He is 16 years older than me, he is in 38 and i'm 22. we both really love each other, and we wanna marry. but my parents are strongly disagree because of his age. they tell me that if i marry him, they'll forget me and don't want me as their girl anymore. please help me. i neither want to lose my parents, nor my love.
please give me some advice.
and i'm sorry for my english.
2006-09-08 07:55:52 · 9 answers · asked by Christina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's your choice but I would get married. Your parents love you and always will no matter who you marry. Maybe if they spent some time with him they could feel better about this. I can understand their apprehension but they need to respect your wishes to. I would have them all over for dinner if I were you let them all get to know each other and maybe that will help to ease the tension once your parents see he's a good man and truly loves you... If he won't agree to meeting with your parents then how much does he love you? and visa versa??
2006-09-08 08:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you'll never lose your parents no matter what BS or drama they give you. You're their flesh and blood.
Second, the relationship is between you and him, not your parents.
Heck I'm 35 yo divorced man. I would love a person in their 20's because I act like I am. If you two have that connection, then what is really the problem?
2006-09-08 14:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are your parents' child. They will never forget you. They will always care about you. Just because you want to marry the man of your dreams doesn't mean that you are going to lose your parents. Your parents should not disagree of your marrying this man because of his age. Age, height, weight, race, skin color, and job status has absolutely nothing to do with being with the man of your ultimate dreams. If you love this guy with all your heart, mind, body, and soul, then marry him.
2006-09-08 15:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by Louise Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes you must make decisions on what you want in life. Parents opinions don't matter when you are in control of what you will do with your life. Besides parents will eventually forgive far faster then anyone else especially when they realize they made a mistake. Just make sure you are in love with him and he is in love with you before making a decision.
2006-09-08 15:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Your parents are always going to be there and will always love you. True love rarely comes around. You have to live your life for yourself and not through them. They make their own decisions and you are an adult too and can make your own decisions. If they want to choose not to be around you b/c of who you want to be with, then that is their decision. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY! They are the ones that are willing to just let you go b/c of this. If they love you then they may not always agree with your decisions, but will always be there for you reguardless.
2006-09-08 15:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by bnelly05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I have advice only in the matter of age.. my answer will be positive. Yes a girl needs father .elder man may fulfil this pont.
But you have to think about his health,mentality,economical potentiality and also the depth of his love on you.
2006-09-08 15:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by chittoor .yes.Murugeshan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he loves you and if you know him fully well, and if both of you are earning, go ahead. Parents will protest initially and after some time, come your way, if both of you live happily and amicably.
Best of Luck.
2006-09-08 15:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Electric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you have to realize is that you are grown and you can not live your life for no one else but you do what makes you happy. as for your parents if they truley love you and I hope they do then they should want to see you happy and if being with him makes you happy then they should see that. all parents want what's best for there kids and that is so true but if you are making a mistake then you have to learn that for your self
2006-09-08 15:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age don't matter as long as you both love each other....I'm 15 years older than my wife and her parents are 13 years apart,,have your parents met him?
2006-09-08 15:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by darkluke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋