I have been talking to this man via phone 4 the past 2 months now. He says he loves me constantly. we have the same goals in life. the same morals. this is it, now we had tele sex the other day and i text him about it. (oooooooo he has a gf) she was using the phone and saw the text with my #. she called me today saying i sould leave her man. The thing is she dont treat him the way he should be treated. She doesnt work and he cannot come home to a home cooked meal and no breakfast in the morning ( she can cook). As 4 sex, he has to practically have to beg 4 it. THey have been together 4 nine years.
do u think that i should leave him to her when I love him and want him 4 myself? Am I A *****?
2006-09-08 08:18:56 · 49 answers · asked by Pat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thay r not married
2006-09-08 09:30:39 · update #1
I meet him through his sister we are close friends. If he was playing me then y tell his sister the same things about his gf almost a year before he 'meet 'me. (she is not lieing to me)
2006-09-08 09:34:22 · update #2
You're not a *****. But, here's the deal. #1- there is nothing cute about two women fighting over a man. #2- If he really wanted to be with you, he would. If things were that bad, he wouldn't be with her. He has the best of both worlds right now. His in house woman, and his chick on the side. Is that really the kind of guy you want in your life. Just because he's telling all these things you want to hear, does not mean its true. He's saying those things so that he can get what he wants. So yeah... leave him alone. Plus, his game is sloppy. His chick shouldn't even be calling you. Let her deal with his no game having self. You should find someone else who will be with YOU and only YOU.
P.S.... I truly think you are going to believe what you want to believe because you keep coming up with these excuses. Having said that... what his sister tells you really means absolutely nothing. Regardless to the fact that you feel you are "close friends"... none of my close friends would hook me up with anyone who already had a girlfriend. My friends do not bring drama into my life. Thats not what friends do. Maybe she doesn't like the girl and is trying to get her out of the picture. I don't know. But, thats her brother. Where do you think her loyalty is going to lie? With her brother. So, don't expect for her to tell you everything about his business. The fact of the matter is that, he has another girlfriend. If you are okay with being the chick on the side. Then do that. But, if he wanted to be with you and only you, he would. They have invested 9 years into that relationship. And though he says he's not happy... he's still with her. You two just talk on the phone. Don't be a fool. Get it together girl!
2006-09-08 08:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you an idiot? First off, this guy is cheating on his woman of NINE years, so what's to say he isn't going to do the same sh!t to you? Are you sleeping with him in real or just on the phone? (which I think is pretty funny anyways.... text sex. lol). You need to leave this guy. His text sex isn't that good. As far as him not coming home to a home cooked meal, tell him to get off his @$$ and make his own food. Do they have any children? Maybe she's busy taking care of the kid(s) because his sorry @$$ is out there, having text sex with any girl he meets.
2006-09-08 08:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no business messing around with another girl's bf, period. It is none of your business what goes on in thier relationship, nor is it your job to fix any such problems. All of the explanations you listed are rationalizations of your guilt. Obviously, you have a problem with this or you wouldnt be asking for abdication from total strangers over the internet. Youre a bad person, in a bad situation, and if you have any self worth you would get out now.
Besides, why do you want to sell yourself short to be with such a shady guy. If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you. There is not a female alive that should be wasting time with this chump.
2006-09-08 08:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by cintishoegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's lying to you. He's lying to his girlfriend. He doesn't respect either of you. You say you have the same morals. Would you cheat on your boyfriend if you had one? Because what I am getting is that he has no morals. He's obviously not happy with his girlfriend if he is talking to you so much but you really don't know a person if you are just talking to them. So how can you say you love him. Do you really want to be with someone who you know cheats on his girlfriends. Cause even if he decides to leave his present girlfriend and be with you he's going to end up cheating on you as well. Cheaters are hard to change and trust. Good luck. Oh and your not a b***h, you're just a sl*t if you continue with this guy knowing he has a girlfriend.
2006-09-08 08:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off....Can you really say for sure that this girl is really like this? Men will tell a woman just about anything to get laid. And honestly if he is cheating on her with you, what makes you think he won't cheat on you? If things are so bad for him he would leave her. If you want to hang on to someone who cheats on his girlfriend then go ahead..but my advice to you is to dump him. Do you really think he's not having sex with her? Come on! I did the same thing many years ago and all I ended up with is a broken heart....and a lesson learned.
You are not a b tch but you will be very stupid if you continue on with this.
2006-09-08 08:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Smoops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not necessarily a *****. But if she is that terrible and he hasn't left her after 9 years, what makes you think he will? Maybe he is just looking for a little lovin' on the side. It's just like dating a married man. They will tell you they love you, buy you nice things, etc, but not leave the woman they say they don't love and don't get along with. Been there, done that. I speak from experience. SOMETHING is making him stay.
2006-09-08 08:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jennylee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a ***** but you hardly know this guy you and you don't know his girlfriend you only know what he has told you about her so yes I think you should leave him alone he's basically cheating on her with you so what makes you think that he won't do the same to you this guy could be the one causing all the problems and his relationship not his girl he could be telling you all that stuff to get you to feel sorry for him so wise up don't fall for his bull
2006-09-08 08:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone that has been there. Leave him. He will do it to you to later on believe me. I dont think you are a ***** cause you didnt know. Not your fault unless you didnt ask. Leave him alone he's not worth it. But I will say this that if you are really wanting to be with him. You need to let him know that he HAS to end the relationship that he is in now before coming to you becuase its not fair to either of you.
Good Luck
2006-09-08 08:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by ga_peach207 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not a *****. You need to be sure he really loves you. You have never even seen this man before. you need to be careful. This man could be very happy at home and just stringing you along. How did you find him anyhow? I think you need to move on and find a real man, one you can touch while you are making love to him. And always remember. Once a cheat always a cheat. Hope you find what you are looking for.
2006-09-08 08:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by anne04char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is willing to leave her (doubt it) yes, you need to leave him alone. THIS is why you shouldnt get involved with people that are already in a relationship. Not to mention you have a phone relationship with this man...for all you know he has been lying through his teeth about this woman. I mean really if she is as bad as he says....WHY THE HELL IS HE STILL WITH HER? Get on the clue bus; find you your own AVAILABLE man, and stop being a potential b*tch!
2006-09-08 08:25:48 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋