I am recently married n live with my in-laws, untill my husb/I get our place which is next couple of months. My M-inlaw Always set fire between me and my husband. His bro live with us and is also married with a kid....but they keep to them self when they not home my M-inlaw (when run out of stuff) will go in there cuboard/ room n take a little. We buy Seperate detergent/toileties for them since they like a certain brand....Recently i buy a big 52oz Liquid detergent.... I nomally buy the small size My M-inlaw see that and even tought she don't like it she took some with out me knowing i didn't say anything. My husban n i pay all the bills, His bro/family don't contribute at all and they use our stuff some time Anyway Seein what my M-inlaw i never lock my room door untill recently i did it once i didn't tell my husband cause he went to work... and when he came home i forget to tell him. I went to sleep early so my M-inlaw told him i lock the door today.. he got up set and we argue..
2006-09-08 06:06:58 · 32 answers · asked by *Cutie* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Run and fast.
2006-09-08 06:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... first, try and make more sense when typing. Use full words, not abbreviations, and use complete sentences.
Second. Who pays the rent on the house? That is important.
However, since you stated you pay all the bills, you are entitled to some say over things. If your in-laws, including your mother-in-law don't work, and you purchase all the things in the home, and have done it before, then it should be a given that she will use some of your things, detergent included.
If they do contribute to the rent or other things, then if they run out, I would not mind if they used mine once in awhile till they bought their own.
I for one, do not believe in loafers. I would not allow my in-laws to be living with me if they didn't have jobs and were helping to pay bills or the rent.
As far as you locking your door, your husband has no right to be upset with you for wanting your privacy. It is your room, you have every right to lock it whenever you damn well please. I would be a bit upset that your Mother-in-law doesn't have the courage/balls/whatever to talk to you about it but has to act like a schoolgirl and go tattle tell to your husband. She is a grown woman, she can discuss these things with you.
2006-09-08 06:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a sticky situation. I think you need to address this issue with your husband and let him know whats going on and how it makes you feel.
Talk to your mother in law and tell her also how it makes you feel. Tell her you appreciate the oppurtunity to live in her home while you get on your feet, but you feel like you have the right to your privacy. Tell her that you wouldn't mind if she used your soap or other things if she asked first.
Approach it in a way that is both kind and professional, because you want to take the high road and be the better person.
I don't think you were wrong, I would lock my door too!
2006-09-08 06:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by LZB217 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to live with in laws. But really if you can pay bills in one place cant you pay them in your own. I found that I would rather struggle in a smaller place than I wanted together with just my husband while working to get a bigger place than ever living with his or even my family. Then to put that kind of stress on a new marriage.!!!! WOW Step back and really look at what you are doing then see if thats really the best option for your new life.
2006-09-08 06:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by JennieJen01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reality is that if you live in someone else's house, you have to play by their rules. Don't get between your husband and the inlaws. You will lose every time. Save up and get out ASAP.
2006-09-08 06:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL YOU FIRST MISTAKE WAS MARRYING A MAN THAT COULD NOT PROVIDE A HOME AS FOR ALL THE OTHER NIT-PICKING LET IT GO IT IS ONLY MINOR STUFF AND MAYBE YOU WON'T HAVE TO STAY THERE MUCH LONGER IT IS HER HOUSE SO BE GRACIOUS AND SMILE AT HER A LOT AND AS FOR LOCKING YOUR DOOR JUST TELL YOUR HUSBAND YOU SLEEP BETTER THAT WAY DO NOT LET THINGS MAKE YOU ARGUE BITE YOUR TONGUE GET OUT AS SOON AS POSSIBLE DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO KEEP THE PEACE YOU WILL FEEL BETTER FOR IT
2006-09-08 06:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by jk poet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to never live with your in laws! Hope you get out soon. Your husband needs to realize that he married you, not mommy. Those days are over. Ask your mother in law if she would like you to leave your door unlocked at your new home so she can come in and take what she wants!!
2006-09-08 06:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by gemm77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These sound like minor although very annoying issues. Be nice and polite with the in laws for a couple of months. Ignore the stuff that happens. Keep your distance.
2006-09-08 06:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hold on..just a few more months. If you can't surely there is somewhere else to stay. As for his mother what a wicked, miserable women. Does your husband defend you? If not this is an issue you must pursue. You want a man not a boy.
2006-09-08 06:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by smile4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong they are using you and your husband and your husband maybe blind and cant see it. Secondly why did he get up set with you. Do he know that he his married now and must make you happy even if his family is not happy with what he is doing and he is choosing sides. I would advice you to have a talk with him before it gets out of hand. Let him know that he made a commit to you and not his family
2006-09-08 06:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by Tee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of their and live in your own place. It is nice of the in laws to let you stay there. If I were you I would go and stay in a hotel or a friends house. It sounds like you are living in a bad situation.
2006-09-08 06:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋