Where to drawn the line when it comes to cheating....?

Question

Okay everyone. Everyone knows that if you have a boy/girlfriend or a husband/wife and you have sex with someone else, that is considered cheating. But, in today's world, there are so many steps we all go through when it comes to relationships. So, my question is, where is your 'cheating line'?

For example, if someone is going through the steps of divorce and they have sex with someone else, is this considered cheating? if someone is taking 'a break' from a relationship, would you call this cheating? If someone kisses another person, is this cheating?

Where do you draw the line?

Answer 1

when your planning on meeting someone other than your spouse, your cheating....if your exchanging bodily fluids...your really cheating!!!

Answer 2

If the divorce is in court, and pending, then a sexual encounter is not cheating, for there is no relationship on which to cheat.

If someone is "taking a break" from a relationship, doesn't this mean there is no relationship to cheat on? If taking a break means simply a physical one, a vacation, a trip, or just to think, then, yes, it would be cheating, since there is the anticipation of getting back together.

Kissing is not necessarily cheating. it's not a good idea, it is an intimate contact with a person of the opposite sex, but can have many connotations. If the kissing leads to more,, is a french kiss, and more than just a peck then, I'd consider it cheating.

Answer 3

My boyfriend and I have a somewhat open relationship to where we can do things such as make out with other people, but any more than that and we have to be around each other. (i.e. if he wanted another girl to suck him, I would be watching/in the same room). We have no secrets, but cheating would be him or I breaking the rules we have set for our relationship. Since everyone is different, most people will tell you anything with other people is cheating. Some people might feel the way I do.

Him and I are not married, but if the time comes, we'll probably stop certain behavior once children come into the picture, then we would wind up with societies normal standard of what cheating is...

Yes, I know, it sounds perverted, but that's our life and that's how we feel about sex. Don't judge other people's lives just because its not something you like...

Answer 4

As for the divorce, if you're in the process of a divorce, I say that you're effectively divorced. What is the other person going to do? Divorce you more? It's like when your on your last day at work, you slack off, because what are they going to do, fire you?

If you're in a relationship, and you take a break, then you're still in the relationship and anything that is considered cheating while you're not on break is considered cheating while you're on break also. Again, back to the work analogy, taking office supplies home is stealing. If you're on vacation, and you come into the office and take office supplies, that is still stealing.

As to what exactly constitutes cheating, I think that each person gets to make the rules for their spouse. My wife and I have had a threesome with another girl, but not with another guy. Did I cheat? No, she said it was okay. If I ran out and started dating another girl and sleeping with her, would that be cheating? It's up to my wife. (She says yes, it would be cheating now. However, there was a time when her and I were dating that I was seeing other girls intimately, and she knew about it.)

Answer 5

Thats a tough one. If you're legal seperated and going thru a divorce and sleep with someone else it's not cheating. It may still hurt the other person though. Same with "taking a break". It's technically not cheating, it just hurts when someone can move on so quickly. You may feel like your relationship wasn't what you thought it was. I think kissing someone is cheating. I think having sexual online relationships is cheating. If you can't do it in front of your S.O. then you probably shouldn't be doing it.

Answer 6

I'd pretty much say, if my partner that was doing anything with someone else that was not me and without my consent, like for a 3some or other sex act, its all cheating. Taking a break is not cheating, but if you are flirting and trying to get to know someone else it is cheating, because you are technically still with me. Chatting online isn't cheating as long as you aren't setting up feelings for this other person and are desiring to meet. I go on the principle of the thing. As soon as my partner makes any intimate contact that takes away from our relationship he is blatantly cheating. Simple as that.

Answer 7

It really depends on each persons morals, values, conviction level, and what marriage/relationship between a man and a woman means to them.

In a Marriage:

For me its all cheating. There is no gray area for me, I have already decided that if I get married and my husband is unfaithful to me, is physically intimate with another woman I would leave him.

Kissing another person not in the relationship or marriage is cheating that is so unfaithful in my eyes.

If we were getting a divorce then I guess it would have been for him being unfaithful so if he did have sex again with another woman it would be on his conscious, and yes he would be cheating.

In a relationship:

Taking a break in a relationship is not a serious as in a marriage, so being broken up a person should be free to do what they please. Depending on how serious the relationship is, I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize the relationship.

But who am I, just a woman who would make any man the luckiest one out there!!

Answer 8

Thats easy, You should never do ANYTHING until EVERYTHING is COMPLETLY OVER....all paper work is done with divorce etc. There is not a such thing as "break from a relationship." Thats just an easy way for CHEATERS to get away with stuff. And if the kiss has meaning behind it, YES u are cheating, unless its your mother:) If u ever feel guilty or would consider wrong if your mate did it to you...then thats cheating.

Answer 9

If you are going through a divorce no I dont think that is cheating., if its just talking about divorce it is cheating if you dont live in the sme house then no. Taking a break I am not sure,I think I would feel cheated on . kissing someone else yes most definatly. becuase tht is a sexual reaction between you and someone else beside ur husband or wife.

Answer 10

i think it all depends on your relation ship if your in the process of divorce your probably not still really with your spouse so that shouldn't matter but i think kissing and anything further or even holding hands is cheating my dad cheated on my mom so its not a pretty thing. when your doing stuff if your thinking about kissing another guy then you shouldn't be with the guy your with. also what would you tolerate would you want your partanyr to kiss other people or do ne thing your going to be doing with someone else and if so then maybe you should think twice about what your doing. and if cheating is something you do maybe you should stay single and just date around Beckie it hurts less people that way.

Answer 11

If there is intent to commit the act then it is cheating. Everyone makes mistakes but if it happens more than once then you should be kicked to the curb. And I think (as far as being in a relationship is concerned, not separated or on a break) that if it goes as far as sex you only get that one chance not a second. You had all that time to realise what you were doing was wrong.