.....If you've been with someone for 4 years, but you feel you are growing apart?
2006-09-08 06:36:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would try to talk things out and see what the problem is and I would see if there is anything I can do to save the relationship....and if nothing works....Break Up......There are plenty of fish in the sea! besides you are too pretty for that, Mel.=)
Jenny
2006-09-08 06:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nip it in the bud, RIGHT NOW. communicate. find out what the problem is. this is a Test...to show u how your relationship will be in the future, how hard both of u work on the situation, and how u deal with problems in general.
remember, both of you are in it Together. therefore, u have to be able to speak about anything and everything w/ ur partner, w/o fear of rejection or judgement. that means, u have to try not to judge him, and he has to try not to judge you. and that means, validating each others feelings. if u talk to him and say "we're growing apart, i'm sad", and he says "what are u talking about, whatever"...that kinda indicates that he doesn't listen to u, and won't try to fix things. if he says "why do u say that? i am so happy w/ you. what can i do to make u feel more sure" he is willing to do something, and communicate w/ you, and find a solution together. if he says "hmm, me too...... what does that mean?" well, i guess both of u are confused, but at least ur feelings are still Validated. that is really important.. acknowledging there is a problem and working on it from there. at least u can feel u've done what u could in order to fix it, and if it doesn't work, u'll know it's not because of your efforts, but more because u may be w/ the wrong person.
good luck, and remember, a relationship is two people: both of u deserve to find someone who will listen and communicate and be proactive, and GROW w/ each other. if u can't do that together, u have to find someone who will, and same for him.
2006-09-08 06:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either break up or start finding some way to help get you guys motivated again. Maybe you are just in a rut. Find new hobbies to do together to rebuild your bond. But if none of that works you can always break up knowing that you at least did all you could trying to fix the problem.
2006-09-08 06:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Relationships have thier natural ebbs and flows. Take a vacation or something together, to get away from the stress of daily life. Some quality time may do you good.
2006-09-08 06:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur growing apart and its not working out then why string the relationship along....
2006-09-08 06:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by lolli_pop69_2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u want to work it out, you need to be creative and make the sparks fly again.
if not, then i guess u can say your good byes and find some one else. dont forget that most relationships go through that and it takes two to make things work.
2006-09-08 06:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by casj2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
see where the problem is and try to work things out and if that doesnt work give so time toi think and have a break and things will come out clearly
2006-09-08 06:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't brake up just send some time without each other and if that feels better then it is time to leave each other or go on a trip with each other send all your time together and see what happens
2006-09-08 06:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by maira 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient and ride it out. Most relationships go through a "cold" period.
2006-09-08 06:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by Tee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
communication.
decide together if the relationship is still worth saving.
2006-09-09 04:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋