she is my 1st galfrend,i never was in a relationship bfore,well i'm kinda sad bcoz i found out that she isnt a virgin.She didnt cheated me,but she lost it to her ex...She told me that after v got up closer.. i know that her past is her past and wat matter is now..but i cant take it, i feel its not fair for me..Now its been 3yrs now,and i still cant accept that my girlfrend isnt a Virgin..But i love her..how to handle this feelings..i'm suffering for 3yrs nw..need positive advice...and,plz tell..is it wrong to accept and forgive a persons past ?would it make me a great man.or stupid..
2006-09-08 02:50:54 · 23 answers · asked by Mesh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It was before you.
I you love her it wont matter.
Besides, if you are not experienced, you prob wont know the diff anyway.
Just have fun.
2006-09-08 02:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ron K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love somebody you accept them. So she has a past but remember so do you, Maybe you haven't had sex but probaly thier are other things that you might wonder how she would feel if she found out. Don't lose something that might be special because of insecurity. You will probably find that you are able to make her feel ways that nobody else has. It is all about love. Relax!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!At the same time u don't say how old U are????????????? "Making Love" is a very special experience sharing betweeen two people who care about each other and are going to be together. SEX is a minute/hour/night of feeling good. If you are young make the right decision for u. PROTECTION
2006-09-08 03:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by confused/hurt/angry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you asking for forgiveness for something she didn't do to you? She didn't know you existed when she had sex with her boyfriend. She didn't have any feelings for you. She probably thought she was going to be with him for the rest of her life. Her having sex with her ex-boyfriend had absolutely nothing to do with you.
If you're from a culture that expects people, particularly women, to be virgins, then you've probably been raised on that and it's hard for you to think otherwise. But you have to if you want to continue to have a healthy relationship with your girlfriend.
And you can't try to punish her for it either, because she doesn't deserve that since she didn't do anything to you. At this point she probably regrets it and feels bad enough considering how she grew up. Not that she did anything wrong. But she was honest with you and didn't lie to you. She could have easily done that and saved herself the trouble of dealing with you giving her a hard time about it all the time. Accept it and let it be. There are probably things about you that she doesn't think are all that great either, but she loves you and respects you anyways. Do the same to her.
And you're not "suffering" from anything other than your own ego and sense of possessiveness over your girlfriend. She has loved you for three years now, and you think you're "suffering" because of something that happened before she met you? You're lucky you have someone like her. Respect her, let the past go and stop making her feel bad about herself.
2006-09-08 02:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some serious thinking to do. Now can you really tell me that you would still be a virgin if a nice sexy young woman had stripped in front of you and offered you her body last year? Nuff said. So this girl had sex once? You would have had it 10 times if you could of. Let her teach you by getting on top and riding you. You will love it and you will not be a virgin any more. Say "OK teach me my love"
2006-09-08 03:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you must continue this relationship with this gurl, the earlier you allow her to disvirgin you, the better for both of you. Let me tell you with all honesty that your viginity state is really affecting you pschologically. And, beyond what you've said, you're suspecting her that someone else is doing what you're not doing for her, even presently. So, if you still love her, as you've said, let her use her experience to disvirgin you and, possibly teach you some techniques of having a passionate and fulfilling sex. Good luck to you.
2006-09-08 03:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin, GROW UP!! everyone has a past and if u insist on beating her with this indiscretion, you're gonna lose her! If you can't let go of her past then the 2 of you will never be happy, this is the voice of experience and 16 yrs married talkin
Get over it and let her teach you what she likes in bed, use it as a learning experience for both of you and as a couple you'll be much happier!
2006-09-08 02:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by koleebear 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know it's hard for you. But since you love her, why don't you just accept it? Anyway, she can teach you whatever she knows, and you 2 can enjoy loving each other. And if you really want to know, it makes you stupid to make yourself suffer for 3 years. Think clearly what is it that you want. Your girlfriend, or a virgin?
2006-09-08 03:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by gummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being such a panzy and grow up. so what she isnt a virgin BFD. if youve been with her for 3 yrs and u havent had sex with her yet that tells me she dont want ur sorry stupid panzy azz.
btw learn how to speak and type in english VIRGIN BOY.
heres the funny thing. after 3 yrs and shes not a virgin and had sex with other people but not with you lmao nowthats funny
2006-09-08 03:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey are u a jamaican.specfically are u umesh .hey umesh sad question ifu want to know which one of ur frens itis email me at yasheka_moya16@yahoo.com oh my.oh ur question.that was in the past she however told u and didnt lie so just chill and continue with ur relationship psmake sure u mail me
2006-09-08 03:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by sheka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're missing out on all the fun of sex and the excitement of a relationship by harping on your girlfriend's past. Neither of you can change her past, so just get over it if you truly love her and let the fun begin. Get over it and start gettin' it on!!! Have fun.
2006-09-08 02:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by nido_tr3s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was her decision to make back then, not yours.
You have a hangup, about virginity.
everyone is different and you have to respect that.
you made a decision, not to, and you have that. and she has to accept that.
She know that she is not going to get sex from you, and she has to either accept that or leave.
you have your beliefs and she has hers.
in order for this relationship to work, you have to accept her for what she is, not what you want her to be.
so either get over it or say good bye, because it will eat you up.
2006-09-08 02:59:50 · answer #11 · answered by Juggernaut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋