How do Christians view sex. Most that i have come across see it this way.?

Question

They believe that it is a sacred act as i do, tho um not a Christian. BUT most have a problem when it cumz 2 gettin creative with sex. A Christian friend of mine told me that it's considered dirty and against god's law to try different positions, oral sex and other unconventional sex acts. I've heard this from other Christians too. What do other Christians think?

Answer 1

Sex is a wonderful gift from God. He gave us sex so as we would have the opportunity to cooperate with Him in the creation of other immortal souls--other humans and made this way to be enjoyeable and loving! If we choose to reject His way, it will lead us to unhappiness--usually with sex, it leads GRADUALLLY to unhappiness.
I'm not saying you have to be trying to conceive a baby every time you have sex--it's totally okay to have sex during infertile periods in order to enjoy the intimacy sex involves without trying to get pregnant--but when you attempt to separate the procreational aspects of sex from the recreational, you will inevitably end up with neither.
Think about it: oral sex that DOES NOT END IN COPULATION removes the procreational purpose of sex from the recreational. Although both partners are at risk, women in particular are at risk of being "used" to fulfill the "pleasure" of the other partner. I think John Paul II put it best when he said "people were never meant to be used as a means to an end--people are the ends themselves. The only proper "reaction" to another person is love." (paraphrasing). You can see it too in pornography--people come to see others as objects for pleasure--no longer a person of dignity in and of themselves. Again, JP II said that "The problem with pornography isn't that it shows too much. It's that it shows too little." Pretty heavy, if you ask me:)

Thanks for reading! God Bless!

Answer 2

I believe that our pope can answer this question. In 'Deus Caritas Est' he more or less writes: 'eros' (the strong love of man and woman) overcomes a person. Because it can be so powerfull, the bible concours it. Not to deny, but to put it in its right place. This 'eros' is not God. That is contradicted to the Greek etc who had temple orgies. Therefore 'eros' needs to be purified. It has to be a unity of body and spirit, not only the body.
So: our pope doesn't deny eros, nor our body and the power this feelings can have. But he would like christians not to make these powers trivial. 'Sex' isn't the goal, but love is, and that is the unity with 'just this person' and 'forever'.

So, I think that no christian should think of this 'eros' as bad, dirty, against God's law. God gave us this body and its powers. Why not enjoy the love we can give with it?
Nevertheless: if someone feels uncomfortable with a certain sexual act, then just don't do it. But also: don't say that it's against Gods law.

Answer 3

what it says in the Bible is that sex is for married people and not for single people and if we want to have sex then we as single should get married. that is the only thing it says about sex in the Bible it does not say that it is considered dirty and against god's law to try different positions, oral sex and other unconventional sex acts. it's just they don't want to try something new that is all, but sex is made for married people not single people......

Answer 4

I remember when I was a real, "On fire for God" christian.... I suppose, I felt that anything but, regular, "Beautiful-Love-making" was it, for me, & my ex-husband, at that time... We even talked about the whole "Oral-sex" thing, and he said he was going to confirm that it was okay, with our 'then' pastor, "Jim" and I got so imbarrased, that he was going to talk to our "Pastor" about our sex life... it just was an answer we never really got an honest one, too.... He didn't know.. His answer was its not in the bible.. But , I later did read in the bible, that any kind of ejaculation, (sperm) that goes anywhere else, but in the woman, is a sin... So, I guess it was refering to "Masterbation" and actually oral-sex, unless, right when the man, getting at that point, he then, makes love to his wife.. that wouldn't be waisted sperm.. So, I think it depends....

Answer 5

Sex is not dirty.
It is God gift to human, for enjoyment.
It is a way to make children, one of God great gift to us.

We are allowed to do it any way we want to, except through the anus.

But make sure it is lawful, that is between a husband and wife.
Better if u do it with manners, such as under a blanket to prevent embarassment to the Angels.

Answer 6

The song of solomon suggests that the man and his lover try many positions. But I believ that there is a mentality among christians, especially catholics who believe that sex is soley meant for procreation, and so they feel uneasy about doing anything except that. But the biblle deosn't say anything like that and, in fact, suggests that we enjoy our lover

Answer 7

Well im not married,but if you have the spirit of God,you wouldnt want to be doing anything thats not normal sexual behavior,im not sure about diffrent postitions,but certainly NOT oral,thats not good and it comes from a perverted mind

Answer 8

Sex is for married people and it's an expression of love for each other and of course to have children. If both of you are in agreement with what kind of sex you have, then I don't see it as a sin, but don't push your partner to doing something that makes them feel uncomfortable.

Answer 9

Yeah, none of the teachings of Canon Law stipulate sexual positions or thier 'sinfulness' if you will. Your friend sounds backwards and ignorant.

Answer 10

As long as sex remains life-giving and has as its goal sexual union between husband and wife anything goes. The husband and wife must both give completely of themselves.