I've been together with my boyfriend for a long time and I have always known that he is not a good loonking guy. Would that be a barrier for you?
2006-09-08 04:16:22 · 9 answers · asked by Amy H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah if your not attracted to him how did you get together, there has to at least be a little attraction in the beginning.
2006-09-08 04:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical attraction at least for me is only about 30% of what matters in a relationship. There is a difference between not being good looking and being down right ugly. You have to ask yourself several questions. If this is the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with will looks really matter in your old age? When you wake up next to the person in the morning does their sight scare the living hell out fo you?
Conversation and having lots in common can overcome quite a few barriers. Its nicer to have someone you can have great conversations with and a lot of fun with than just having someone thats nice to look at and that people will compliment you for when you are walking down the street.
2006-09-08 11:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, it was not a barrier at all. I was married to a man I was never attracted to.-ended in divorce- Now I am married to a man who I am very attracted to and it is so great.
There had to be some sort of attraction in the beginning. And think of how beautiful and what a great start to a great relationship it will be if you are attracted to HIM as a person. I think that is great. And I think the sexual relationship is more intimate.
So I have two opinions, it really depends on you
2006-09-08 11:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are a good person to be able to look beyond how someone looks (unless you are blind or close to it, then you have no choice).
Personally, I find physical appearance to be important because I have to be attracted to the person if I want to be sexually active with them. I'm all about the "personality rules" philosophy; but I still need to want to be physical with the person.
However, there is a difference between being selective and shallow/picky; if you can't be with a person because thier hair is too short, than that's being a shallow jerk.
2006-09-08 11:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya,it could be a barrier if i didn't know what he was about.your partner should always compliment your looks as in the two of you should look good together n if you think he's no longer good for you,you can always move on.
2006-09-08 11:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by glamdoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothered you ...you wouldnt be with him. You've been with him a long time so whats the problem?
2006-09-08 11:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be for me - I don't even like good looking guys - LOL
2006-09-08 11:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not for me looks are not all that impt to me its who the person is that matters.
2006-09-08 11:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by l_iwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, because ugliness is a disease and is contagious duh everyone knows that
2006-09-08 11:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋