he tries to force you.
2006-09-08 15:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just play it smooth for right now. u need time to think and to heal your breakup and you should do it with no strings attatched to anybody.it might be the only smart idea. you dont want him as a rebound. u can of course be friends with him . maybe with time u all may become closer and if he loves you the way he does he'll wait and understand your situation. just take it slow girl.GOODLUCK :)
2006-09-08 15:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you liked him before, then hang out as friends and see where it leads, forget the other guy he was trying to be a playa at your expense.
2006-09-08 15:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by ann.natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it's up to you to make a decision about whether you are into him and your willing to put a friendship on the line. If you know in your heart that's who you want go for it!
2006-09-08 15:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by LOvE_N_BBall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! Just dont let him pressure you into anything you aren't ready for. If he gets mad, he wasn't the one.
2006-09-08 15:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by caseofyou2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to heal first before you get into another relationship you might jump from a frying pan and end up jumping in fire so please gal friend take your time dont take chances try and keep yourself busy with work or spend time with your gal friends it will help
2006-09-08 15:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by salma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good god what drama. Take a break, read a book and wait for one of them call.
2006-09-08 15:38:53 · answer #10 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋