My Brother can get really wound up, he is 10 and i am 15. He will smash things throw things hit me, spit at me and stamp on my feet etc. I really need a way to sort it out because it is driving me crazy, and it hurts! No hope with mum and dad by the way. Any suggestions?
2006-09-08 06:06:27 · 20 answers · asked by princessconswellabananahamock123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are a great older sister and you obviously care for him very much-or your own sanity anyway, suggest you take him somewhere where he can let his anger out, and have fun at the same time, plus talk to him see what's on his mind-this will also help with your bonding then Mum and Dad will have to listen.
2006-09-08 06:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by what? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a question for a male to answer because only they really know how a 10 yr. old boy thinks.
I have a brother that is 2 yrs younger than me and we fought all the time growing up and still do when we are together. I would hold him down and make him promise to leave me alone and a few days later he'd be at it again. I'd lock myself in the bathroom to get away from him and his tantrums and he'd stay out by the door for about a half an hour and just go nuts until he calmed down. He would throw things at me and get in my face, just aggrivating me however he could. When he knew he crossed the line and really made me mad he would run but it didn't stop him from doing it again later. He would follow me around taunting me to the point that I thought that if I touched him, that I'd surely beat him to death.
I also moved away as soon as I could. He was definitely a driving factor in that. So, maybe just showing these responses to your parents will let them see that it's not a joke and if they don't do something about it then you will probably leave home sooner than later.
2006-09-09 12:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by Not Laughing w/ U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all brothers/sisters fight. you need to rock his world and teach him about the real thing. next time he causes some trouble and trys to hit you, smack him in the mouth as hard as you can, you WILL get into trouble but it will be worth it. the harder you hit him the more the message will mean. visualise everthing that he's ever done in channel it down your arm into your fist, distroy him.
one day you will look back on this and laugh, you love your brother and he loves you even though you may not admit it. you will help each other out when in need and support each other when it's needed, but you need to respect each other and that won't happen until you both realize that strength comes from all and is not to do with weather your a female or male. the truth is that your bro is a boy. tell him when he acts like a man you'll treat him like one.
power to you sis
2006-09-08 11:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation.
My brother is 2 years younger than me. I am now 28 and he is 26 and we rarely have any contact with each other.
Growing up together we HATED each other and that has never truly passed. Even now I can only stand to be around him for one day and then I find that all our old battles are still there,
We never resolved anything when we were younger....I moved away as soon as I could whilst still hating him. I wish I could say that time has brought us closer, but it hasn't.
For my part, I can now understand some of the reason why we reacted together as we did. Seriously, there were times when I wanted with all my heart to kill him, but I feared my parents reaction and that was the only thing that stopped me.
our relationship now is one of tolerance, so long as we don't have to spend more than a day together ; even after all this time we still essentially hate each other.
Your brother is still young and I wish I could give you some advice, but I can't. Just try to treat him with respect (hard, I know!) and remember that blood ties, should be strong.... I'd hate to see you as me and my brother are now..
2006-09-08 06:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by sammi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be tempted to buy a supersoaker...
Do you know what sets him off? Try to avoid it.
Once he kicks off, keep your distance. You could leave the house, or lock yourself in your room.
But surely you could over power him. You only need to do it once I think. Pin him to the ground. Emphasis that you are bigger and stronger and the only reason you don't smash him in is out of consideration for your parents. But tell him you can only put up with so much and if he kicks off again you will be quite happy to cheerfully pulvarise him.
2006-09-08 06:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by helen g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with Tinkerbell, but in some case that can make it worse another way is to treat his the same way . then ask him if he liked the way you acted towards him. then let him realize that its not OK to have this behavior. If that does work he might need some profesional help.seeing the fact that he dosent know to the differenc of wright and wrong. If you think he does Dont give this will be a good time to practice your patience.Good Luck.
2006-09-08 06:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by psiboy13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him when he's like that but do enter in to conversation with him as you want to improve your relationship in the long term.
Also, I believe that the only reason people get angry is because they haven't acquired a sound level of English skills in their lives thereby being unable to express themselves. Get him to read a few books and he'll be picking up words in no time, therefor there wont be any excuse for him to be angry coz he can express himself.
2006-09-08 06:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Slug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is obviously an underlying problem. When that is sorted things will get better. He really needs to see a gp who may refer him for anger management
2006-09-08 06:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by pebs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for sure, she cares approximately you and your brother to have you ever adult men residing together with her. you ought to loosen up given which you have become offended whilst she's basically being a mom... and despite if she grew to become into going overboard with the complaining and assumptions - this is a reaction to the wreck-up with your dad. i'm basically guessing right here! you may no longer substitute her nagging you yet you may substitute the variety you respond to it. in case you understand she does not relatively recommend something undesirable approximately it, save in mind that once you finally end up getting mad at her for it...
2016-12-18 06:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away, ignore this behavior. It will be hard, but after a while he will know he cant do this too you. Be strong and focus on your self and let your Mum and Dad sort it out,
2006-09-08 06:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by julie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋