what would u do IF YOUR SISTER ASKED YOU TO QUIT YOUR JOB?????

Question

heres the situation. I moved back in w/ my mom and sis. Im older than this particular sister. she has a lil boy and so do i. I been going to school since jan. I took the summer off to get a job and i finally got a job @ the end of summer. My move w/ them was suppose to have been temporary but its been a year now. My mom has noproblems w/ me staying w. them. My sister really doesnt either except that moneys a lil' tight. I help when i can. My mom makes less $ than my sis but she pays like all the bills.

she already has a full time job (she went to school to be a (m.a.). I just got this job like a month and a half ago. My mom is leaving for 2 months so i am the only one that can babysit her son during the weekend. she has a bit of problem w/ the granparents. they already pick up her son from daycare everyday. So they watch him for like 2-3 hours till she gets home from work. I really don't know what to do. Shes calling me selfish. Im so conflicted. You yahoo answers people have helped me out before. We both help each other out but she has me stressed. Im trying to understand her but i have to do for me and my son too. HELP PLEASE.

Answer 1

You're not being selfish, you're looking out for yourself and your son. So If you're being anything I'd say it's being a good parent. It makes absolutely no sense for you to quit your job to watch her child. That is only creating less money for the household to function on. I'd tell her straight up. "I'm working to put food on the table, you're working to go to school. Which is more important?" If she has a problem with someone watching her child while she works a side job to pay for school, then SHE needs to make arrangements for the child's care or quit HER job. Unless of course she's willing to pay you your normal wages to watch the child.

Answer 2

Are you contributing to the rent/util/food? If you're contributing regularly, I think you should be able to make your own decisions. If not (which I think you stated), than you are kinda at a disadvantage. If you're only working to support yourself, than that can be construed at selfish. But at the same time, you are trying to contribute. Perhaps, though, babysitting your nephew/niece might be a better contribution.

Obviously you two are both adults, so I think you two (maybe include your mom) need to sit down and talk about what is expected of everyone in the household. If you have your own bills (car,cell, tuition, etc) to pay, working less is obviously going to hurt you a lot. Your sister needs to realize that cutting your hours might not be possible at all.

Answer 3

is this in a relatives abode or do you 2 proportion. You the two use the dishes why won't be able to you the two wash them. OR Use paper and plastic, then you definitely'll merely have pots and pans. Wait until the day you have a husband, toddlers, and paintings finished time just to return abode and put in yet another 40 hours. I even have in no way had a husband wash a unmarried dish and that they take greater time than a new child. you haven't any longer have been given any precise to ask her to end her interest because you're inconvenienced. shame on you.

Answer 4

I guess I don't understand where the full problem is. Do you watch each other's kids? Is that why it matters that each of your jobs "conflicts"? I'd say keep your job. She can learn to skimp on what she's already making, find a different hour 2nd job, or learn to deal with the fact that your jobs conflict (maybe find a teenage babysitter for the conflicting weekend hours). ....Maybe she's hoping if you can't pay that you won't live there anymore. :(

Answer 5

You have great answers with your question. For me, you should not quit your job. Both of you have needs. Especially that you both have kids. You both help out each other so she has no right to call you selfish. Besides it is your job, responsibilities to take care of your son's needs not hers. And your not oblige to look after her kids too. But you could always lend a hand whenever you can. Right? If you quit, soon she will realize that you & your son will be a burden for her. And she will say something mean to you. So don't let this happen. Stay with your job. Help out whenever you can. But don't feel obligated to her own needs.

Answer 6

Help when you can, but don't change your life to accommodate your sister. I would not quit just b/c she wants you to. You have to provide for yourself and your boy. Sounds like you are helping out as often as you can, so keep up the good work.

I wouldn't call you selfish. You have to watch out for you and your son. That is not selfish. Does she pay you the weekends that you watch him?? She needs to realize that she isn't the only one with a son, and a career.

Answer 7

hello, if i where u i WOULDNOT quit my job. i am in your position just a bit. i work full time, go to school part time, & i have 2 children. under 3. i work around them YES it is VERY hard but its worth it at the end of the week. I PROMISE. i pay my mom for watching my kids its not much but she sees that i am trying so thats what matters to her. i buy all the groc. & i pay her water bill. then i pay my bills. its hard but you can do it if you put your mind to it. I DID.. i hope that this works for you. my childrens father does not help me at all so i have the responsability all by my self.

Answer 8

if she is willing to work 2 jobs and wait for her own schooling maybe she should have her wishes met what about a family meeting with everyone when do you graduate and when you graduate are you going to stay and help your sister to get through her schooling

Answer 9

Fine, if she pays unemployment for 3 years

Answer 10

I think you should put your own best interests above hers. Work if thats what you want to do. Think about yourself girl.