my bf and i broke up with him and then he visited me a couple of times before my school started since i thought he was going to another univerity than me.the coincidence is that we ran into each other a couple of days ago at my univeristy only to figure out that he is also going there. i was shocked, confused and surprised since i knew that my folks would take it hard. lately we have gotten back together with out telling either of our families and last night i told my mom that i ran into him and that we had lunch. she was disappointed in me since my bf at one point would not tell me the place he was attending and would call home. later on i called my sis and she also gave me the same lecture as my mom and how i have no self respect and so forth to which i replied that i do have self respect to which i cursed her out. i have no people believing in me nor what i do and think that this guy is bad news just from looking from the outside of matters. can someone plz give some advice?
2006-09-08 03:48:37 · 7 answers · asked by icycrissy27blue 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and to clarify things he is older than i am yet i know what i want in the future which is to have a family, but him he does not want that. plus he wants to marry some supermodel as if i were not good enough for him. sometimes i feel as though he knows that i am there and so he sort of takes me for granted. he sort of changed for the good, but a little bit which is better than nothing. this is the same guy who surprised me last semester by attending the same comm.college and being in 2or3 of my classes which he knew that i was taking. his reason for not telling me was that up to the last minute he did not know where he was going so i hope that sort of gives out more info.
2006-09-08 13:13:33 · update #1
wow 1st of all just to let u know i have to agree w/ur sister and ur mom.. why wouldn't ur bf tell u where he was attending?? was it suppose to be a suprise or did he really not want u to know where he was attending?? in the end u have to deal w/this situation..
but if u feel that u deserve how he has treated u then u get what u deserve.. if u have to be defensive w/anyone who is telling u the truth about ur ex or bf whatever he is now to u then u know that u don't need to be w/him.. they r ur family and they r only looking out for u and ur best interest cause they see what u went through and they only know what u tell them.. so they aren't looking at the outside they r looking at what u tell them and his actions...
u do need to leave him alone and find someone else...
2006-09-08 03:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The red flags are their, think about it, he knew where you was going, but you did not know were he was going. and only after a few days , you run into him at school. You need to call up your mom, and sister and apologize, tell them, It was as much surprise to you, as I am sure it is to them, may be you better think about what you are doing, and put some space between you and him. Just tell him you want to concentrate on school. and just cool out for a while, until we can make better decisions.
2006-09-08 11:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think he's shady. We all have people that leave footprints on our hearts that we don't want to let go of but he can't be trusted. He's practically a liar. Why wouldn't he tell you what college he's going to? Seems like he has lots to hide. I think that you should distance yourself away from him. You do not need that stress now that your starting college because your grades will suffer. Wish ya the best
2006-09-08 10:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Vee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would he not tell you where he was going to school? If this man truely wanted to be with you, don't you think he would have been excited that you were both attending the same universitity? Sounds to me like you should RUN!
2006-09-08 10:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by crandle55 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stick by your decision regardless of what your parents or sister says. Just tell your boyfriend not to ever lie to you again because if he'd lie about the small things, think of what he'll do when the big things happen.
2006-09-08 11:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you broke up with him for a reason. if it was just because you were going to different schools, then maybe give it a try. if it was something else, remember that, and think about what you want carefully
2006-09-08 10:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by mickey g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you feel like doing .. not what other people tell you to
2006-09-08 10:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by G. C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋