When I'm at my bf's place, he play games all the time.?

Question

Is this a common problem that gals face in a relationship? As the subject goes... How do you deal with it? And for guys..why is it so?
Games ..eating up all the quality time.

Answer 1

It's pretty normal but there is a solution. Just have a talk with him and try to establish when he can play games and when he should just be with you. If he's not ready to give up his games then maybe he isn't ready to give you the quality time you need in a relationship. Also, you could try to play games with him. You could have a fun time having him teach you about the games he plays.

Answer 2

Yeah this is so. It's a hobby of ours. Might as well accept it. He could have a worse hobby ya know.
If anything why don't you at least try a game out with him once. You can both spend some time playing together. Give it a chance. What will it hurt?

Answer 3

RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLE 25 (Sherry Argov): Men like rules and they like guidelines. If there's something you don't like, he'll respect you for voicing it. He wants to know what the "do's and don't s" are. And don't forget the more rational and calm ou remain, the more emotional he will become. The best way to set limits w/ a guy when he's testing you is by controlling the ebb and flow of your attention. An emotional reactionis always a reward, even if it's negative attention! :-)

Answer 4

WOW, I was waiting for a question like this to come up, and I thank you for asking it. I can not deny that I only date guys who are in love with video games. To explain my opinion, my BF actually works on Video Games as an animator, so naturally we play games together and he brings home a lot of stuff to show me that he worked on. I currently teach Game Art and Design and work as a freelance artist. So I guess my perspective is from a different angle then yours. But I think it can help you.

Guys like it when you can relate and "hang" with them on their own level when it comes to what they find entertaining. Nothing is hotter than a girl that can step up and play with the guys on a networked game of Battlefield or co-op game of Battle for Middle Earth online. My students (who are not much older than me) tell me that if they could find a girl as in to game as they are, or at least show some interest, they would be the perfect girl.

My advice is to not pretend you like to play games, or watch games being played, but try to accomadate his interests by trying. One thing I have learned is that you can NOT change a guy - if a man likes sports, nothing comes between him and his Superbowl weekend, nothing. Same with video games. I remember when Oblivion came out, we did not see each other for two weekends in a row. It comes with the territory - you fall in love and want to remain in a relationship with your great guy who happens to be a video game fanatic - then you have to find a way to enjoy and understand his passion.

Try taking to him about how he can spend time playing games on the weeknights all he wants, but you have HIM on Friday night, Saturday and Sunday. Maybe one a month, on a Saturday night, you will watch him play with his friends in a tournament (if he does this). Also, I recommend getting some games that you might like. The list is long, but if you are interest, drop me a message.

Personally, I think a guy in love with games is better than a guy who lives and dies for baseball and football, or golf. I think you have a good chance here to "reclaim" your man, and maybe have some fun yourself along the way.

Answer 5

Not every guy plays games. I used to when I was younger but I have given it up and found other hobbies which are just as cool which I could do with a GF if I had one.

Answer 6

First of all life is to short to be playing games. You should tell him that you like him, and enjoy being with him, but that you are not into the playing games thing. Then tell him that he needs to make up his mind on what he wants: You, or someone else who will play the little high school games!

Answer 7

First off I would try to play the games with him, and if that doesn't work out. Then talk to him about it. I know that telling him about how I felt helped a lot.

Answer 8

Well your problem is a common problem cause guys they grow up quit slower than women.
They mature at a turtl pace so its either you will not put up with that and leave and try to find yourself a real man that WILL take the time for you OR just live with it. Cause girl He will not change for you..
Beleive me.

Answer 9

Ladies are guilty too....I'm guilty,I just love gaming,find a game that is a two player game and joint in.I ran a guy off,but I can sympathize with you because I hate football.

Answer 10

Welcome to club sister. No matter what, I swear to god, EVERY FRICKEN TIME I get to his house I have to wait at least an hour just to get a kiss and hug from him. And forbid me if I walk in front of the TV in the middle of the game. Its horrible. I wish that girls had something that was really annoying to guys that we could do EVERYDAY and not get sick of. Maybe that should be a question on here also?Hmmm.........