what should i do?

Question

okay...this is how the story goes...


my boyfriend and i were on the phone last night...and....he was telling me he has this female friend thats pregnant {no its not his}...lol...but she has a boyfriend whom she claims is not financially stable enough to take care of a child...soo...she wants to get an abortion...but the boyfriend says no...and her and the boyfriend are not on good terms right now...

well....my boyfriend use to be friends with benefits way before he met me... and he is against abortions and what not...but he told her he is going to go with her to get it done

why did she ask him...he said that they are just really good friends and they talk to each other about their personal problems...yah that fine with me...but...why cant she ask her boyfriend?

she is getting an abortion behind her boyfriends back and im guessing she is going to lie and say she had a "miscarriage"...which is a lie...

my boyfriend asked me what i think of him going...i told him i dont want him to go but you know i cant tell him what to do...

so here is the thing...i dont want him to go...but he said thats his friend and he wants to be there for her...and...i said well you are against this and what not...so why let her do this...she can have it and give it up for adoption...and she wont have anything to do with the child...he said...she wont do that...so what do i do?


im confused.....

Danielle Christina

Answer 1

Just support him as he supports his friend. This shows that he is loyal and that is a good trait.

Answer 2

Have a guy friend? Tell your boyfriend that your friend wants a vasectomy, and you're going with him when he gets it done.


Really, it seems weird to me. He's completely against abortion, yet he's willing to witness one? Put your foot down and tell him not to go. If he believes something, he shouldn't waiver because some former piece of *** wants him to help her kill some guys' baby. Maybe she should have thought about the guys' financial situation before having sex with him? It's completely selfish to kill a baby just because her and her bf are pissy at each other. And he wants her to have it, which makes it even more weird.

If it's the money that's making her have doubts about having it, have your boyfriend talk to her about adoption. How does he know she won't do it? Has he been in the same situation with her or something?

Answer 3

I'm confused too. Are you jealous of your boyfriend's relationship with this girl? Or are you more concerned about the fact that she's having an abortion and you're boyfriend's against.

I think the only thing you can do as the girlfriend is clearly tell your boyfriend what makes you comfortable and what doesn't. You'll know how he feels about you if he respects your wishes or not.

Answer 4

first of all ABORTION is MURDER
we are talking about and INNOCENT HUMAN LIFE being disposed of like garbage in the name of convenience, literally, the child is ripped apart by suction and tools and thrown into the garbage so stray dogs and rats can feed from it...this is the reality of "choice" babies in dumpsters, mothers lives will never be the same.
Abortionists roughly earn $2300 per DAY the "counselor" answering the phone to sell abortions get about $25 per abortion booked and appointment kept....this money is based on LIES and feeds off of blood money
http://www.priestsforlife.org
http://www.abortionno.org
NEVER allow anyone to get an abortion - all who provide "support" to someone who wants to get an abortion have that childs blood on their hands
I encouraged MY best friend to have an abortion at 7 weeks, she did it, she has NEVER been the same it has been 15 years and STILL lives with grief, depression, guilt, anguish and will never forgive herself.
Tell your boyfriend DO NOT take her to slaughter her child! PERIOD. And pass along the links above to her.
My email is
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I own a PRO LIFE group on Yahoo called Abortion Must End Now and am willing to communicate with you, her, the boyfried whomever DO NOT ENCOURAGE HER, HIM OR ANYONE to savagely end the life of a baby...

Answer 5

Either you trust your boyfriend or you don't. If you don't trust him then you should break up with him. If you do trust him then you also trust his judments and support him when he is doing what he thinks is right.

He is sticking by his friend, isn't he? He is deomonstrating that he is faithful even when the person he is supporting is doing something with which he, personally, has a hard time.

Also, in the face of your objections and risking loosing you he has chosen to stand by his friend a time she will need support. This shows that he is independent and will not wilt under the heat of loosing something he loves.

If these attributes are accurate about your boyfriend then they seem to be ones to which you would be attracted.

Answer 6

Your boyfriend is a wimp. If her were against abortion, he would not condone it by accompanying her to get one.

And if she is too selfish and blind to see that giving the baby up for adoption is a far better option than murder, then she isn't much of a human being.

And if he is still that attached to her, you might want to find someone willing to stand up for his values and be faithful to one woman...you.

Answer 7

maybe he just wants to be there to support her, on her end i know she's scared and need anybody she can get to go, and then again on his end is he making sure that she gets rid of it because he might think it's his? you don't know what he does behind your back besides if she use to be a friend with benefits i'm sure she still is, that's what friends with benefits mean, so how do you get him not to go? you have to straight out tell him he's not going let her fight out her own problems, she has her own boyfriend.

Answer 8

if it were me, I would go with them and support her along with my boyfriend. If you don't feel comfortable him going by himself tell him that you want to be able to help him support her because an abortion is a big deal. That's what i would do.

Answer 9

Wow Tell him your really not OK with him going to kill a baby. IF he is against it. Also this really needs to be between her and the father of the baby. Unless your not knowing something. I would put my foot down. tell him how you really feel. Hell print this out for him.

Answer 10

... Don't worry Danielli this case is very common.

Please, you and your boyfriends should take care of the baby ... but no like adoption .... take care like "lawparents" ... is the best idea for the friend of your boyfriends and for the baby.