Do men who have 3 or 4 children actually think they can get a hot woman?

Question

I have been reading profiles of divorced men who have 3 or more children (they either have custody or not , meaning that half their income is going to their ex wife) and they are so picky about women. They want a woman to make a certian amount of money and have a degree, and look a certain way and such. These guys carry alot of baggage, and it doesn't matter how "great" their kids are, they are still kids and will at some points come between the man and a potential mate. A woman who takes on a man like this (and the same for a man who gets involved with a woman with a lot of children) is a saint if they can stay with it. I think these guys should loosen up about their requirements as they are not exactly a woman's dream come true as most women are looking for a man to put them first in a relationship.

I am not referring to older men with grown children, as that doesn't matter, I am talking about men who have young children.

Answer 1

LOL, you're right...I'm amazed that some of these fat, hairy, balding, BROKE@$$ men think they are something special.

Answer 2

Sounds like you don't want a man who has had a previous life. In most marriages that involve kids, the kids are put up very high on the priority list. When a new person comes in, whether male or female, they will have to earn there way up the priority. Of course the kids will be put before the new one...blood first!
And it's not just men who have the expectations. Women with kids do it too. They are even more upfront about it than men. They expect you to love their kids right away.
Get off your soap box...kids should have nothing to do with a relationship...they are merely an added factor. If you don't wnat a man with kids, don't date them etc.

Answer 3

A divorced man w/ kids still has standards reguardless. The great thing about it is, even though baggage comes w/ the guy, there are plenty of women out there that fit the standards that accept, and dont mind in the slightest the baggage. Thats coming from a divorced guy that has high standards, even though I have 3 kids, Im not dead yet, and want to live a little before I am.

Answer 4

Sounds like a guy like this is looking for help carrying the load and does not want a woman who does not pull her own weight. Nothing wrong with being upfront about what one needs or wants. Whether you get is is another story. But lowering standards is not such a hot idea if you really think about it. Do you want to be picked by someone who is lying about what they want only to find out a year later that you really didn't fit the bill? That you were just Ms. Right Now?


Hey, stop with the bashing. I am NOT bald, LOL.

Answer 5

I have a hot girlfriend and I have a six year old kid. We have been together for 3 years and will soon get married.

I don't always put my g/f first and but she doesn't always put me first, she has other commitments, family, friends, etc.

We have a great relationship, I adore her and give her more attention that a lot of guys do without kids...I call her at least twice a day, leave her notes, buy her flowers etc.

Maybe you should loosen up your requirements....a woman's dream come true should be based on the type of guy he is, not on the number of kids he has.

Answer 6

If men truly only sought out attractive women, then there would be no single attractive women and lots of single unattractive women out there. The fact that there isn't tells me that many men look for more than just looks in a woman. Which would you rather have? A very attractive woman who is nasty and unfriendly or a less attractive woman who has a nice personality?

Answer 7

I agree with you.... to an extent
I don't think is a man issue. I think both genders are equally evil. Its like some older man look for a younger woman who can cook clean, have the looks and take care of them too... And then you have women who look for a man who can be a provider and a father figure for their kids, but when the guy tries to be a father, then they get all bitchy because you are not supposed to discipline HER kids...
Anyone with kids should be grateful to get whatever they can have, kids means more responsability and a different kinda fun. Like daytime fun.

Answer 8

I have known men just like this. They go through women like candy. With everything they ask of a woman you would think they are control freaks. So that is your answer, YES, they are control freaks. Someone like this is not a good person to be with. They criticize everything you do, they are what we would call emotionally abusive. You can't just tell someone how to act, what to do, how to be, how to talk, without being considered emotionally abusive. To get women to do what they ask, first they make them feel bad about the way they already do it. They put a woman down to where she feels like she HAS to change.

Men do this because there is something wrong with them. They should seek out help before they try to get in a relationship. They probably do this because that is the way they feel about themselves. If your insecure you make others insecure too.

Answer 9

I agree that alot of men have high expectations when it comes to women. They want someone who looks great, etc. They should get thier head out of the clouds and get back to reality. As for having kids...well that is life honey. People get married, have kids, get divorced and want to start over with someone new. Everyone has a past. Don't hold that against the children. They dont come between you unless you let them.

Answer 10

I know a guy who has 2 kids, 2 wives and a girlfriend...not any sort of religious belief, just didn't bother to divorce the first wife before he hooked up with the second, but he still thinks he should get whatever woman he wants...personally, all I want is the da*n divorce~

Answer 11

i would say that they are looking for the right person so as not to make the same mistake again. after the previous mate they see what they wanted and needed. also the things they hated and broke up the marrige. with kids involved they have baggage and dont want to drag the kids through this again. and maybe these men think that they are perfect and it was all the ex's fault.