2006-09-08 02:38:45 · 17 answers · asked by Frankie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just remember it is her loss if she chooses not have a healthy relationship with you. She is the one with the problem, not you. Even if you did something to make her feel the way she does and she is the one who isn't willing to "work on it" that is out of your control. Pity her for her selfishness and surround yourself with people who love you.
2006-09-08 03:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think this.? does she not talk to you? Ignore you? Does she not feed you or clothe you? Mom's rarely hate their offspring. Are you 13 or 14 and just needing some additional attention as all children this age do? Are you an adult? I have found life and relationships are a 2-way street. You get what you give. Do you do anything for her or is it take take take. Do you talk to her or do you expect her to come to you all the time. I am a mom of 4 kids. Sometimes you are so busy making sure your kids have food clothes shelter and a nice place to live that there is not much energy left for anything else. Even now that most of mine are on their own I need them to call me when they need something becase I cannot be everywhere at one time, so they call me just about every day just to say Hi and see how I am doing which is greatfor me because then I can stay on top of their needs easier. Sit down and write your mom a letter telling her how much you love her and appreciate all she has done for you. Ask her if there is anything you can do for her. If you get no response from this then you need to face toface ask her why she did not respond to your letter and confront the issue of her hating you. I thought my mother hated me too but found out it was her own self-esteem issues that kept her from hugging me and telling me she loved me. She was afraid I would reject her and she could not bear the thought of that so she left me alone. What was her mom like? Good luck. Please ask her.
2006-09-08 03:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know weather or not your mom actually told you that or not but I think you need to confront her and ask her why would she say something like that and how deeply this is effecting you.
Sometimes, however, a mother would say that because she's going through something deeper with herself or she's depressed about your father or something with herself, or she's jealous of you for whatever reason. Until you confront her, you'll be depressed and puzzling yourself. But, honey, whatever the reason may be your mother has NO right whatsoever to say something like that to her child or her flesh and blood!
2006-09-08 03:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you certain she hates you or is it from the way she treats you? If you cannot solve this by talking to her, she is your mother and just be there for her when she needs you. Our parents grew up in a different time from us and sometimes are too darn stubburn to admit they have issues that they need to deal with, it might be something you're just going to have to put up with. We can't choose our family, but we can choose our friends, and some of those friends can be closer than family.
2006-09-08 03:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by favershambles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom hates you, then she is not a very good person! i think too that my mom hates me sometime, and it can be very hard to deal with. you dont have to get depressed about it because real mothers do not hate their childern.there is really no good answer to this question, but go to therapy to help you deal with your mother, i think that is the only way you can get trhough it with out being depressed, it will make u understand her better and your feelings better, good luck.
2006-09-08 03:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by trish p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to her. find out if there is a way you two can become friends... how old are you anyway.. this makes a big difference.... get counseling and just walk away don't yell back don't say anything bad just be at peace and walk away knowing you are a wonderful person for being mature in handling this situation....
2006-09-08 02:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did she tell you that? If so OMG I'm sorry that is just horrible of her..You should not get depressed she has a problem maybe she HATES herself. If you feel badly do you have any aunts you could talk to or stay with?
2006-09-08 02:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by Miss J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did your mother tell you she hated you? Or do you figure she does because you can't get your way all of the time? I would suspect you're having a communication problem with mom. Sit down and talk to her in a normal fashion and start listening to what she has to say. She's simply protecting you, honey. Godloveya.
2006-09-08 02:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hate is such a strong word. Try to analyze things a little bit. And make sure your not getting hate confused with her tough love..
2006-09-08 03:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is besides to touch your father you're able to touch him and tell him mom is an average female and she or he abuses me and im working away. Then ask your friends in case you are able to stay with them and if there mothers and dads enable it stay at a friends abode
2016-09-30 11:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋