I'm 27. My current relationship (of a year and a half) is the first serious one for my girlfriend. She is responsible and typical for being a 24 yr old. Out in public she gets stuff done and acts her age, but the problem is in private. Last night she left a message on my parents answering machine (i am visiting them) using baby talk. I was super embarassed. On the phone it seems when we talk it is about nothing real-just her baby talking how she misses me and loves me. Before I thought it was just private bf/gf stuff-but recently she is crossing it over to public life. I feel like she is acting like a 14yr old who gets her first bf in HS. If I say anything she thinks I am mean and don't feel the same. It's a bit ridiculous and I'm tiring of it. I love that she cares so much but I have never dealt with this before and am not sure what I should do? Any advice? Is this something to break up over? Opinions please!
2006-09-08 07:51:07 · 21 answers · asked by 46&2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she is in love. Are you?
2006-09-08 07:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by johnnylakis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well look at it this way at least she's showing you she cares and loves you, some of us don't get that very often. But on the other hand it is a bit out of hand when she's acting that way in the public eye and in front of family. You really need to sit her down and start the conversation out with how much you care and love her and all that good stuff, but then let her know exactly how you feel, she may get upset or mad and think things, but let her....remind her how you feel don't let her say you don't feel the same. Just tell her that's stuff you need to keep behind closed doors. It's nothing to break up over, but if you talk to her and she gets mad and calls it quits and leaves then let her do that, once she realizes you're not running after her and falling for her sympathy 'act' i can almost guarantee she'll be the one to come right back, but when she does you must remind her that what the circumstances are. Also when you talk to her, she may take it better than you think!!
2006-09-08 08:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I can't stand that baby talk sh*t! It irritate the hell out me. Honey I feel for you! If it were me, I would take my partner into a private room and tell that person in a nice way the 1st time . But if it continued, I would have to let them know, under no circumstances are they to work my nerves with that baby talk crap. See then I would have to get nasty!
I'm not about that at all!
I have a gay friend that does that with her mate. I just want to throw up! It does not take all of that to show affection! Especially from people who are suppose to be grown-ups! OK I gotta stop writing about this now because I'm actually getting ill.
YES-----Take care of that issue!
2006-09-08 08:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm... I know this is cliche... but talk to her about it. Give her one specific moment where it is not appropriate and explain to her when you feel it's appropriate (the baby talk). But honestly, I don't think its a deal breaker, unless there are other issues. If she doesn't stop ask again and tell her that it makes you uncomfortable, she should understand. She'll probably be a little embarrassed, but then again she should also be a little embarrassed to have strangers hear that kind of private talk. - Good Luck!
2006-09-08 07:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, I hate that ****. But, I love that **** too. Its nothing to break up over. She is just showing her affection. But, It also sounds like she is crossing the line. So, tell her to either cut it down or you will be forced to get angry. Then, she will probably stop doing it all together and you'll miss it. See if you two can find a happy medium. Hope this helps.
2006-09-08 07:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not something to break up over unless she can't stop. Be honest and tell her that you love her but baby talk is TOTALLY not your thing...it is possible she learned this from a previous relationship, which is a great reason to stop! If she acts like you don't care because you don't like her "act", then she has deeper issues to deal with and you don't need to be there to help her.
2006-09-08 07:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is something that you should break up over because you guys have been dating for a while. I would try reverse psychology on her and see if it works. And if it doesn't just let her know how you feel tell her you like it when she talks like that but that she's got to keep it to a minimum or just when you guys are in bed or something..
2006-09-08 07:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for some serious talk between the two of you with an older wiser person in attendance to explain what it is you are talking about. All humans are different and different backgrounds, etc shape behavior, yaddah. If you can't quite figure things out then welcome to the real world. Don't be a quitter; work this out with her.
2006-09-08 07:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prop her up against a tree with an apple on her head.
Tell her that if she doesn't promise to stop this bull$hit then you are going to aim the bow and arrow at her face rather than at the apple.
2006-09-08 08:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have to determine if you really love her or if you need to let this go///// and well GET A ANSWERING MACHINE or phone line of your own....most people go with cell phones to avoid problems like that you mentioned
2006-09-08 07:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To quote Prodigy: "Sm@ck my B*tch Up!"
No, she clearly has relationship maturity issues. You need to talk to her that you think the bahvior is OK in private but that in public it is perceived very negatively...
2006-09-08 07:56:56 · answer #11 · answered by Cabhammer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋