He is doing fewer pills than he has in the past, maybe three a day. I really dont know what he's doing or how many. we have 2kids together he is a good dad, and comes home to us everynight. It's just the lying, denying, about the problem. He lies about the money, I have to take care of everything. I've been dealing with this for a year, He's been doing pain pils for several years, we've been together for 11 years. I dont know whether to stay or leave. Maybe if I leave he'll know i'm serious. He thinks I'm always going to be there. If he can get through the argument and make excuses, that i'll be over it tomorrow, and he can go on hiding the problem. Please help
2006-09-08 04:37:48 · 10 answers · asked by janice c 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
Leaving him probably will not help, unfortunately. He is addicted and needs help to get off them.
The best thing is to support him. Let him know that you want to help him get off them.
Be supportive. Talk to him and see if you can't find out for sure how many he is taking. Then try and reason with him. Help him gradually.
If he is taking 4 a day, have him continue on 4 a day for 1 week. Each week reduce by 1 pill. After he has taken 1 pill a day for one week, reduce to 1 pill every other day for another week. After that he is probably safe to stop. This will avoid the horrible withdrawal effects and is better than going cold turkey.
Of course , if he isn't willing or is going to go out and get them anyway, this is not going to help and he will need professional assistance.
Good Luck!
2006-09-08 04:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not something to be taken lightly. A good friend of mine died in his 20's from a sudden heart attack caused by the damage of pain pill abuse.
I don't know that you need to leave him, yu say some very cmplimentary things about him, and you may be keeping him from being worse than he is.
Go online and get information about long term complications from pain pill abuse. Tell him what he is facing, providing he lives long enough. He needs some good counseling and detox, and then a support group like narcotics annonymous is often helpful.
Tell him you are not going to be lied to, and that if he can't be accountable with the money to bring his check home and let you deal with the finances.
If you are really sick of it, set an ulimatem and stick to it. Either he get help, or whatever your level of tolerance is, or you will leave. Give him a date, and stick to it. Find a support group or counsellor for you as a family member of an addict, learn what an enabler is, and don't be one.
2006-09-09 13:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by mamasheilag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it. He is addicted and will need serious detox and rehab treatment to overcome the addiction. What happens when his employer does a random drug test? He will probably be discharged the moment he tests positive. Also, what happens if he is involved in a motor vehicle accident and the Police suspect him of being on something and administer an on the spot drug test? More and more employers require a pre-employment drug screen and on-going random drug testing. I know this because I sell the drug test kits to companies and law enforcement. The test gives results in merely a couple of minutes. So he is risking his health, his family/marriage, his co-workers safety and his employment. Try NarcoNon for some advice and help and/or a rehab/detox clinic as soon as you can.
2006-09-08 07:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by COACH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weather you choose to leave or not the problems are not going to go away. he needs to get into a rehab center.And you need to get counciling to because i am so sure its been an emotional rollercoster for you. I speak from first had experiance on this subject. My cousin who i am very close to lived with her boyfriend who was addected to meth and bacically any drug he could get his hands on. She left for awhile and came back to him one night he got so messed up he hit their 10 year old daughter she was very brave and called 911.He hit his kid because she was protecting her mother. Now he is in jail and she has moved on. i don't know you but I here your story so many times. I need to tell you to leave him but it;s not my position to tell you that because you probably will keep coming back unless your serious and take a stand just to protect you and your children.I think you no in your heart what to do. LEAVE. Thats so hard to do especially with kids. Their are places yu can go if you dont have a lot of money. People will help you I encorage you to talk to someone like your mom or dad anyone even a priest,just leave. Drugs change people he neeeds help and until he gets the help you need you need to leave.
2006-09-08 04:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is very hard to just stop taking them. Your body is craving them. You might try to get him in some rehab. Alot of it is him wanting to help himself. You think that you hurt, when you actually don't. My husband (of 3 wonderful kids) was in the same boat your in, I was addicted to pain pills, zanies anything that I could get my hands on just to feel numb or a high. I did lie, denied wouldn't talk about it cause I didn't want to hear it. Then he asked me to meet him somewhere. so I went well it happened to be the "hospital" and they ended up keep in me in there for a week and I look back now and it was the best thing he's ever done for me. So you might think about that or you can go to his Dr. for one and let him know that he is abusing his pills, but then again he could be getting them elsewhere, as well. Just always be there for him! And let him know that your kids are seeing him like this and that it scares them and you. My best wishes for you!
2006-09-08 04:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Addicts are not good partners, not trustworthy, not safe to live with. You need to seriously consider separating for your own and your childrens' sake. Separation will also force him to realize the seriousness of his problem, and he will believe you when you say he must get control over this. Talk to a trusted friend or family member and to your own doctor for advice and to help make a plan. If he lets you go and chooses the pills, you are not losing anything worth crying over.
2006-09-08 04:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-30 11:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by elidia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but codeine addiction is one of the worst addictions and is one of the hardest to kick. He needs professional help, no doubt about it. He will have to go to rehab or atleast a medical facility.
good luck
2006-09-08 04:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may need a clinical detox. The sad truth is that no drug addict at all can ever be helped if thet themselves do not ask for the help. Good Luck
2006-09-08 04:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by alanc_59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM AND PROVE YOUR POINT THAT HE NEEDS REHAB THEN MAYBE HE WILL SEE YOU ARE SERIOUS AND GET HELP IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WILL GET HELP GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS YOU
2006-09-08 04:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by Waynes Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋