Why do people look at you like you shot the Pope when you say you don't like children?

Question

I DO NOT LIKE [other people's] KIDS. What's the big deal? It's not one of the deadly sins. Most children are loud and messy. I can only tolerate them in small doses. They really get on my nerves.
I have a daughter who is 10. She is very mature for her age as I have spent a lot of time with her, teaching and training and nuturing and loving and disiplining her. SO, don't write me and say stupid junk like "I feel sorry for your kid". She is a very happy child, but she is also very well behaved. I don't let her act a fool in public or do as she pleases. I just can't stand unruly children [or thier parents for that matter - they ought to be ashamed for letting their kids be so bad].

Well, I just wanted to get that off my chest. I feel better.

See, the other day, a lady from my church asked me if I'd be interested in helping out with the kids. My first thought was "HECK NO! Some of those kids are aweful!" but I didn't say that, I just said "uh, I don't really like kids" and her dang jaw just about hit the floor. I said "well, one or two just ruin it for the rest" and she just changed the subject and hasn't spoken much to me since (boo-hoo).

Answer 1

It's ok not to like other proples children :) S h i t half the time I can't even stand the three I got ! they can be so rude and mouthy... and sit back and look at their friends they bring home...oh they are soooooo sweet and nice,please and thanks it's delightful ! so I say ...... Congrats on having an amzing daughter,can I have your email to ask ya how the heck ya did it? ha ha ....and don't fret...your not the only one .......

Answer 2

LMAO lady, I feel your pain. I have three of my own kids, but I can barely stand other peoples children today. I was confronted by some woman at my church around VBS time and asked the same thing to which I said simply " Children are NOT my calling" lmao. Yah I have them, but do I want to be around them constantly? Hayell no!
It's a shame too, not the kids fault...it's the parents fault most of the time. I've never ran into so many damned lippy-get what they want-because they throw a fit-children in my life.
My children know better than that!!! I tell you it's a crazy crazy world out there today when a child runs the household and makes all the descisions...and it's rampant.
Everyone is out there feeling sorry for their kids today instead of busting their asses and raising children who give and deserve respect. Not saying it's EVERY kid, but about 7 out of 10 you have the *pleasure* of running into today. Glad to hear I'm not the only one who grimaces at the thought of a playdate, lmao.

Answer 3

I love my kids but like yourself I can only tolerate other children for a short time.We don't have to like everyone in this world and we are entitled to our own opinion and I just happen to agree with you.If more parents would spend more time with their children and teach them right from wrong at a young age then we wouldn't have all these bad *** kids running around.I know you can only do so much and then they think and have a mind of their own but if you give them a good start in life then perhaps they will make right choices most of the time.Speaking from experience...I have a 14 year old son and sure he gets into trouble but for being rude to adults.NOPE.He respects adults and for the most part he is a pretty good teenager.I am just blabbing here but I had to write and tell you I understand where u are coming from.Don't let what anyone else says on here piss you off or make you feel bad cause its a free country and you are entitled to your opinion and our opinions are always Correct!!

Answer 4

Because or socitey tells us that its only scocially acceptable to like everyone. I like my kids better than anyones as I should.

When I was growing up I aways loved children. Now I have two of my own, and I really don't care for others because of the parents usually. They parent very different from me.

Now why do people give you the look for saying it: Because you don't have to say everything you know to be true. Just don't say it, even if you feel it. There is nothing good that can come from being rude to another person about thier child. Its the same thing as if someone told you...I don't like your child. There is no point.

Answer 5

I hate other people's bad kids too. They drain your energy like little vampires with all their misdirection and discipline issues. People can hate me too. At least my child knows how to act in public. Hate even more...he got spankings for bad behavior. Snapped him right the hell on out of that stuff.

I don't think these people are ashamed. They either don't know how to be a parent, or they think the crap is cute. Either way, it's sad. That's why I advocate the right to bear arms. From what I see, we have a generation of delinquent suspects being turned out into society as a result of the new status quos in raising kids, and books like the Dr. Sears manual.

It's cute now, but in 15 years when little Timmy is breaking into my home because mommy never taught him it's not right to break into others homes and take things, I'll be ready with a doberman and a 12 gague. Zero tolerance.

Answer 6

Its a shame that so many kids have been poisoned by their dr spock'd parents. They grow up into the selfish young people we see today breeding offspring that we have to pay for and look out for.

I love all children, and i have yet to meet a truely bad child.

Its the parents who create monster children, and its not the fault of the child, they certainly had no choice in who their parents were and whether or not theyre qualified.

You pair those parents up with a society that pushing self love and self comfort, and a legal system that throws you in the bowels of the court system for spanking your kid, and you end up with a whole generation of young people who were never taught how to function in society and were treated like the lead weights that drowned their parents.

Its sickening really.

But for the sake of the children who cannot help their behavior i cannot dislike them, just pitty them, and hope some day their parents wake up and realize what a huge injustice theyre doing their children and the world at large.

Answer 7

I too do not like (other people's children). And I know the feeling of the look like you are pure EVIL !! People will get over it and it stops them from asking me to baby sit which is fine by me.. Everone assumes because you have kids that you love all children or that because you dont like children your own must be abused. I dont know why people assume that everyone in the world has to love kids.. But I am with you on the other people children thing I dont like them much either.. and Yes mine are well loved and are not abused ( for the morons out there)

Answer 8

I get that look when I say I don't want children. So what? I know I don't do well with children. I know myself well enough to be responsible enough to not bring a child into the world that I wouldn't be able to love and don't want. I'm glad you've done a good job of raising your little girl, regardless of what others think. You're just as much entitled to not liking annoying little brats as they are entitled to wanting to be around them. *shrugs*

You're not required to babysit anyone elses children. I respect you for outright saying you don't want other children around, rather than trying to save face and feelings by saying "oh, I'm busy this weekend", every weekend.

Answer 9

Its not really an uncommon feeling..alot of people just don't voice it probably. I feel annoyed with unruly kids too but I usually assume its misdirection from the parents..its really kind of sad.
I have well behaved kids too but not perfect angels, I for the most part enjoy kids..I kinda feel reinvented after my children, but I'll admit that sure I favor MINE! lol

Answer 10

well i agree with you..i don't care for unruly children in public either... however i do believe that children need to be children.. they need to play and interact...i have a three year old little boy..when he is at home..he likes to run and play and pretend he is superman and jump off the couch,,,but does that mean i let him do it at other peoples houses no...i have respect...for others and their homes as well as public places..my husband and I are very educated people as well.. he is a school teacher and I am going to college to be one.. we feel pretty comfortable knowing what is accepting as a child. i commend you for teaching your child such good manners..just make sure you let her be a child and do things normal children do as well..don't have her knitting a swaeter at the age of 10 instead of having friend for a sleep over etc..it is not healthy unless she is socially active ..

Answer 11

You have a right to feel that way.Some parents let their kids do what ever they want to do.kids don't get taught to respect other people or how to act in public.I have a friend who lets her kids run around at public events so she can enjoy her self and don't know what the kids are doing.