My boyfriends sister has been trying to ruin my relationship with my boyfriend. I tried everything to be nice to her and help her out. And now she has told his mom nothing but lies. The other night his mom told me she has been against us going out, that he didn't love me and that she thinks it'll be best to just break up. We've been with eachother for a year and we live together. She said he's too young for commitment BUT HE'S 20. It's not like we're getting married tomorrow! To make it worse his sister is engaged with MY BROTHER!! I don't agree with it because she is a two faced litte brat. What can I do to stop them from getting into my boyfriends and mine relationship?! The thing is - they are nice in my face it's when I'm not there or they aren't face to face with me that they say something.... I'm just getting tired of it!
2006-09-08 02:28:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG - it's exactly like my marriage to my ex. His sister hated me from the first time we spoke & his mother is so controlling that she even still buys his underwear, does his laundry, etc (he's almost 45!). Of course, when he was around they were all sweetness & light, but the truth was revealed later on. You have to tell them both to butt out, mind their own business & to leave you & your boyfriend alone. Tell them you will be civil & polite in public or at family functions but for them to leave you alone any other time. Be firm, because biatches like them will continue to find ways to try to screw you over. You need to tell your boyfriend as well - & hope he believes you. My ex always - ALWAYS!!! - took him moms' side or sided with his sister. They could do no wrong, they were perfect - it was ME who had the problem, ME who was causing trouble, etc. (any wonder he's an ex?) You are in for a lifetime of trouble with those two, believe me. I am so sorry you have to go through this - & anyone who tells you "you're with him, not his family" doesn't know what they're talking about. Family is part of the package, believe me. Good luck my dear - stand your ground & tell them to get bent!!!!
Read Glenn T's response, over & over & over - everything he says is the truth!!! Wish someone had told me all of this whenI first found out his mom & sister were trouble. I thought I could win them over with kindness & being sweet, but it didn't work. And he never defended me, not once. What Glenn T says is the truth - every word of it. Well put . . .
2006-09-08 02:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to say this BGUT you cant sto pthem for being in your relationship.That is your boyfriends Sister and Mother , they are part of his life.
Yousound like you want to screwwit hyour brothers relationship with his girlfriend but here youare complaining about the same issue with your boyfriends family.
Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.
So witch way do you want it , you andboyfriend able to live with others in harmony , or you and them fighting over stupid crap ?
And yes i siad STUPID crap - first off know this - if someone BELIEVES you are doing something you are not doing ,then they BELIEVE IT .YOU Cant change what they think deep down ,only slow dow nthe thouight for a few moments.Think I am wrong think back whe nyou where tdl your guy is screwing around on you by a friend , you believes your friend cuz she had no reason to lie to you ,then found out it was total BS and she wanted to go out with the guy.
If your boyfriend believes his family over you , then you lose - nothing you can do but fight to stay on a sinking ship.Blood is thicker then water and since you aint blood you lose . See my point.
Next dont cause issues with your brothers relationship just becuase they cause issues with yours.Your brother will be watching this and see how her family deals wit hit , if he where smart , you would see and say something about it , if he is thinking with his small head then he will not.
Lastly - you live with this gu yand yet he does not defend you . this is a true issue - if he cares about you then he would be along side you anddefending you when his mother and sister start their crap.Since he does not and the issue is still going on seems he rather ignore it and let you fight by yourself.I say drop his ash and move on due to the fact he can not stand by you and support you and would allow his family to rip you apart.Why would you want to stay with someone who would not support you and defend you from harm ?
Time to step forward and be the adult and let the little kids play their games and you sit at the grown up table and let mommy- sister and brother stay at the kiddie table and play like the kids they are.
2006-09-08 02:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's in-laws for you sometimes. You will just have to not let them get to you and tell your self you are a better person then they are. Tell them to keep their noses out of your personal affairs, your man is 20 and you live together and dont appreciate them sticking their 2 cents in where it dont belong. Tell your boyfriend how you feel and have him talk to his family.
The fact is if your together and his sister is engaged to your brother then you mess well learn to get along or hate each other gracefully cause your going to be dealing with each other more then you care to.
2006-09-08 02:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend after all they're his family and he's the only one who can talk sense to them. It's the only way. Or you could just ignore it; the talking and bitching would get worse for a while but they'll soon get bored. Sounds like they have nothing better to do so don't satisfy their need to torment someone.
2006-09-08 02:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by surani_ud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. the greater serious style of better half's mom- the racist style! She's in all probability merely petrified of dropping her little boy. incredibly, you should be her very imaginitive and prescient of the perfect female pal, and she or he'd nonetheless in all probability manage you this way. The boyfriend's mum consistently has those innovations which you're the two cheating on him/after something (money, jewelry etc). do no longer combat with your boyfriend approximately her. that's what she needs. She's meddling. faster or later, somebody- optimistically your boyfriend, perchance yet another relatives member- will placed her in her place. Be advantageous to her, perchance grant to help with the home conventional jobs/dinner/babysitting etc. perchance you're able to have a communique and say, "i comprehend what you think of of me, yet you're incorrect. i does no longer be appropriate, yet i attempt to be a good guy or woman and that i admire your son and promise to no longer harm him. i won't be able to help being born Spanish anymore than you are able to help being born as an Italian, and come across a number of the flaws you're saying hurtful. you do no longer could be my pal in case you do no longer prefer to be, yet no longer less than i think of I deserve some comprehend. i think of that's incorrect human beings to combat, and can prefer to comprehend what i'm able to do to make you spot that i'm no longer the guy you think of i'm." perchance she'll relish this and you are able to placed some water below the bridge. Your boyfriend heavily needs to get a backbone even with the undeniable fact that. he's disrespecting you thru no longer status up for you. perchance ask him to realize a compromise- you're making marvelous attempt to befriend his mum, and he has to adhere up for you greater! remember- his mum isn't your undertaking. do no longer waste it sluggish irritating approximately her spite. Your loving her son does not require her permission. Love him as you will possibly. something she says/does is of no effect! good success!
2016-09-30 11:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you even want to deal with people like that. Cut and run as fast as you can. There are plenty of others out there. Once you do this, you will realize how much better life is.
2006-09-08 02:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
expose her for what she is. a two faced lying sneak... talk to your boyfriend and tell him to ask his sister to lay off the bad mouthing... if things get worse then I would think about confronting her in front of the mother and ask her to repeat what she has been saying and set them both straight....
2006-09-08 02:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be rude to the sister and two faced to the mom. that should even things out.
2006-09-08 02:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them... If your bf sticks with you that's great... If he listens to them and stops seeing you, then they were right about him being to immature for commitment...
2006-09-08 02:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line you need to look at your own wrong, which is living together. Forget everything else, when this is more serious.
2006-09-08 02:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋