If you had a parent that you have never been close to, due to separation, divorce, moving, whatever; would you invite them to your wedding?
Not to change what they did or the reasons for lack of the mutual communication, but to allow them the chance to be a part of your special day. (unless that person did something totally unforgivable or is dangerous)
2006-09-08 07:54:32 · 25 answers · asked by glorymomof3 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I was referring to my father whom I have met only twice in my life, when i was like 11 or so and when my 2 nd son was born i went to his mothers funeral. I have tried to talk to him, find him and what not and I think I finally found him, but I am not sure if I want him to come. I lost my mom about 4 years ago to Cancer, so I have no parents to be there for me- I thought by having him it would be nice. (unless he didnt want to come). I thought I would invite him nonetheless to show him that i am still wanting to get to nkow him and the rest of the family- even though I am 30 now with 3 kids of my own.
2006-09-08 09:05:30 · update #1
If they didn't do anything bad to you, I would invite them. It may be a chance to get closer.
Worse case scenario, you invite them, they don't come. At least you know that you tried.
2006-09-08 07:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by Toga748 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for the loss of your mom... and I'm sorry that you don't have a close relationship with your dad. My opinion would be to not invite him. What if he didn't want to go? Wouldn't that make you feel bad? And then if he didn't show up? That would make you sad on your wedding day. And then if there was some kind of family "drama" that came along with him attending the wedding - that could be cause for disaster at your wedding as well.
I would say that, although you want to have a parent there, you may have a better day and more piece of mind if you do not invite him. Perhaps send him a letter or card letting him know that you were married and that you would like to see him sometime soon. Arrange for a nice private meeting so it doesn't cause much drama.
2006-09-08 16:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if I have met my parent and not spoke to him/her for years, it would be a good time to let my parent know that hey I'm getting married and invite them. It would be up to him/her to want to come or not. But if that person had done something unforgivable, I wouldn't bother to invite them. Your wedding day should be the most happiest day in your life. Don't ruin it by inviting people you dont like or feel comfortable with. Share your day with the ones you love and care about.
2006-09-08 17:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Sure, maybe they may have made more effort in cultivating a better relationship with you but while you can't change the past, you can the future. By inviting them to your wedding, you're in effect telling that person that you still would like them to be part of your life.
2006-09-08 15:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I wasn't close to them I would invite them. If they had done something totally unforgivable or dangerous I would not have them near me or anyone else. But it is a time of celebration. Invite your parents. You may not even see them during the entire time, you will be very busy with everything else you have to do.
2006-09-08 14:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here i will tell you something i have a dad that i have never meet and i am 21 years old and i am getting married november11th of this year and i did not invite my reall dad to my wedding i invited my grandfather but not my dad!!!!That is up to you to make that disichen!!!!! See the way i see it is that i tryed to talk to him and to meeet him when i was 18 to 19 years old and he did not make any effert so why should i give him the invite to my wedding when he dose not even know me!!!!!!!
2006-09-08 15:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by S W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, it all depends on what emotions you have for your dad/mom.... do you think you would have a good time if they would to show up? would you be comfortable enough to be happy on your special day? or would it be too weird for you?
IF you wouldnt really care then it might be ok to invite? i know a lot of people that have similar situations as you and perfer not to invite...other do? decide on something your comfortable with concidering every feeling you have towards them & what you want good luck
2006-09-08 15:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by CALI GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad left my mom a year before my wedding and it is still a sore spot now. i have been married for 2 years. it was the week before my wedding that i invited him and a day before that i asked him to walk me down the isle. in ten years would you reget it? ask yourself that.
2006-09-08 16:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless they did something horrible that affected you in some way, I would still invite them cause they're still my parent.
2006-09-08 15:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on really bad terms with my mother and we're having our wedding away, but she is not invited to my reception.
2006-09-08 15:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋