Do you think men feel embarrased to bring their g/f around friends if she is heavy or not that attractive?

Question

Do you think that it is a sign of immaturity or normal human interaction to fear the comments of other people.

Answer 1

If a man is embarrassed to have his girlfriend be with his friends, she really isn't a girlfriend. She's just a stopping-off point for him until he finds someone he isn't embarrassed to be with.

Answer 2

Level of immaturity? Hummm? I ponder this with great despair because it hits awful close to home.
I am 37 Years old, 6' 2" tall, very physically fit. I married my high school sweetheart at 20 years old, she was nothing but a hottie, most guys dream girl. I took a job with a small family owned company we/ 6 employees, used a lot of hours to help build this company larger, then purchased the company 8 years later. I now employee over 130 people, 17 years later.

When we first married, she worked and stayed very active, including 5am sessions at the gym with me. She stopped going after about 2 years, and immediately starting gaining weight. She quit her job to run the household, which after a while included hiring a full time maid. She went from 118lb's to 285 in 3 years.

My position / company requires that I attend social functions, trade shows, speaking engagements, etc ... and I would notice a big difference in peoples demeanor when they approached me while she was present -vs- when she was not.

I spoke with her several times regarding this. She never tried anything except a few fad diets. I felt very betrayed, as I had kept my physical appearance up for her, and she had let go. The more betrayed I felt, the more ashamed I became.

I quit taking her with me to any type of business functions, she missed out on a tom of great travel experiences. Then I quit taking her anywhere with me, yes, I was ashamed, and she would do nothing to help herself.

Last year, I dumped her fat butt! paid her a hefty sum of money and got on down the road. I can honestly say that I am at total ease with my decision, and feel no remorse.

Is this immaturity?

Answer 3

Unfortunately it is true.

The reason for this is poor self esteem on the mans part. Men care about what other men think of them because we are competitive by nature. We want the best everything, and the prettiest girlfriend to parade around.

However, I don't like to generalize and say that all men are like that. In fact there are a lot that are not. Those men who have enough self worth to not need that approval from other people.

This is the kind of man you should be looking for in fact.

As we get older as men we realize that it's not that important and start seeing people for who they are. So yes, it is a result of a level of maturity....

Answer 4

Those are two different questions. yes it is normal to fear the comments of other if you are unsure about something or insecure. But a man should never be with some one if he is embarrassed to be seen with her. If this is the case he should not be with her. who ever you are dating when ever you are with anyone you should not be embarrassed by them or not go out. surround yourself with people you are proud to be with. In the Case of someone you are with gaining weight for reason or another you should care for them enough that you are past looks. Some guys date fat chicks because they are insecure and well they find that easier. But really it is low and they should be ashamed of themselves. Best answer is don't be with someone that you think doesn't want to take you around their friend s that is never a good sign.

Answer 5

I think it can be a sign of immaturity.
If He is really in love and his friends are true (meaning they are always looking for his best interest), he won't be embarrased and they won't judge him, however, we live in a highly critical society, where women's and men's bodies are always under scrutiny so I would also say that it is normal for us humans to dislike being bothered by friends or family but love for the person as a whole and not their image should prevail.

Answer 6

Sounds like you're the one who has a problem....are you sure your b/f feels this way, or are you projecting because of your own inner insecurity?

(please...I'm not saying you are in any way unattractive, obviously I haven't seen you....but from the tone of your question.....)

So....sure I think it's normal to fear derision from others, but I also think that most people over-do that fear. Be more confident!!!

Answer 7

Like in the show "Malcolm in the middle", Remember when Malcolm and some cheerleader dated? The cheerleader is embarrassed to have Malcolm to be seen in public. When a partner is embarrassed to been in public, there is no actual sparks between you guys. If my girlfriend was very ugly, I would still take her to places still. One of my friends have a very ugly girlfriend to me but she is very pretty to him.

Answer 8

I'd like to think that it's the latter of the two,if he loves you it won't matter,but at first it could be fear of the reaction you may get.Hope his friends are not that shallow.

Answer 9

I would be embarrassed to be with an overweight girl. But then I make sure I am not over weight. I think it's only fair.

Answer 10

i think that if a man is embares of bringing his girgfriend oround its provably that hi is in love with her regarless of how she looks to other people butt realizes that she might not meet todays society standards for a "hot girl" or maybe he just wants to play around ( usualy someone can sense wich one it is )