I dated a great guy about 8 months ago. He was sweet, caring, he would call me three times a day and it seemed as though we had a promising future. But just as things seemed like it couldn't be any better he ended the relationship saying that "he's busy now" and can't handle a relationship. I was heartbroken. Our relationship was only a month but it felt longer because we saw each other a lot in that short time. My problem is that I still think about him and I still have some feelings left for him. He's not helping me either because he still contacts me every now and then on msn so it feels like he stills has feelings for me too.
By the way, our relationship was beautiful and innocent. Very innocent, in fact we never went past kissing but he liked that I was pure.
Is it wrong and even crazy of me for still thinking about him and to miss him after all this time? and do you think he still has some feelings for me too?
2006-09-08 06:44:20 · 7 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps he really was busy and had to limit his relationship with you. However; I'm incline to believe that there might be someone else he's seeing or your relationship was too intense for him to handle it. His emailing you on MSN, is a way of emotionally keeping you on a leashe. Yes it hurts and you probably don't want to hear this, but the guy just isn't into you. Don't take it personally, but if you really care about someone, you'll make time for them. Just like he made efforts to contact you three times a day; he could have made an effort to contact you at least once a day; to say hey thinking about you.
Your next challenge is to let go and move on. Don't waste your time trying to figure out what happen, or even if you did something wrong. In essence; its the perfect time to improve on yourself for the next exciting and special person of your life. Trust me, I know what you are talking about because I'm in the same situation with a recent breakup. So far my challenge has been to meet other people for friendship first and perhaps something else special later if the chemistry is right for the both of us.
2006-09-08 06:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it isn't wrong or crazy for you to still be thinking about and missing him, especially if you haven't been in another relationship since then. As for how he feels about you... it's kind of hard to tell. At the very least he doesn't hate you, or he wouldn't contact you online at all. I would try talking to him more online. This will help both of you catch up on what the other's been up to. People can change in eight months. However, you should make sure that you're not coming on too hard. It scares someone away if you're always IMing them. At that point you'd be a nuisance to him, and he'd just want to get further away from you instead of closer.
If and when you become in contact more often, you might want to say, "Want to go to the movies tonight?" or something like that. Just be careful, because you might look desperate if you're asking him to a movie or something every weekend. It's okay once, maybe twice, but too many times without a response on the other end is going to make you look desperate. You need to make sure that he asks you to do something back before you ask him again so you know he's not just saying 'yes' to avoid hurting your feelings.
Not to give you false hope, but if he broke off the relationship only on the grounds that he's busy and can't handle a relationship, there may be a chance that he still has feelings for you and what he said was true. Or it could be something that he made up so it wasn't as hard on you. I don't know this person or his history at all, so I'll leave judging that to you.
Good luck!
2006-09-08 07:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mia C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely normal to have feelings for a guy you dated just 8 months ago. If you had a nice connection and shared the same interests and believes that's make you still think of him. Nothing wrong with that specially when you don't have another serious relationship after him. If you feel lonely and miss some of the fun you had together, your thoughts may rush back to the time you were with him.
Does he have feelings for you is another question. Nobody can answer this question except him. He may call now and then, but this doesn't mean his is in love. You never know his intentions, they may be pure, or who knows what.
I think that you two should talk more openly about your feelings.
Get together sometime and just talk and figure out what is going on. Don't just torture yourself with thoughts, let them out, share them with him. You never know - you may meant to be together.
2006-09-08 07:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by pipilota75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do we do this to ourselves? Sweet and caring is not enough. Are you looking for something serious or just someone to hang with? Make up your mind what it is you want and then go find it. As for this guy - he probably got scared because you two were seeing too much of each other. Next time he contacts you, come right out and ask him how he feels!! If he can't be open with you and truthfull, lose him!!
2006-09-08 06:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by busymomof4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
“Love is when you shed a tear and still want him, it's when he ignores you and you still love him, it's when he loves another girl but you still smile and say I'm happy for you, when all you really do is cry.”
2006-09-08 07:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that he didn't want some of your booty? This might be the reason that he's gone. Couldn't get some.
2006-09-08 06:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
never let that feeling go ...it's special ,but move on
2006-09-08 06:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by smiley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋