Please tell me how did you manage to get your life back if you have ever being dumped or cheated?

Question

It's been 2 weeks since he went away with someone else.. My friends are mad at me because I still haven't forgot him and they don't understand why I'm so sad, I started avoiding them but feel so alone by myself.. All I can do all these days is just breathe, got no strenght or will for anything else.. How could anyone put his smile back after 2 years relationship fall apart? Like I'm frozen in time, my life is passing by but all I can think of is him..

Answer 1

Believe it or not the only thing that worked for me was getting pissed, when I stopped feeling sorry for myself and stopped making excuses for him I got angry, very angry and I set out to prove to the world that I didn't need a man to do a damn thing for me. I managed in one years time to go from having nothing but the clothes on my back and the three children he left me with and no money to even feed them to having a great job, I BUILT a house (he never even had the initiative to buy us one) got my **** together, lost a bunch of weight and I am better now than I have ever been. Times have been tough, I've worked my butt off but you know what, now I realise that he wasn't good enough for me, never will be. After he took off to be with the love of his life he found out she was cheating, he lost his job and couldn't get another one for 10 months, lost his house, his retirement, his friends and his dignity.

You can do this and you have to believe in yourself. Everything happens for a reason, you may not know what it is but there is a reason and its not so that you could sit around broken hearted. Get up and do something with your pain, put it to use, seek counseling, put that anger into a workout or something, USE IT.

Answer 2

Well I have definitely been where you are. Some people say that I am still there, but you have to just have faith that things will get better.
You have to give yourself time. No one can rush you and tell you that you need to just get over it. Only you know how you feel. But you have to know that you won't feel this bad forever.
Think about things that you enjoyed doing before he came into your life and the plans you had before you ever met him. Focus on yourself. Figure out things that you want to do to improve yourself and soon you will get the strength to do those things.
Whenever you find yourself thinking about him, switch it and think about yourself. You have to know that you are more important than he is.
Just take it one day at a time. But as long as you are eating, sleeping, and breathing (and bathing) you are doing all that you need to do for now.
Give it a month and then start setting some small steps for you to accomplish, things to do, but don't be in a rush to find someone else just b/c he has.
Focus on yourself.

Answer 3

I had been in a relationship with a guy for 2 years also and when we broke up, i just thought to myself that things happen for a reason, and the reason are always for the best. Cause if we had never broken up, i would have been with a person who is very emtionally unstable and have plenty of issues, but thank God i found out about his situation. So right now you are thinking that what good will come out of a broken heart, but in due time you will see what i mean.

Answer 4

I get the feeling that your friends have never had their hearts broken, otherwise they wouldn't put you under pressure to move on. Two weeks isn't a long time to get over a two-year relationship. Even though you don't feel like it just now, try to break your routine by doing different things that you wouldn't normally do. I find that helped me. Try to meet as many new people as you can. When you come accross some good people you've never met before, you'll realise that this bloke who left you isn't actually as special as you thought.

I hope this helps because I know how bad a broken heart feels. xx

Answer 5

I always broke up with cheaters before they broke up with me. I had one who was going to marry me and actually was quite heartbroken. So I can't answer from experience, but I will say this:

You do not have to remain frozen in time. You should go out with your friends, enjoy activities, do something good for yourself. Put all the energy of being hurt into something empowering and good for you, like a class or something. Don't even think about him anymore. He hurt you and is not worth the time you are spending. You are worth more of the time. Spend the time fixing your present for the future, if that makes sense. Tell yourself, if it will work on you, "He is no one to me." If you catch yourself thinking about him, come up with a one line mantra you tell yourself immediately and force it away. This is obsession too, but it works and takes much less time than years spent wondering why. Take time for yourself, get busy with stuff, have fun with your friends. Soon enough they will tease you one day about him, and you will be like, "Who?"

Answer 6

you can try to go vacation, visit more places and more people, when the day you realise how big is this world and how many things happened in this world more serious than the problem you face, you can found out how tiny the problem that you are facing. There are still a lot of choice around this world, dont let a small problem wasting your precious time. Because age are limited. REMEMBER LIVE FOR YOUR YOURSELF!!!

Answer 7

Okay the first one is sex, have as much as you can, until you wake up in the morning and fell it was gross. Or try smoking but beware that it is gonna be hard for you to stop even after you get over the break up, and under any circumstances don't stay away from your freinds they are your comfort,your guidance,your third eye when the two arnet watching, blah blah blah. If you don't wanna smoke try to drink as much as alcholic drinks as you can but you should also realize that everytime you drink an alchol your life is shortened by 1/16. But the best method is to try and see some one else you would be amazed how fast the terrible thought of your previous boyfriend would leave. And plus it doesn't really have any side effects.

Answer 8

2weeks... of course the wound is still bleeding. u've already got used to having him around then suddenly u lost him... pity u... but then sooner or later u'll b able to get over it as long as u dun keep on thinking of him. or, if this don't work, then do the other way. think about him all day long. keep thinking about his weaknesses. his bad points. things u were tolerating previously. remind yourself that it may be better if u let him go. something like brainwashing yourself. then you may be better off this way. if not, seek help from family members, friends, or even a councellor if possible. u really need a helping hand now.

Answer 9

The most important thing to do is to not avoid your friends and force yourself to be around people even when you dont feel like it. Take some time to cry it all out, cry till you cant cry anymore and then make a daily effort to go out and hang out with your friends. Going on with your life is what will help you put this behind you. It takes time and your friends can help you through it.

Answer 10

of course it's not easy for you to move on! but you have to face the reality... i've been through those times to the point that i'd like to end up my life because my life is my boyfriend coz i've been with him for 4 years but we end up and leave each other... everyday i cried and i want to be alone also! why do we end up? we just realize that no matter what we've done, whereever we may go we cannot hide the fact that we cannot be with each other coz we're cousins! and it was really hard for me coz i used to live my life with him. we did not end up because there's a 3rd party but because we have to face the reality! it took me a year before recovered! for you i can say it can be easy coz your boyfriend went away with someone! learn how to think. time heal all the wounds! forgive and let go just what i did! think positive. you're still young and there's a lot of good things waiting for you in the feauture! what happen to me? i am happily married now with 2 daughters!!