Was going with a girl for a month then, getting on fine, then a few days ago didn't meet her as promised after the pub. I did eventually turn up and she was wasted and left me alone while going off with a mate and two guys. Now she's back in touch, saying it was the drugs which made her act like that and all regretful. Thing is, if I had turned up it wouldn't have happened, although it was undoubtedly a **** thing to do. I like her, what do I do?
2006-09-08 07:33:19 · 45 answers · asked by micktravis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not worth it. Don't make up with her. She's trouble.
2006-09-08 07:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by poohbaby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh please, if you had only known her for a month. I give it a drop her. You may have feelings for the girl but listen if she does drugs she will do it again and it will be more of an issue than it is now. Don't feel regret, do not feel tied to this girl. She seems not worth it. Listen she also sounds like some one you might regret when you back on your life... there should be no regrets in life. But again, I am just a random person and do not know your complete situation. I believe you will make the right choice, for you. Good Luck.
2006-09-08 07:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by Yes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u like her, but is she willing 2 stay with u n dont do the same thing. does the stuff that she do turn u off, if it does then dont think of her. will she last with u? do u like 2 do the same as she does? think for urself n dont give 2nd chances. same person same heart. same meat, same smell. when some1 think they r still in love with u they call u again n ask for forgiveness, but they will not change. my girl-frend has a boy frend n he act the same way, jux that he doesnt do drugs, he jux ignore her n leave her hanging. then @ the end he come back around but that makes u feel good cuz u r not the 1 that make the mistake.
2006-09-08 07:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by kAnDy_69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you DOn't need to make up with her.
You didn't do anything wrong. Taking drugs and wasted with 2 guys worst than No showing up.
Dude. I can say now is the turning point of this relationship. It ALL DEPENDs on your choice/ path.
Path1 ----> You should not contact her and ignore her. She will contact you since she feel gulity wasted with 2 guys. If she come beg you, you show a bit indifference but still take her back. From now on. YOU will be GOOD. You will have upperhand in this relaitonship. She will love you more you love her. REMEMBER, the key word here - INDIFFERENCE. You need to show that! It will make her worry losing you if she likes you
Path 2---> You go to beg her to forgive you. Of course, she will forgive you (because you didn't really do anything wong. PLus, this indirectly mean she doesn't even need to say sorry of wasted with 2 guys). HOWEVER, you WILL SEE she lose respect on you fast. She will not respect u more and more. Because subconsiously she will take u treate her good as granted. Don't you see this? You will be the underdog in this relationship from now on. YOU WILL BE THE ONE who always waiting for her phone call and asking 'why u don't call me today?'
PLEASE choise path 1.
GOOD LUCK!! The choice is clear.
2006-09-08 07:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by City hunter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never understand why when a person did something wrong they blame it on something else instead of blaming themselves for their actions..... She blames on the drug but why is she taking it in the first place? Shouldn't she think with her head instead with her heart? I think you shouldn't go back with her .. All she is bringing is trouble and making your headache bop again.. Wouldn't you worry if the next time your late again due to traffic or work, she will blame on the alcohol when you catch her sleeping with another guy??
2006-09-08 07:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't blame yourself for what this girl did - i think she was gonna get with someone else behind your back, even if you were there (maybe not that particular night...but the fact that she was getting with other guys while you weren't there lets you know that she has been looking elsewhere and might cheat on you in the future). i don't buy the drugs story - drugs or no drugs she was gonna cheat on you. plus, if the girl's doing drugs, who's to say she wont do them again and have this whole situation all over again? you dont want to get wrapped up in a girl who wants to keep on doing drugs. dump her.
2006-09-08 07:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no way get rid mate imagine 6 months down the line what she will be like if she is like this now after 4 weeks
2006-09-08 07:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Matthew B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should, this is one incident and she said sorry. Just in future, make sure you do meet up with her to make sure nothing like this happens again.
You should try and get her some help with her drugs problem though, to prevent this happening. Tell her she has to try hard to stop using them if she wants you to get back with her.
2006-09-08 07:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah listen to these other fools saying stay with her. NOT!
Why would you wanns be with anyone doing drugs and drinking, then leaving with 2 other guys. Yeah dude she sounds like a prize (sarcasm). Move on find another woman. It's obvious you can do better than her
2006-09-08 07:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Help her get off the drugs and booze. Your pitching up late was no excuse for her to go with other guys.
2006-09-08 08:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, this girl is not worth messing around with, itll just cause heartbreak. Its only been a month and there are probs already. Leave alone and move on to greener pastures
2006-09-08 07:51:48 · answer #11 · answered by Liane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋