When you meet someone for the first time?

Question

Do you make a list of all the things you find "wrong" or "evil" about them?

Or,

Do you make a list of all the "right" or "good" things about them?

Or, do you just take them as they are "good" and "evil", but pay attention to what they came to teach you about life?

Strange lots of people answered, but judging from the thumbs down not lots of people actually liked the question. I don't believe in good and evil, but i do find certain emotions to be negative like anger, hate etc. It's just a question...

Answer 1

I take them at face value until they show me otherwise. There are some, though, that are so blatantly weird you can't help but find reasons not to have to deal with them again. That's the only time I make a list of cons. I can't stand people like me.. I mean--- that. yeah-- that's right.... that.

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Answer 2

I tend to make snap judgements on people based on generalizations, all Christians being this and that, for instance. But if I meet a Christain for the first time, all those pre-judgements go out the window. I end up judging a person on a case by case basis. Just by interacting with them for a while I can tell if the person is 1) Someone to trust my life with, 2) A good time friend (only there when times are good), or any other possibilities.

Answer 3

When I first meet someone, I look for the good because that is my paradigm, so I expect to find it in others...I learn about goodness from these people, some more than others...The only ones that I can say that I have a problem with, and that I consider evil, are those who feel the need to verbally attack others who are going their way in peace. I learn from them how NOT to be.

Answer 4

When I meet anyone, I greet them with the understanding that most human beings, fill their lives and hearts and heads with tradition and habit and generational molding and planning that makes them what they believe themselves to be. I understand that a belief is a choice and how most human beings never question themselves to form a desire to change anything. Most human beings are rigid and set in their ways and I personally, believe in the energy formations, tones, colors and vibrations that surround a physicality. I believe that if we listen to a persons speech, watch their body language, hear their meanings (that even they themselves don't) that we can pretty much sum up in the first 10 to 15 seconds what kind of energy they emit and weather or not they will repel or harmonize with my particular energy to cause an attraction or a natural repulsion. I do not tend to bother with those people I cannot either influence or are able to influence or reach me in any way past pretense bullsh*it or oblivion.

Answer 5

No lists involved, everyone starts with a clean slate in my book. I assume that everyone is good hearted, we all are. I usually observe the person and figure out their interworkings. What motives they have, how they deal with situations, how they treat others around them. It really all depends on the time in a persons life you walk into. I trend to shy away from people who are, at first glance, materialistic or self-absorbed. But, I do give the chance to prove any assumptions wrong.

Answer 6

I don't make lists at all. There has only been 1 time I can remember where I knew someone was evil the second I met them (my uncle's new wife, who later abused my cousin & cheated on my uncle) but other than that it takes me a while before I make a decision about someone. You have to get to know them.

Answer 7

Let me put it this way, don't make a list, just hang out with the person at first and get to know them, making lists will always confuss you in one way or another. and if you do have that person make a list of you see what they think of you and you might figure out that maybe the person is just not someone you want to be around

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Answer 8

I don't make lists about people. I take them for who they are. You never know, they might be having a bad day the first time you meet them. Don't judge a book by its cover.

Answer 9

I listen to what they have to say as if I am waiting for a message. I've learned a lot by doing this. I never judge people as good/bad, they are just people that cross my path for a reason and I listen to find out what that reason could be.
I know they are with me for a day, a season or a lifetime. That's enough for me.

Answer 10

i like your tarot card there, im a fan...

well, i try to go in with an open mind, ideally, (and this part is difficult granted,) each person has some impact on us, positive or not, which we can choose to use in the future, i guess if we are willing to learn, each person can teach us something, even the "evil" ones (although i prefer negative or unhealthy or angry people...a person who acts like a jerk may not be evil per say, ) in time, through enough experiences, we get wiser, and learn who to avoid and who to let into our worlds to better ourselves....and others...need to be careful about "list making"..depending on where we are in life, not entirely accurate...i also believe in going with our instinct...or intuition, whichcan get stronger in time.