I really like him and we've been talking via msn since i've been back to my country, 3 weeks ago (he's in ireland and I'm in france). I was going to go back to university (I stopped last year after my bachelor's degree and i've been working) but I can stop there since I have skills and experience, I can't stop thinking about him and i'd love to go to Ireland. I know this is crazy and so early in the relationship but what would you do if you were me?
2006-09-08 06:41:18 · 26 answers · asked by Little Miss Vixen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you say that you really like this guy. But after only two dates, how much do you really know about him? Keep in mind that someone can portray themselves so differently online than in real life experience. My advice would be to take it slow and do not rush things. As far as stopping your education, it all depends on what your dream was that you were trying to achieve by going to university. Maybe it would be a better idea to finish your schooling, get to know this guy better to see what kind of person he is long term, and then think about putting the rest of your life together (either with him or without him-depending on how your courtship goes). There really is no rush as you have the whole rest of your life to make life changing decisions like moving in with someone. There are always risks involved in giving your heart to someone and I think it's better to be sure it is what you want first rather than realizing that it was a mistake to do it at all years down the road. Good luck and be thoughtful in how you go about everything concerning this situation.. :)
2006-09-08 07:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by shortydolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking back many years, I've known SIX ladies who moved to where the "love of their life" lived. Then they were dumped and/or abused, badly. Had to secretly leave the area when they got pregnant. One ended up in a shelter with her kids, turned out her husband or whatever he was was bi-polar. Don't be foolish. You don't really know this guy. Romance from a distance is all very well and good, but it won't keep you warm or put food on your table if you end up alone. And chances are that you will. If this is "true" love, it will wait for you to get acquainted via snail mail, e-mail, photos, etc. True love is a process; its not an all at once. When the romantic part fades, as it will, all you have left is your true selves. Think it over carefully and realistically, please, with YOUR future in mind. Don't let the fantasy of shamrocks, leprechauns, and a prince in the Emerald Isle lure you into doing something you may regret for the rest of your life. "Ever after" can hit you in the face just like a cement sidewalk!
2006-09-08 13:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No harm in checking it out, but don't move in with him yet.
You can afford, at this time, to put ed. on hold for a while.
Go visit, take a temp job, get a room/flat, and do some dating.
See what he's like over time. He could be the one, or he could be a player.
Don't do something you would regret later if it doesn't work out.
But if you drop everything and go, DO NOT make the mistake of moving in with him, and getting directly into a sexual relationship.
Allow the emotional/romantic relationship to develop , first.
2006-09-08 13:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit him a few more times (like 10!) before you make a decision like that. It isn't like you are moving across town or can go back to moms house, you are going to a completely different country! I feel that if you go now and it doesn't work out then you will regret it sooooo much. Weigh everything you would be giving up. This is a huge decision. Good luck!
2006-09-08 13:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try it and see what happens. You only live once. if it doesn't work out well at least you tried. Just imagine how you might feel in years to come if you were still wondering and regretting not acting when you had the chance. Better to try and fail than not try at all. And Ireland and France aren't that different nor that far apart.
2006-09-08 13:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by big pup in a small bath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if the relationship is in the early stages. It's too early to make such a big decision. Stop and think. Try taking turns visiting every month or more often if you can. Shouldn't rush into anything.
2006-09-08 13:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two days i would not be considering moving in with a guy let a lone moving to another country to do so think about it you can not KNOW this guy after two days this is not love it is lust. Keep chatting to each other and visit each other get to know each other better if you decide later to move than great but you have to take your time
2006-09-08 13:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd continue the long distance relationship for a while longer until you get to know him better. Anyone can put on an act for a few weeks or months. Take your time since it is a HUGE step.
2006-09-08 13:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could work on your degree in Ireland too. Have you talked to your family? What do they think? If you really like this guy, I say go for it. It sounds exciting! Good luck to you in whatever you decide.
2006-09-08 13:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by texashoney2466 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know. Can you go to school there? Would you have a future there in what you are taking in school. If the relationship ends or does not go well do you have an out or somewhere else to live?
Is there an option for him to come to you?
If it were me, I'd go.
2006-09-08 13:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋