Are all women bad?

Question

I had a bad relationship with a woman who I did not trust from the begining now I have a very hard time trusting women. Am I right to think all women are bad? Or am I just mentally ill? I mean it seems kind of ridiculous to not trust women based on the actions of one woman who I never trusted anyway. Its not like she was good and then turned bad, she was always bad, and I did not even like her when I first met her. I had kids with her, or at least she tells me I did, and now I am angry and bitter with her for being exactly like I thought she was. What is wrong with me?

Answer 1

All women? Since when does a kid like you know all women?

Answer 2

No, all women are not bad.
Bad experiences like yours can cause you to put your guards up and be distant when it comes to women, you may still have sex and talk to them, but you will have a real hard time trusting and getting into another relationship because of this.
I was the same way with men, and I just had my safe fun and then met the person I believe is "the right one" for me just a few months back. When I met him there was no doubting, no questioning, nothing at all....so i knew those times were over. Don't go looking for a good one, cuz you'll find bad in them all, just have fun and she'll come to you. The Good Ones are out there!

Answer 3

No, not all women are bad - just like not all men are bad. Now, there are plenty bad ones out there, both men and women. It's hard to let go of the hurt and trust again, to NOT make other women pay for the actions of your previous girlfriends...in time, your anger WILL subside - trust me (been there, done that)...

Just take some time to heal and get better before you look for the next relationship...and remember, some of US women are good...we're kind, loving, compassionate, devoted, faithful and straight up amazing - you just haven't found Ms. Right yet - but don't give up...

By the way, what's up with you had kids with her, or at least she tells you that you did??? Are you not sure they're YOURS...just don't punish the kids for their mothers actions...

Answer 4

You have what's called a presupposition. A pre-existing idea that all woman will be exactly like the one you dated. However, everyone is different, and that means that the next girl you meet will be unlike your last. However, YOU will be the same person. The problem may lie within you, and not your dates or girlfriends. You may have trust issues, but they're from your past... You seem to have a tendency to go right back to the relationships you are COMFORTABLE WITH! It's easy for you to date those types of women, because they are FAMILIAR! My advice would be to get some therapy, and find out your root problems and fix them.

good luck

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with you. You took a chance on someone and they let you down. That's not your fault. The thing to keep in mind is, there are definitely a lot of bad people in this world, both male and female. But there are also a lot of good ones. Remember the old saying "it's better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all." Don't give up on all women! One more saying for you .... "Nobody gets to live life backwards. Look ahead - that's where the future lies". Trust me, you'll find a good woman eventually. Take care!

Answer 6

Maybe just like a lot of women you thought you could change her or that she would change for you. Your angry that you couldn't turn things around. That's what happens to a lot of women. You should trust women but of course not all women. Next time you dont trust someone when you first meet them listen to yourself and dont get involved. The more you make bad choices the more bitter you will become.

Answer 7

hi dear well first are all men pigs,no men and women are both the same,thee are good and bad in both but always remember one thing if one apple is rot ton in your basket you don't trow all of them away right so just as men and women thinks the same about each other its wrong cause there are very good women out there and men we just have to Seak and we shall find alright
now Mr William had a bad experience and that don't mean you must give up or judge every relationship no matter what friend,lovers,husband and wife it must start with trust cause you build a foundation on that and once you have that you can go all the way in life but when you lose that well your whole world come falling down and its hard and it hurts but we human must never give up on love and always fallow our dreams cause they have away of coming true yes
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Answer 8

No. and I don't think you are wrong to think that all women are bad- however; do not judge your future relationships with your really crappy one. I had the worst jerk as a partner and now I know exactly what I DON'T want in a relationship and exactly what I DO want in one. Just chalk it up as a bad life experience and move on. If you think you need some counseling, go get some. There are some really good women out there!

Answer 9

Listen, why did you hook up with a woman you did not trust from the beginning? You knew what she was from the outset because you said you did not like her when you first met her, so why hook up with a person you do not like? Maybe you do need counseling to get your head on straight and figure out what you need to look for next time around. You do not sound like a bad guy, just a bad judge of character. Get a DNA test and resolve your doubts as to the paternity of the kids.

Answer 10

Ofcourse not. Nothing is wrong with you. It just so happens that you had a bad relationship. don't let what happened in your past ruin your future. You have to give someone else a shot. You don't want to shut yourself down because you might miss your chance with someone better. I always say nothing beats a failure but a try. If at first you don't suceed then try again. Just think of it this way you have to go to the bad ones to get to the good. What don't kill you makes you stronger. I hope you find what you're looking for. Good luck in love and relationships.

Answer 11

Its normal for you to have a trust issue, however, every woman is not bad. You need to take time and get to know the next person that you decide to let into your life. But, as difficult as it will be, do it with an open mind and a strong heart because we spend more of our life hurt than happy. Its just lessons learned. Good luck and better love next time!!