How am I to fix a relationship with my mother in whom seems like she wants nothing to do with me?

Question

My mother and I have had a rocky relationship for about 6yrs she was on drugs once upon a time and during that time I stood by her side untill she got well now that she is better( I think ) she acts as if I was never there for her I have been on my own since I was 16 in and out staying with friends learning to provide for myself and it has been very hard on the streets I get so anger sometimes inside because it not fair in my eyes I am a good kid no-gangs , no police records. I feel we will never have the type of relationship I wan t so please give me some advice on how to move on in a healthy way and still honor my mother as the bible tells me to I need advice on how to release the anger in my heart so that when I am sucessful in life and she needs my help I can be there for her without resentment

Answer 1

don't know your business but no one can replace your mother. Some find out too late that mom has passed away. Try and talk with her for a few minutes at a time. Then gradually across time, let your time together be extended. Don't ask her for anything. Just be your loving self and she will love you back. Please read Psalm 35 to (Plead My Cause) - It is long and well worth reading. It will help you a lot. Remember this, "If God be for us, who can be against us?" - Romans 8:31. Peace and God Bless.
What a wonderfull words
With love and kindness we can roll the world

Answer 2

Oh Honey, my heart goes out to you. I have a step daughter who was in your shoes not to long ago. She did everything short of stand on her head to get the love she desired from her mother, and sadly, it never happened. Some parents are just incapable of this. They make bad choices and rather than accept blame, they look for someone else to blame for their problems. I'm going to tell you what I told my daughter.

Honey, kids aren't born with instructions. Some parents have the skills naturally and some have to learn by examples. If your mom didn't have a good example, then she probably had to do a lot of trial and error. It's not that she doesn't love you, it's that she screwed up and can't get past the guilt. It prevents her from opening her heart. Now you can sit around feeling sorry for yourself, banging your head against the wall trying to think of a way for your mom to accept you...OR you can choose to accept the relationship for what it is, love your mother enough to accept her faults and live your life knowing that you will NEVER do that to your own children.

I wish it could be easier for you sweetie, I really do, but this is the hand you were dealt. You have the power on how you choose to play it. You can either let it eat you alive and consume your entire life, or you can use it as a learning tool and close the book on that chapter of your life. She can only hurt you if you let her. Don't give her that power.

I wish you well.

Answer 3

Well, she could have some lingering problems from the effects or withdrawl, if she's clean, but I've come across people like this, and there's not much you can do, except remember that she's not "all-there". I don't mean to sound offensive, but it's probably the best thing, remeber that it's not entirely her fault, it is her fault, but not 100%, the drug issues bring about a sense of distrust in most people, and can lead to paranoia(I've seen the effects firsthand...Not pretty). So try to move on, and give her time, and think of all the good life skills you learned in the process; You can adapt to change, you can find a job, you can fend for yourself, and it will most likely make it easier to fight off temptation for drugs.

Answer 4

I don't know your business but no one can replace your mother. Some find out too late that mom has passed away. Try and talk with her for a few minutes at a time. Then gradually across time, let your time together be extended. Don't ask her for anything. Just be your loving self and she will love you back. Please read Psalm 35 to (Plead My Cause) - It is long and well worth reading. It will help you a lot. Remember this, "If God be for us, who can be against us?" - Romans 8:31. Peace and God Bless.

Answer 5

contrary to popular belief, there are not many "Disney movie" mother relationships out there. I was just chosen best answer for a question similar to this, and it was because I shared that me and my mother just don't seem to get along to well because of the way she thinks and disrespects. I see her maybe about once a month and call her about once a month...maybe even stretching 3 months. We do okay this way. I know love from a mother is important, but it will not make or break you unless you let it.

Answer 6

there is no easy answer.. somethings aren't made 2 be understood.. after you have tried 2 be the best son possible and she still show's bitterness and won't say why, then its time 2 distant yourself from her.. after you have given your all in all, 1st. comes anger then hurt, then comes acceptance.. i have no regrets on my part 4 walking away.. i felt very exhusted from trying so hard.. but relief when it was finally over.. i knew there was nothing more i could do 2 make things right.. i felt the binds that tie mother and daughter together , broken beyond repair.. its a difficult road 2 travel.. but you will be ok.. as i'm..

Answer 7

i would just keep praying for her. ask her to go to church with her. show her you love her. don't argue what's what with her. set the example. if SHE won't be the adult, YOU'LL have to be. it sucks for it to have to be that way, but sometimes, it's the kids who raise the parents, and not the other way around like it's supposed to be. hang in there.

Answer 8

just move on---u are probably better w/o her

and leaving home at 16 can be accomplished

I did it