Ever since I started participating on Freewebs and got my own website there, my mom has been VERY overprotective of me. Whenever I talk to a friend on the IM, she comes up and asks me, "Who are you talking to?" Every single time!
When I had a spammer on my guestbook, I told my best friend, who told my mom, who told me not to visit my own guestbook because of the bad language. But it's my site, and I have to manage it! It's not like I was going to repeat any of those swearwords, not even in my mind. I told her that, but she still kept me from my own guestbook.
She is always on my case about Internet. I'm following a secret plan of mine to make her trust me, and I think it's working, but she still doesn't trust me very much. I'm turning 13 soon also and I don't want my teenage life to me like this! Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!
2006-09-08 06:26:25 · 14 answers · asked by shyviolet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I mean BE like this, not ME like this. Sorry, I'm a bad typer.
2006-09-08 06:27:15 · update #1
Don't worry. Many parents are like that but they eventually become less and less overprotective as you mature. Just try to take it and be patient. They know you'll have to be on your own someday so she'll eventually have to become less uptight.
2006-09-08 06:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom must have heard about bad Internet things from TV and the news. There really are some pervs out there that pretend to be someone else, meet the kid and harm them. She is trying to protect you from that sort of thing because she loves you. She's not trying to ruin your life. She would be devestated if anything happened to you. I applaud your mom for protecting you, some parents don't give a crap and their kids end up abused, which leads to using drugs and alcohol in order to escape the trauma they encountered. If you have nothing to hide, then it shouldn't be a problem if your mom is looking over your shoulder. Get out there and hang out with your friends, you shouldn't be stuck on the computer during all of your free time, you have lots of time to do that after you graduate and start working :)
2006-09-08 06:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I was raised in Mason City, Iowa from 5-12, I was not allowed to go to the mall since we live 10 blocks from it because it is a busy street. I don't wonder why. I think that you should write to the Dr. Phil Show. Its address is:
Dr. Phil show
5482 Wilshire Boulevard #1902
Los Angeles, CA 90036
Your parents need to "Get Real." This is what Dr. Phil said in the movie Scary Movie 4. Also why don't you go to www.drphil.com and search for overprotective moms. They have all of the info and advice on it.
2006-09-08 06:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by aaron_esq 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, to be fair, there are LOTS of predetors out there that prey on young girls. Esp if you post pics of yourself, and post where you go to school and whatnot pervs can track you down. And, at your age 12-13 you're also somewhat-naive. If a older guys woes someone your age they fall for them. Not saying your like that, i'm saying thats what happens.
Talk to your mom and tell her you need to some space to grow up and not feel over bearing by your mom. Tell her that the website is safe, you don't talk to strangers and your friends also lookout for you.
Assure her that its safe, tell her she can visit the site and look at the content (providing your not posting something lucid)
In other words, communicate with your mom...
2006-09-08 06:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by The First 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With so much offensive content on internet, parents are bound to be over protective. Why don't you take ur mom in confidence, let her freely surf along with you for a couple of days, am sure once she sees where all you surf...she will start trusting you. Secret plans never work...when they open...you tend to lose even more trust. You have every right to enjoy your teenage life...so don't let these trifle matters ruin that :-)
2006-09-08 06:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by CURIOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to be your mother nothing less. Why don't you ask her to read together your guest book, and talk about it, at least until your mother knows your reaction to the comments it will come. Even better limit the access to you guest book to people who you know. Don't let any unknown person read it. It's for your own protection, not only hers.
2006-09-08 06:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by myopinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear it, but you should feel lucky that your mother loves you enough to worry about you and protect you. Stop fighting it -- enjoy your childhood, you'll have MANY years to be an adult and trust me -- you will sorely miss these early years.
Go to your mother right now and say, "Thank you for loving me enough to care and protect me. Even though we disagree sometimes, I know you love me and I appreciate that." And also try to be patient with her.
2006-09-08 06:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by t_o_w_e_r_i_n_g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck, If I were your parent I would have totally shut you down! and your internet access severely restricted to age and maturity level as far a content goes.
You are a minor and your mother is responsible for you, your actions, inactions, web content, etc etc.
2006-09-08 06:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too over-protective,even in my book. Not letting you play a sport in school.. Or go to the mall..... She might as well put you in a plastic bubble and carry you around with a leash tied to her wrist...
2016-03-17 10:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother knows more about life and the sickos out there in this world then you do. Listen to her or you will get yourself into a world of trouble or even dead.
2006-09-08 06:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋