I just made a new a female friend that I'm setting up to be a friend with benifts, I tell her all the time that I don't want a relationship and she tells me also she isn't looking to get into anything either. I thought we were clear on that, we BOTH agree that the sex is gonna be really great but she wants to take a little more time to get to know me better b4 we get down to buisness. I'm worried that she is starting to get the idea that there is room for more than just a physical relationship. She's told her mom about me, and is talking about next summer. What do I do to assure I don't end up hurting her feellings or causing her to get fatal attraction on me? Like I said, I remind her all the time that "it so great that we can be friends with no expectations" or something like "oh yea, well the fact that you just got out of a long relationship is refreshing to me, cause I know we don't have to worry about all that relationship stuff".. somehow I don't think it's working..PLEASE ADVISE
2006-09-08 07:27:50 · 12 answers · asked by insomnia1169 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let her go - she is building a relationship & looking for more than "benefits". She is going to ger her feelings hurt if ya'll go any further. Walk away now, because she isn't going to make it easy on you if you go to bed together. Find someone else who has a very clear picture of what you want & will not give you an emotional problem, this girl isn't the one. Sorry.
2006-09-08 07:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to be on a different wave length. Before you get busy have a straigh talk with her, don't mince words. Say what you need to say and tell her that you are not interested in a relationship and if she can't hand a just physical relationship then she should not partake in it.
2006-09-08 07:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buddies with benifits may well be a sturdy sexual launch for the two events. basically basically verify you the two be attentive to that its all its going to be. for me, i tend to stray removed from that variety of undertaking because of the fact notably much constantly one or the different develops thoughts for the different individual, which finally ends up in harm. yet, as long as you adult males dont develope thoughts for one yet another then it is going to be nice... and the type of 'friendship' shouldnt final if one or the different could obtain a bf/gf...
2016-10-14 11:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a woman, let her go and find a new FWB. You've already noticed from the way she talks what's up. If you continue, things may go well for a minute, but then they will take a turn.
2006-09-08 07:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just gave yourself the advise if you would just reread what you just asked everyone to answer. If you don't think it will work out then you are able to walk away without any ties.
2006-09-08 07:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want her to get the wrong idea, then dont sleep with her. Even if you tell her your not interested she might still get attached if you do.
2006-09-08 07:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by zooba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right it's not working, she is setting YOU up to be the boyfriend! She's denying it because she doesn't want to scare you away.
Be strong, brotha!
2006-09-08 07:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to be subtle saying things to her....Some people just don't get it.....You NEED to come out and say remember were gonna be f u c k buddies and NOTHING else right????
2006-09-08 07:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Karen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most women aren't good as FWB...those who are sleep around a lot.
once you find a girl that's ok for friends w/ benefits, make sure you wear a condom!
2006-09-08 07:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by silver butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is already attached. Tread lightly...I think if you went THERE, you might get more than you bargained for.
2006-09-08 07:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋