2006-09-08 02:49:58 · 19 answers · asked by desi07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a mother of three and 1 still at home, this is the hardest thing a mother can go through.
She doesn't want you to leave because it is a sign to her that you are all grown up and she is not ready. It is harder for a mother to let her children go. We carried you for 9 months and there is an attachment to our children that is like no other. This feeling we have to keep our children home is that we know you are safe here. We worry about the dangers that lurk outside in the world and we fear something will happen to our children.
Keep this in mind when you are talking with her about moving out. You are an adult and you want to be independent. It will take time for her to release the attachment of mother and child. Just discuss this with her as an adult, give her the reasons as to why you want to live on your own. Such as, you are an adult and need to have that responsibility, to learn to depend on yourself and not others, to learn from your mistakes, and to grow into the woman she is. That last one is what one of my daughters told me and that is still stuck in my heart till this day that she wanted to me like me. Hope this helps!
2006-09-08 04:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are ready to experience the world as an adult. I moved out when I was 17 and had to move back a few times... But hey taste the adult life...You might not be ready for but you have to make your own mistakes and learn from them... Who knows it may not be a mistake. Let your mother know that you will come see her when you can but its time for the eagle to leave the nest... Your an adult now... do your thing.
2006-09-08 02:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by UlickNme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are ready to move out, then you should be able to sit down and talk to her about the situation. Show her that you are mature enough to do this and its something that you need to experience on your own.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-08 02:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I left my moms house when I was 14teen and I know that she had the hardest time with it. It is going to be hard for you and your mom but, it will calm down after a bit I'll be 18teen in two months and, I live on my own i have a 5 month old son and an other one on the way. After I left home me and my mom became very close.
2006-09-08 02:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a job? Does it pay enough for you to live independently? Do you have transportation? Do you have a savings that you can fall back on in an emergency? You should try to prove to your mom that you CAN and ARE responsible enough to live alone by covering all of the above mentioned. Then, she might feel better about you're leaving home. Godloveya.
2006-09-08 02:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You mom loves you and dosnt want you to move out. She dosn't want to be left alone. SO tell her she can call you any time she wants too. She can also come and visit you as many times as she wants. Just sit her down and tell her its time to live your own life now. She cant hold on for ever sooner or later she knew she would have to let you go.
2006-09-08 02:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by unkown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i tried all sorts but to no avail, so i just prepare everything (rent the place, pack the pack..) till one day, sit down at table saying: " Mum, Dad, what i am going to tell you is FYI only, not open for discussion, and once i'm done telling you, i want you, for your very best interests, to keep on having a normal dinner. I AM moving out"! Good luck
2006-09-08 02:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by hoang anh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you get along with her stay at home she loves you and you can save money eat good maybe she knows you may not make it are you the only one at home left she may need you don't hurt her if you leave see her as much you can you may be sorry later in life good luck to you
2006-09-08 02:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, your 18 and you can do what you want. just know it is not easy on your own and unless there is a really good reason. you shouldnt move out! TRUST ME!!
2006-09-08 03:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by mml619 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ITS NOT EASY TO LET THE BIRDS FLY FROM THE NEST I KNOW 2 OF MY 3 ARE OUT ON THERE ON JUST BE PATIENT AND INCLUDE HER IN YOUR PLANS LOOKING FOR A PLACE ECT ECT BUT DO WHAT YOU GOT TO SPREAD YOU WINGS AND FLY BUT REMEMBER YOU ARE GONNA ALWAYS BE HER BABE AND TREART HER WITH RESCEPT CAUSE ONE DAY YOU WILL B IN HER SHOES WATCHING YOUR LIL BIRD FLY OUT ON THEIR OWN GOOD LOOK. PS MAKE SURE YOU CAN AFFORD TO LEAVE BF U DO
2006-09-08 02:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋