Why do they tell them things that are untrue and hurtful?
E.G. They tell them that there is a tooth fairy or there is Santa Claus or that the Easter bunny lays eggs
I'm glad today that my parents never told such lies like that. It saved myself from being naive.
2006-09-08 02:02:08 · 18 answers · asked by College Kid 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Because parents are SICK in the head for deceiving their children in such a fashion. That part of the reason why young people are so messed up today, and are subject ot believe all sort of other lies promoted by liberals.
I believe that involving your children with stroies about Santa Claus (a satanic image), the Tooth Fairy or the Easter Bunny, or even talking to them in "baby talk" is a way of expressing disdain and contempt toward your children and arresting their development. I think that parents must have some sort of superiority complex and must need someone to degrade.
I think it is tanatamount to mental child abuse. Thank you for pointing it out!
2006-09-08 02:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Its part of the innocence of childhood. There is an "Easter Bunny" and a "Santa Clause", but you, as an adult, know them to be ideas and not "real". Its part of the fun of childhood, but I do understand your position. You should watch the movie "Miracle on 34th Street" and pay special attention to the scene where a judge has to decide if Santa Claus is real or not - then put yourself in his shoes.
2006-09-08 09:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never lied to my children. They now everything from past, present about our family and what goes on. We have a strong family connection. I understand that people have differences and do thing their own way. But When I was growing up, I found out a lot about life the hard way. So I have told the truth to my children, nieces, nephews, etc. And have gotten the most respect out of the family. So telling the truth does pay off.
2006-09-08 12:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by angeleloves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll say that such parents that tell their kids lies are those who are underachievers and must have failed in one way or the other when they were the age of that child of theirs.In psychology it's called projection wherein individuals attribute the desirable qualities of others to themselves.about the hurtful things such folks might well have an underlying problem bugging them that the wanna take out on someone,callit frustration or whatever.
2006-09-08 09:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by candy girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not lie to my child about important questions he should have about life but as for santa claus and the easter bunny, those are some of the best memopries from my childhood, they are not hurtful at all.
2006-09-08 09:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by lksy7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality comes soon enough.
I don't look at it as a lie anymore. My son is now ten years old and when he was much younger I asked my father a similar question. I asked "Isn't my son going to be upset that I told him something that is untrue?" My dad said "When he figures it out you just need to let him feel like he is in on the grown-up secret. That is what we did with you and you weren't upset at all. You were excited."
That is what we have done and my son is an extremely happy and well-adjusted child.
You can decide what to tell your children when you become a parent.
2006-09-08 09:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by MoMattTexas 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not think, I was hurt by those stories. A little story to compensate for the pain of loosing a tooth. Can't you let childhood have some moments of fantasy. Harsh reality will come soon enough.
2006-09-08 09:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by fathermartin121 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some parents don't want their children to grow up. They want to maintain the innocence in their children. There is nothing wrong with that as long as the children do grow up. As long as it doesn't cause any psychological damage! Children are way smarter than you think they are. They do know without anyone telling them, whether tooth fairies visit them or not.
2006-09-08 09:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by lkraie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are just trying to let their kids have a little fun and magic in their lives....
though i admit when i found out that Santa wasn't real i was really crushed and angry! my cousin told me there was no Santa..... i didn't believe her....i said my Mom told me there was a Santa and that my Mother didn't ever lie..... so i went and asked my Mom saying....Mom there is too a Santa, isn't there? because you never lie... and my Mom told me there wasn't a Santa.....
i don't think most kids take it as hard as i did though.....
2006-09-08 09:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is time for everything. Parents may have plans of telling them at the right time.
2006-09-08 09:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by kool-K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋