I'm in a long distance relationship with this guy i met online and who i've been with for about a couple months. I mean i love him but sometimes the distance thing gets to me since we hardly get to see each other. But my problem is that last night we had our first real arguement and he got mad at me and i just keep wishing that when he calls me today he tells me that he doesn't want to continue on with this relationship even though i love him to death and would be heartbroken if he were to leave me. Is this normal to hope your boyfriend leaves you because you are just stressed out with him but love him at the same time?
2006-09-08 08:05:37 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No... end it yourself and save yourself the heartbreak. You will still be sad, but not as sad as if he does it to you.
2006-09-08 08:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is bad news when u reach this level .. i dont think its love anymore but it might be that u like him but there are things coz of which u think that it wont work in long run .. i dont know about others but i have been thru it .. and i know what u are talking about .. even though u feel that it wont work out and are stressed about it, u dont want to be the bad person to initiate the breakup and u just keep hoping that the other person is going to do it .. its ok to wait for some time but i would recommend that u dont wait too long .. coz its going to become worse .. have an open discussion with him and tell him that the reasons why u feel that it wont work .. being together for couple of months is not a long time and its better to put everything on the table .. its better to have few days of misery than to keep prolonging it for ever ... good luck!
2006-09-08 15:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by outdoor2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a real relationship if you hardly ever get to see each other, no matter how much you care for each other. If you are having this much doubt this early on, you should consider taking some time away from the relationship. It doesn't sound like you are happy, it's your gut telling you that this situation is not right for you. Listen to it, and find someone who you can have full time in person, not just online.
2006-09-08 15:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by sugarcakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is totally normal.
You want him to be the one to brake it off so you don't feel so guilty, you want the fault to be on him and not you. Long distance relationships don't work because stressing out about what he's doing and who he is with and is he going to call me and all that makes you wish that both go your own way and that you can find someone closer that you can go to when you need that loving.
If you hardly see him, you can't call it love. Is more like comfortably together. Check your feeling right and know your self and what you really want.
2006-09-08 15:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to break up with him - you break up with him. Tell him the long distance relationship isn't working for you and you cannot go on like this. You are the one who wants out of this relationship take the necessary steps and do so now - call him and tell him what you are telling people here and don't get involved in another long distance relationship.
2006-09-08 15:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance rel. are always tricky. You tend to fall in love with a dream, since you really don't know the guy. Sometimes is hard to know someone even in person, let alone just by typing with him.
One would tend to fill in the blanks in one's mind to see what you want to see to make it seem even better.
Long, long time ago, they used to call this "pen palls." Not boyfriends. Don't fall in love with a dream it will sometimes will disappoint you tremendously and break your heart to little pieces. So maybe this is a blessing in disguise what happened to you two, so try to let go.
2006-09-08 15:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes honey its normal...cause ur wishin that he will go because u know u dont want any problems in this relation but honey why this wish???? every couple have or had a fight...well, havin a fight doesnt mean theres a problem ...most of the times its just misunderstandin...so no need 4 this wish and also in any relation u learn how 2 4give ur love....4give him and give him another chance and start over with him cause honey u love him till death u wont let such a misunderstandin cause that wish or make u apart....and leavin ur love and break up with him will cause some damages in ur heart cause believe me i tried that and that really HURTS!!!!!!!
2006-09-08 15:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by yasmeen q* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is normal, when you are dealing with a long distance relationship. I would say discuss it with him and then maybe the both of you could come to an agreement.
2006-09-08 15:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say you love him like that after 2months. This is a long distance relationship. Come on a couple of months.......
2006-09-08 15:08:44 · answer #9 · answered by V C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight and arguments are always going to be there... but if you guys love each other then you should work it out... Its normal to feel that way, but ask youorself this.. How would you feel without him?... If you love him so much you wouldn't want to lose him.. tell him how you feel and I hope everything works out for you.
Good Luck,
Miss Lucky
2006-09-08 15:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sometimes it is because that way you dont have to stress yourself out about whether, he's going to break your heart or the other way around.
2006-09-08 15:13:15 · answer #11 · answered by Gina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋