Please answer this?? what should I do?
What should i do?
Could you please give me the best advice you have? I am just not ready to let her go yet??
this is an email she replied to me...is she letting me down easy, or is she scareed, like she says she is...because she is only 13 and never been in a relationship before??
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
This happened about a week ago. I havent barely talked to her since, and am respecting her decision. My question is.
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Does she not like me like that, or is she just scared. Because, me and her obviously had something goin, and then she just kinda stopped, and now this. So what should I do. I know not to smother her, and not to bring it up. I am respecting her wishes, because I want her to be happy. she is 13 and i am 15 . And dont say Im to young. I know, I've like many girls, but none like her, and I am jsut not ready to let her go.
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because she said..she just doesnt want to ruin a friendship, because we have been friends since I was like 5 ..so please help
2006-09-08 04:32:41 · 35 answers · asked by robinson z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, you've asked this before.
I think you're going to do what you want to do, even though I maintain that she just wants to be friends. But in the end, do whatever you want - it's your life.
2006-09-08 04:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is be "just friends" unless you want to ruin a friendship over hormones. Relationships between men and women like this happen all the time. Girls think you're just a friend, and the guys think it can turn into something better. Guys typically can't see a girl as just a friend if they are attracted to them, they automatically want more. Maybe she does like you more than a friend, but isn't ready to change that aspect of your relationship yet. If you value your friendship with her, don't avoid her for letting you know how she feels, accept it, and maybe later on down the road she'll feel the same way.
2006-09-08 04:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going further will ruin the friendship. She is letting you down easy. I know you're depressed right now. But believe me when I tell you this will pass with time. You are not too young for these feelings, but you are too young to focuss on one girl. I know it doesn't seem like you can go on right now, but you will and have many other relationships with other girls. It is normal feelings you have right now. She may not be ready for having a serious relationship. I have a 13 year old and she won't admit when she likes a boy. She get's mad when I ask her about it. Even though you are both young. You are both in a very different age group. You're 3 years from becoming a Man. When that happens, you will have different taste in girls and may not feel like this when she is 15. Think long but not too long about it. Enjoy your life, teen years are the best years of your life. Enjoy them now!
2006-09-08 04:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK well she probably likes you but she is scared because you are close friends and she doesn't want to loose you as a friend if the two of you don't work out, which is totally understandable. So take it slow just be friends and if things are meant to turn into something more they will get there, if not then you have a good friend for life and you should be thankful for that. Don't pull away from her though, act normal like you have with her before she sent you that email. If you hung out on weekends keep doing so, if you talked on the phone every night normally keep doing that to. If things are meant to be they will be......
2006-09-08 04:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heavy issues. You said that you and her "obviously had something goin," but she says that she's never "thought of being more than friends with you." I'm not sure whether the two of you may have exchanged a kiss or whether there was a physical episode or two, which makes it difficult to evaluate.
Personally, I don't think she's scared. I think she wants to be friends. If you really are interested in her, and you think there is a chance she may be interested in you as well, the worst thing you can do is continue to pursue this right now.
Give her some time and space. If she doesn't attempt to broach this issue with you again, you should just move on, as difficult as that may appear to be.
2006-09-08 04:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by Pankalicious! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok look you guys are way to young to be stressing over this kind of thing. your 15 and she is 13. you both have a lot of time b4 this should be an issue. be her friend. hang out, go to a movie or something but save the seriouse stuff for a few years from now. i know that in this day and age it seems the norm to see 13 year old girls all in seriouse realationships and dating already but hello!!!! shes still just a kid. she told you she wants to be friends so take it. if you push for more she may end up not even wanting that. and she is right if you guys are good friends now and u start dating and it dosent work out you could end up hating each other. and you will have lost a great friend that meant a lot to you. so just leave it like it is and see where things go in the future.
2006-09-08 04:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by amanda_316_99 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say that she is trying to let you down, when you ask a girl out and she said "I don't want to ruin our friendship", it is a sure sign that the girl doesn't want to be your girlfriend. It is a let down.
First of all, do not pursue your relationship much longer. You should only think of her as friends ONLY. I will tell you my past experience, I used to like a girl, sent her a letter saying I have feelings for her even though we do not know each other at all, Been pursuing her since 6th grade and continued til 12th or 11th grade, in 12th grade, now, there is a killer after me. I am guessing the "killer" is the girl I used to like in 6th grade. JUST LET HER GO!!!!
2006-09-08 04:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please respect her wishes and move on. She is only 13. She is not ready for a relationship. It's the time in life for both of you to have fun, enjoy your friends, go to school and prepare for the future. Just hang out with girls and guys and do things together. She clearly doesn't want a relationship. She wants to enjoy life without complications, and so should you. Let it go, otherwise you will cause problems for her and her parents will get involved. I hope this helps.
2006-09-08 04:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by son-shine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look kid, sorry to kill your hopes but she does not want to be your girlfriend. When a girl starts telling you that she doesn't want to ruin the friendship between you two, it's a code for "I like you as a friend, but I'm not attracted to you as a boyfriend" Just be man about it and keep doing your thing bro. You're gonna find a chick who you like and she'll like you back and you'll be better off. You don't want to be with a girl who doesn't want to be with you buddy, it makes sense, right? So, move on and your time will come playa! You're young, you got the whole world in front of you.
2006-09-08 04:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by Will 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She says that she doesnt want to ruin the relationship but shes doing it. Its very comfortable for her to say when and what kind of relationship you ll both have. But guess what? Its up to you too. So If she doesn want something serious, why should still keep the good thinks of you, she has the milk without buying the cow. So cut the milk providing milkman, shes want have the benefit of your presence and friendship anymore.
Cut contact with her and see what happens. Dont get mad and dont act needy. Just be indifferent. Your friendship has evolved to a higher level and shes holding it up. Shes the one to be blamed for it.
2006-09-08 04:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never understand women. even they dont know what they want. if you want her to be happy (good luck) do as she asks. if you care enough what makes her happy should make you happy, even if it makes you feel crappy. a friendship is worth more than a relationship. i have had many relationships turn into poop, but a good friend is hard to find. a relationship can mess up a friendship quickly. with her being only thirteen she doesnt know what she wants yet, give it a few years and it might work out. sorry if i am not much help, but good luck.
2006-09-08 04:45:37 · answer #11 · answered by lheitjan_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋