explain to me why?

Question

ok in general I am a believer of god. Now recently I reunited with a long lost friend. She is in the proccess of divorcing her husband and tells me she recognized in herself she never really loved him it was more of a marriage of financial gain and codependence. Now with that being said I told her I thought she was very brave for being able to admit this to herself. The conversation continued and she then told me she had found god, and she felt thankful for all he has given her. I told her that was wonderful. Then she asked me why was it that I was not married to the man that I have been with and the father of my children for so many years. I told her it was never an issue for us and in our hearts we are. Then next the dreaded words came. God frowns upon this and you will have to stand in judgement of your sins. I couldnt believe it. Why does religion tend to seperate instead of bringing one another together. Isnt this the very message Jesus the messenger of god tried to tell us.

Answer 1

Turn to the words of Jesus. He met this woman at a well once, He said to go and fetch her husband and bring him back with her. She declared that she didn't have a husband. She was never officially married. Jesus was implying that her husband was the man she was being intimate with (He actually said she had had many), but He didn't condemn her. He accepted her. You should look into that story. I think your answer is there. Jesus, whom we follow, rarely tore apart, He built up. Some people get confused. They don't even read His words.

God loves you. I pray you love Him back.

Answer 2

A very good question. Let me first say, though, that I think your friend went about this in the wrong way; I apologize for my sister's zeal!

As you know, God created man and woman with the intent that they be "one flesh." This relationship is meant to mirror the relationship we have with Jesus Christ, our betrothed Husband (since we are the Bride of Christ). From the beginning, God stressed the importance of "covenant relationships" between Himself and the Jews in order to cement His spiritual marriage with them. Read Jeremiah 3 to understand what eventually happened after the Jews broke this covenant numerous times; God "divorced" Israel (read Hosea to understand God also "divorced" Judea). The end result is given at Jeremiah 31:31 -- humanity needed a New Covenant, which was brought by Jesus Christ at the appointed time. The point is, God never has a relationship without a covenant to seal it.

What does this have to do with living together? God wants your relationship to mirror the covenant you entered into with Him when you became Born Again. God was faithful and agreed, by giving you undeserved grace, to never break His covenant with you, for better or for worse. In turn, He expects Christians to behave in like manner; so He would wish you to enter into a formal "covenant relationship" with your significant other, where there is a lifelong promise.

I hope this helps. Peace.

Answer 3

First off, your friend, if she "found JESUS" would NOT be divorcing her husband on THAT GROUND!!

You can only divorce, because of Adultery!! So, your "self righteous" friend should read the bible more and see her "errors of her ways".

Am I judging? No, just making an observation as to why she is getting on your case..(though, she "is" right, that you should have been married to your husband before the kids were born, or before sex even occurred, but, I am not one to patronize, because I am not your judge or jury, the LORD is the one who will judge us, and HE wont judge us until we are dead, I am merely giving you the same "heads up" that your girlfriend is giving you).

Tell your friend to get the beam out of her eyes, before she can get the "mote" our of yours, as the Bible says, you have to get your house in order, before you can judge or criticize your brother!

Its always "nice" that some one finds the LORD, and wants to "help the World", but, the problem with that is, that they never look at thier own faults, and cure them, before they start to point out others, so they become very bad examples to those who are either new to the ways of the LORD, or just wanting to seek the LORD, and are "put off" because of people whos imperfections show so much, and they become self righteous, (remember, just because the LORD forgives us our sins, we are to "put on CHRIST" and ACT like good Chrisitians and follow in HIS footsteps).

My suggestion is to read GOD'S Word, and see what your missing in life! Also, get the boyfriend and kids to church, and you will have a wonderful time as a family.

I hope that this will not put you off in your effort to seek the LORD, and ask for HIS forgiveness, and repent your sins so that you may receive Grace and Salvation and I may meet you in the clouds when HE comes for HIS own, the Church.


I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 4

Your friend needs to look at herself, God abhors divorce, it does not sound like her husband cheated, or beat her. So she as a "Christian" cannot divorce her husband.

In your case she is correct, you are living a lifestyle of sin, and it can easily be corrected by getting married.

Religion will always divide, a relationship with Jesus will draw His people closer, and the hard of heart will reject.

Answer 5

She is turning her wrong doing of divorcing her husband into a lesser evil by turning on you and your situation. The Lord Jesus who bled and died for our sins is not going to hold it against you for not having a piece of paper that they did not even have in Jesus day that says this man is your husband. But, Have you slept with any other man since this man who fathered your children? If no, then in the Lords eyes you are married. If you are sleeping with other men then you need to get right with the
Lord because that is breaking a commandment.

Answer 6

God set up marriage. He said it is not good for man to be alone, so he created a woman for Adam. Many times when you look at the bible you see where it talks about marriage, the role of the husband and the role of the wife. Jesus did not intend for man and woman to live together and not be married. So your friend is right.

Answer 7

I think, unfortunately, that people use religion to diversify more than they use it to unite. It is true that God would prefer you to be married. BUT, Jesus preached tolerance and love for everyone no matter what. And I think a lot of Christians forget that. I think they also forget that judging others is a sin. They just seem to want everyone else to follow the rules of Christianity so badly, they don't seem to care who they alienate along they way. And they forget the basic principles of Christianity: Love, tolerance, and forgiveness.
I am 100% Christian and I am not without my flaws. However, I do not and would not judge others based on their lifestyles. That's not up to me. I don't want people to do it to me, either.
I try to do the best I can in this world, and I hope it's enough. I think that's what most people are doing. We are all just trying to find our own way...

Answer 8

the problem with religion is that it is not clear cut, a lot of the meaning behind the bible changes from person to person. And even the bible contradicts itself, so every person with an opinion about God's word thinks their opinion is right. in all reality Jesus voided all the rules and dumbed down the comments, when he said "love your God with all you mind, body, and soul". which was the most important comment according God's son.

Answer 9

Good question - why do people have to be like this.

I guess everyone feels they are right and the other is wrong, and they feel the need to push their opinions on them.

She has no right to tell you that God frowns down upon your actions. Who is she to judge, is she God's right-hand man? Sheesh, even Jesus didn't do this I'm sure.

Answer 10

I believe she had no right to judge you if she was going through something of sin herself. I am sorry that she did that. I do believe that we are all accountable for our actions. Her saying that to you was like when the word said
"to be careful not to pick the speck out of others eyes when you have a plank in your own."(Paraphrased)

Again I am sorry.