If a person has been ultra nice to you and likes to do nice things for you, but they are under the pretense they are trying to get into a relationship, how can nicely tell them you aren't interested in them that why, but you want them to continue to be your friend.....
2006-09-08 07:34:23 · 27 answers · asked by zeta121 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take it from someone who heard it all...you can either give them a straight answer or flub the truth a little bit:
Truth - Just tell them that even though they are a great person to be around, that you don't feel that sort of connection with them.
Flub - You just are not in the mood or have the energy to be active in a romantic relationship; hope they understand.
2006-09-08 07:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For God's sake, DO NOT drop the "we can still be friends" line on him. EVERY guy's first reaction to that is, "Oh, well **** you if I ain't good enough for you!"
Try to avoid the issue as long as possible; it may just be sort of a "phase" he's going through. If you don't lead him on, or if you maybe talk to him about some other guy you're interested in, he should get the hint. If he doesn't, and he ends up cornering you on the issue, then just be honest with him, that you love his company but just aren't drawn to him in that way.
It sucks big-time for him (I've been in this exact situation), but there is slim chance it can end without him getting at least a little hurt. Face it; he wants you and is hoping you want him too. It won't be until he gets the unmistakable message that you don't want him that he'll realize he can't have you. Of course it's going to hurt.
2006-09-08 14:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lawn Jockey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you consider this person a friend you shouldn't tell them anything that might really upset them. Just tell them that you aren't look for a relationship. And you might want to limit the amount of time you spend with person and the number of gifts or favor you let them do for you. Basically don't lead them on. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
2006-09-08 14:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by L'teefaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth that your not intersted in a relationship with them and you feel your better off being friends and you dont wont to lose them as a friend because of this. They should understand if they really care about you.
2006-09-08 14:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. Look long and hard at your rational for not being straight forward with this person. Are you reluctant because you are afraid the nice things will stop when the other person realizes you are using them?
2006-09-08 14:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by movedtoMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been here before...just tell them politely that you are not interested in any relationship at the moment, because you have just come out of one, and would much rather not hurt any ones feelings, by being on the rebound.
2006-09-08 14:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Just tell them. It's better to hurt for a few mintues than to be led along and really get hurt for a long time. Listen to your heart, it'll tell you what you have to do.
2006-09-08 14:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not interested in him sexually or romantically and state your friendship means more from him right now. Your just not on that level.
2006-09-08 14:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with them and say that you value their friendship very much but do not want to be romantically involved with them. If your friendship is important to this person they will respect your honesty and will remain your friend.
2006-09-08 14:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest...tell them that they are a wonderful person and you deeply value the friendship...but that you're not looking for a relationship at this time
2006-09-08 14:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋