well my boyfriend and i broke up about 3 weeks ago he was so sweet. we were great friends before and then we started having strong feelings for each other our relationship was great the best i ever had.....but a couple weeks before we broke up i noticed he started moving strangely not only to me but with everyone else...my friends and family all said that he's different, we broke up a couple weeks ago with him still wanting me as his cool friend and i have such a temper that i blew out of proportion and told him its over don't call cuz we are not together anymore....right now i'm missing him i lost my boyfriend and a great friend and now i don't know what to do...guys don't u think if he cared he would call me to see how i was going? should i call him and see how he's going....???
2006-09-08 02:54:40 · 25 answers · asked by Jessica Simpson 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i spoke to a pundit and he read our patra and he said that someone is working something on him, which i kinda believe cuz overnight he changed, his ex use to always call him and he told her that dont ever call him cuz its disrespectful to me, i strongly believe it's her. for all u hindus out there what do u think?
2006-09-08 02:57:51 · update #1
Call him, explain why you freaked out. Said you regret of not having him as a good friend and longer.. Say why not keep being friend, when you broke up the love is still there, just transformed into friendship... Say you want to have him as a friend. Then take it slowly until you sure you could handle this new fragile friendship well. I did the same with my ex, now we are great. he got his partner right away, me one year after him, now we are just four great friends. Never imagined that actually we are much better off being good friends.
2006-09-08 02:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by hoang anh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy hasn't called you probably out of respect for you. He knew he hurt you and is giving you what you asked for when you said not to call. He can't read your mind. If you want to talk to him, call him, even if it's just to say hi and see how it's going. Tell me you're sorry you blew up at him, but you were just hurt and said things out of anger. If you still want him as a friend, say so. But don't tell him something you don't mean (like "don't call me" and then wonder why he didn't). Be up front with him. He's obviously going through something big right now and he probably didn't want to drag you into it. Just be there for him as a friend and you might have a boyfriend again once he straightens out whatever is wrong. Good luck
2006-09-08 03:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if anything he is thinking about you more than your thinking about him. Yes you were wrong to blow up like that but i can understand why cause it happens to everybody when they're losing someone they love very much. If i was you I would call him, ask him is he OK and apologize for blowin up in his face, tell him you didn't want to lose him as a friend since you was already losing him as a lover and you want his friendship back because it means alot to you to have him in your life some kind of way and if being friends is the way, then you want to take it. And if he gives you the silent treatment that means he feels the same way but don't know how to put his words together, ask him how does he feel about what you said, he might want to hook up again after your done...lol bye and good luck
2006-09-08 03:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. One of the worst experiences of my life was dating a girl that was my best friend. I could talk to her about anything, we'd hang out and have a great time. We were always there for one another, listening to each others problems and supporting one another. Then our feelings grew stronger for one another and we began dating. It was a mess. She cheated on me and because I cared for her so much, not just as a girlfriend, but as a friend as well I didn't wanna give up on the relationship. We argued almost everyday for 1 year until she cheated on me again.
Even after all of that we still made an effort to be friends. It was never the same. We were great as friends and lousy as a couple. My feelings were destroyed. I had good days and days where I missed her so much I felt sick to my stomach.
I tell people to this day, unless you're willing to compromise your friendship, NEVER date your best friend.
He probably is having mixed emotions about the whole situation.
My advice to you (as hard as it may sound) would be to wait for him to call you. You gotta go out and do things you like, hang out with your friends etc. The more you sit around thinking about him the more you'll hurt. As time goes on your feelings will weaken and you'll be much better off.
Good luck with this whole situation. I've been through it and I know what you're going through. It sucks and it's really tough but you'll be able to get through it.
2006-09-08 03:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, right this is a extreme answer: ask your self why are you nonetheless married after residing with this guy for 5 months, because you're able to ascertain he's looking that query! It sounds like this guy is extreme approximately you yet unwilling to invest himself in a relationship which will end with you returning on your husband. i'm able to comprehend which you nonetheless have emotions on your husband, yet fact examine: do you rather rather think of there's achieveable that the two considered one of you should paintings issues out and get decrease back mutually? If no longer, then why are not you getting a divorce? And if so, then why are you stringing this different guy alongside? that's a shame that your husband has gotten himself into an risky way of existence, yet you are able to no longer have a healthful relationship with somebody in that situation. you are able to experience sorry for him and have compassion, yet that isn't a foundation for a healthful marriage! verify to no longer blame your self for his situation, the two: he's a grown guy and able to starting to be his very own alternatives. that's not your fault if those alternatives are undesirable ones. i think of you are able to desire to enable your emotions on your husband go quietly into the previous. shop on with by with the divorce and make a sparkling existence for your self, one that doesn't convey you heartache.
2016-09-30 11:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mrs Simpson let me tell you from my expireance from boy to girl that why he is acting that way is because he is already starting a relationship outside your own. I would bet all my money that he was cheating on you even before you broke up. I had the very same expiereance, yes I know I am a dor, blah blah blah, but the truth is unless you guys were gonna get married eventually one of you is gonna lose taste of this relationship, in short he wants a " fresh" relationship.
2006-09-08 03:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by Gabriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he cares about you or he doesn't-calling you to check on you has nothing to do with it. We are not responsible for other peoples happiness so expect him to make you happy wet her y'all are together or not. If you ask me you are being selfish-it sounds like he needs all the support he can get right now since he is going through some kind of change. Let HIM now this is tough for you but you are there if he needs someone to talk to. Have you called him and checked on him lately?
2006-09-08 02:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, sorry to tell you this but you blew it. he's a great guy and you'd let him go. look, we all have our emotion up and down. so, it just tells you that you won't be there when the time is bad. and a righteous man won't call you since you the one who broke it off. now, he's giving you a hint that explaining his behavior. it's you that need to reconnect the relationship. so, if you want to make this work, ask him to for a date. see and feel how he react during the time with you.
2006-09-08 03:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he has not called proves that he thinks you are honest, so take it as a compliment. Yes, honest -- you said, "Don't call cuz we are not together anymore." He took you at your word and has done as you instructed. He may want to call, but you have made doing so hard on him. If you want to talk to him, the ball is in your court, so pick up the phone and call HIM.
2006-09-08 02:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could simply be respecting your wishes when you told him not to call you. Maybe you should pick up the phone and tell him that you are sorry for blowing up on him, take it from there.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-08 02:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋