ok well this ex boyfrined of mine we went out for 4 to 5 months and we did everything together and i love him wiht all my heart but weve treated each other bad many times. he still calls and i do the same but i dont know im not sure if i should go back with him. i mean i love him but i have this new guy. this new guy is so sweet to me and hes so caring. i think i like him but im not sure. my boyfrined knows wuz up. he knows that i love my x and he still wants to be with me. and tomorrow i make a month with my guy. who should i go for. the one that i love or the one that i like?
2006-09-08 06:15:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you broke up for a reason. leave the ex be, and give the new guy a chance.
2006-09-08 06:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did the bad things you & the ex did to each other become acceptable? Do you really think that you can live with similar acts in the future? You broke up for a reason & the odds of you two changing your behavior toward each other are low. (your behavior may have changed while you two talk on the phone now, but it’s doubtful that the changes will last if you get back together.)
Also, after 4-5 months do you truly feel that you love him with all your heart; or, is it more that you’re avoiding the pain of letting him go? Telling someone goodbye sux even when it’s for the best, but avoiding it only prolongs the pain. You don't truely move on and everything else in your life is postponed.
If you can honestly say no to the two questions above, then go back with the ex, otherwise tell the ex goodbye and move on. That means stop talking to him – don’t call; don’t answer when he calls.
Re. the new guy: You think you like him, but are not sure. Of course not! You haven’t given him a real chance & never will w/ the ex still in the picture.
I think you need to make a decision -- go one way or the other & stick to it. You're just postponing your life sitting on the fence.
2006-09-08 13:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Celt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make that decision, but keep in mind that you and the ex broke up for a reason. Sometimes it's best to leave things in the past and move on. Your new guy sounds like he is a good guy (sensitive to your feelings about the ex) and ask yourself if you would want to give that up for something with your ex where history may repeat itself (like treating each other badly). Only you know where your heart lies, but could you possibly love the new guy later on or will your feelings for the ex prevent that from happening? If you know you won't be able to move forward cuz of your ex, then at least do the new guy a favor and don't lead him on. That's not fair to him. Whatever you decide, good luck. I know I probably didn't help your situation, but at least it'll give you things to consider before making a decision.
2006-09-08 13:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
If you were old enough to decide you were "In Love" then this decision isn't hard. You are keeping the new guy around because your afraid that the ex will hurt you again and that makes you childish for leading on the new boyfriend. And even worse, too childish to actually want to go back to a relationship where you were both hurting each other.
News flash " Real love doesn't hurt "
2006-09-08 13:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you still love your former boyfriend, then why is he your "ex"? Or don't u know the meaning of an "ex - boyfriend" You need to move on. Don't loose this opportunity because i'm very sure that ur ex will treat u bad again. Good luck!
2006-09-08 13:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer is easy. NEVER go back!
You use the word love when you describe someone you treated badly and who treated you badly. Someone you broke up with after only being with for a few months. Suspend what you think are emotions and look at facts. Base ALL your decisions on facts now and from now on.
2006-09-08 13:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by snowy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didnt even read the rest. the ? says enuf. i would go for the boyfriend your starting to like. bc an x is an x and only that. ur x's for a reason. and it didnt work out for a reason, and ur not together for a reason. it didnt work out for a reason. so... move forwards, not back. do you want that hurt w the same person all over again, or do u want to move forward and see what's out there for yourself?
2006-09-08 13:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by Kasey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up...you have a guy that obviously likes you alot, to know about you and your ex still talking...and he is still around!! you and your ex obviously couldnt make things work - so stay away from him and stop talkin to him and give your new guy a chance!! you and your ex are just keepin each other around for backups...and that is pretty s h i t t y!!!!
2006-09-08 13:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people ask questions like this? There's a reason he's your Ex.
2006-09-08 13:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one you like! He sounds nicer and polite!! If ur x has treated you badly don't be mistaken and think that he'll change. move on, gurl!! good luck!!
2006-09-08 13:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋