my boyfriend is 19 and i am 25. i hesitated for a long time cause of the age difference but now that we ve been together for 2 months everything is perfect. i look very young around his age so maybe thats why we dont face many problems but my parents are going crazy. he hasnt finished high school he stopped in 7th grade. im in grad school. should age or education really matter?
2006-09-08 02:41:57 · 20 answers · asked by dimitrakavoukopoulou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he seems in love and i cant help it but worry that i ll hurt him. im having a great time with him he s really smart, he s got real potential and its so stupid that he dropped out of school, what can i do about that? he s working and makes good money but ..
2006-09-08 02:52:06 · update #1
Education matters as far as a job is concerned.
But maturity is what matters in a relationship.
My friends 4 year old is more mature than her mommie.
(No offence girl..)
If you love each other, age wont matter.
Some people compliment each other well regardless of age.
2006-09-08 02:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ron K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Education, WILL matter in the long run. But your age difference isn't that big, I thought you were going to be like 50 or something, a four year diff. is not a big deal or a huge gap. If you think you're old at 25, that's sad. Does he make fun of your age for you to think that? If so than get away from him. You are only as old as you feel.
2006-09-08 02:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by crzychca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your case, the age difference is not that big. But you are both in different stages of your life, that counts. Young men tend to be more immature, even when they are of the same age. Education does matter in general. The interests are different.
Besides, 2 months is not enough time to be sure about a relationship.
Good luck!
2006-09-08 02:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by lucrecia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not see it now, but I'll bet that later on down the line the education and "real-life" differences will make a big difference to you. I don't think the age is as big a problem as your massive difference in education. His jobs will be limited to Burger King, while yours will be unlimited. You'll end up losing respect for him. He'll end up resenting you because of your position. Drop the kid. Get a good job and keep your eyes out for a mature, educated man that you deserve. I agree with your parents. You're acting like a kid by holding onto someone that disapprove of just "to show them". You're only hurting yourself. Godloveya.
2006-09-08 02:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The age gap doesn't bother me. My wife is also 6 years older than me.
The education does... I would assume that you value education (seeing that you are in grad school). This BF selection seems very inconsistent.
Just remember, date somebody you're compatibile with. Don't raise him first, just to date him. And no. he's not a project -- and you can't change his outlook.
As for what to do for him: Encourage him to go back to school. Part time if he has to.
2006-09-08 02:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only been two months. ive had food in my refridgerator longer than that. he didnt finish the 7th grade? so technically you arent dating a 19yo you are dating a guy who has the brain of a 13/14 year old. you sure you want to get into that?
he might be using you because you have money and a life. dont be confused, guys are sneaky. besides..how long could it possibly last? you are in two different places in your life. 19yo guys are REALLY immature. go find a man with a career whos your age.
2006-09-08 02:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age shouldn't matter at this point, you're both legal adults. However I'd try to persuade him to finish high school or get a GED because most companies will not hire anyone who does not have at least a high school diploma.
2006-09-08 02:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found that age really does matter. My last husband was 12 years younger than I was. At first everything was wonderful, but with time it changed. He wanted to do his thing and as long as I was willing to join him in his adventures we were fine. But (perhaps due to our large age difference) he wasn't interested in any of my interests. As time went on it became worse. Soon we were living separate lives in the same house. He eventually found someone else and moved on. Of course the divorce was ugly. (In part due to his immaturity) In retrospect, it was one of my biggest mistakes.
2006-09-08 02:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years is hardly a big age difference, I thought your were talking about 10-15 years.
2006-09-08 02:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first age does not matter. my wife and i are the same difference in age are you two are, BUT unless you want to support him for the rest of the time you are together education does matter...
2006-09-08 02:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋