my 13 year old son is driving me mad! if i ask him to do anything for me you would think id asked him to jump off the roof!everything is too much like hard work for him. how do i get through these next few years and stay sane?
2006-09-08 05:27:15 · 31 answers · asked by Mrs Chicagosgirl!! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not ALL teenagers are like that. It's a bit of a stereotype really. I mean I'm 13 and I love my mum and I help her loads every day and make her breakfast when I have the time and I love her to bits - I would do anything for her! Teenagers are meant to be stubborn and obnoxious because of the hormones inside them - they do all sorts of things to the body which is why teenagers may change not only in shape but also in character. It's sometimes hard to cope but you could try talking to him and give him all your views etc. Be patient and you wiull be rewarded. Good Luck!! xxx
2006-09-08 06:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by childlikeempress 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once they hit 6th grade, they go downhill from there. I have stayed sane by doing as they do. Close my ears to everything I don't want to hear, like they do. It takes awhile to learn this trade but once you got it down packed, it comes easily. Then you make them go crazy by not listening.
Believe me, my daughters were worse than what my son is. I may have to say take the garbage out 5 times, but hey it takes him 6 times to ask if he can go somewhere.
I have learned alot of tricks to this trade of raising teenagers. My favorite is cranking up the radio with Country music on while there is a pile of teenagers next to me with their thump thump music in the car at a stop light. And guess who got the last laugh!
2006-09-08 05:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dottie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mainly because they are given too much and are not made to value the things they are given. They think the world owes everything to then without any work.
they will spend time on a skateboard or playing basketball and exert every ounce of energy for that, but doing something around the house is too much like work. Its not one of their priorities.
Tell him that you have to have him do these certain things around the house. If they are not done, you will not have the time to do things for him such as cook, laundry, play chauefer and so forth. After a while of walking to the mall hungry and smelling like the dirty clothes hamper, he just may get it.
Proffesionals will tell you "NEVER EVER EVER ask a child to do something". DONT say anything like "Dont you want to make me proud of you? or Dont you want to take the trash out for me?".
If you do, you are giving up ALL your power to make decisions for the child because you are asking his approval or his opinion on something that does not need to be discussed nor approved by him/her.
Your the adult and the parent. Make it known and use it to make your child a better person for society.
2006-09-08 05:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by billydeer_2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they're at the stage where they think they are grown and know everything, and you can't tell them anything because you're old and out of date/style. Little do they realize that's the main reason why they should listen to older people; because they have lived longer and have wayyyy more experience. Just deal with it for now, but draw the line when he gets disrespectful. Being a teenager is never an excuse to disrespect parents or other adults.
2006-09-08 05:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
There was a report in the Dailly Record last week saying that teens bodies are pushed forward and it is as if they are in a different time zone it was supposedly something like 6-10 hours difference so teens are actually at thier best around sometime like 1am in the morning
2006-09-08 05:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by poli_b2001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Scientists have discovered why ... this is a snip from this news article
It seems our neural decision-making processes mature quite slowly, and researchers think this might help to explain typical teenage behaviour.
The adolescent brain undergoes massive changes and does not reach maturity until 20 or 30 years old.
2006-09-08 05:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My god that's depressing. My son is only 3 and a half and he's cheeky enough already. I would suggest that you need a great deal of patience, the memories of when he was smaller and more 'obedient', the promise that one day he'll grow out of it, and a large glass of chilled rose wine. All the very best to you!
2006-09-08 05:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by Roxy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its like teething. You will just have to grin and bear it. (pardon the pun!) Try reverse tactics. When he asks you to do something for him, throw your own version of his teenage strop and watch his face. Especially if you do it in front of his friends. If teenagers think they have the right to be obnoxious, this is balanced by a parents right to embarrass the hell out of them.
2006-09-08 05:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by keefer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just remind myself that I went through that phase too, and it sucked. So I cut the kid some slack. He needs to establish his own identity and he'll eventually get over it. Find some way for him to occupy his time constructively, like school activities, to keep him busy and out of trouble and ride it out!
2006-09-08 05:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by dirtyrubberduck 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go completely psycho on him the next time you ask him to do something. He'll just stare at you like you are nuts, but I bet he does what you ask him to do. Nip it in the bud now, MOM
2006-09-08 05:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by n3rdluvr2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋