Me and my bf of almost 6 years have just got back together about a month ago after splitting for about 6 weeks.we have a child together,anyway he works in a call centre and i went with him to a night out last friday and i didn`t realise he knew and was friendly with so many girls!!He has worked there for almost 2 years and hasn`t really mentioned any of them.They totally blanked me anyway and didn`t even try to make conversation so as i was nervous and feeling rather uncomfortable i started drinking double vodkas(not a good idea on an empty stomach!),anyway there was this one girl in particular who my bf was chatting to,he even moved of the seat from beside me to squeeze in beside her and he started whispering in her ear and giggling etc,i got a bit mad and let them both know it but he didn`t seem to give a damn,i had it out with him the next day and he said he was testing me as i used to be quite jealous when i was younger but i think what he done was just nasty,am i being paranoid??
2006-09-08 01:43:09 · 35 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes they can, your not being paranoid though, what he did to you was extremely silly, there should be a deeper layer of trust in the realationship, he can have his friends but he can never be as close to them as he is to you, tell him he should get his act together.
2006-09-08 01:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by Animagus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets look at the big picture.
What would you look for in a female friend? Compatibility!
No friendship will ever survive without it.
What do you look for in a boyfriend? Again, compatibility.
So, for a male friendship to also survive, you will need compatibility.
At some point in a friendship between a male and female, one of the two is going to realize that they have more in common, and are way more compatible with the other than any opposite sex relationships the have had or are experiencing.
It is at this point that a "friendship" between a male and female will either mature into a boyfriend / girlfriend type of relationship, or one of them realizes that they did not have that much in common and move on to find a more compatible mate.
Keep in mind, for any relationship to mature a compatible friendship must be established first.
2006-09-08 01:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by A 37 year old male 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was playing for the last six weeks. Did you? Dump this guy, he's not ready to be serious and your child deserves better. Stick it to him for the child support.
And to answer your 1st question, in spite of what others may say, no, it's not possible. I guarantee unless she's a super skag every man looks at a woman and if even briefly, wonders what she would be like in the sack. It's in our make up, can't be escaped. It may be totally controlled on the outside, we may never act improperly, but the little brain is thinking about it all the time.
2006-09-08 01:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think that men and women can be "just" friends, as long as there is respect from the opposite sex when there is a relationship involved. Take it from me, a guy, your bf was testing you alright.... he was seeing how much he could get away with. I worked at a major call center and there were lots of beautiful women there, however, because my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world to me, she knew about the women I worked with. I would always mention her at work (along with my children), and the names of my male, as well as female co-workers at home. When I did bring my wife to the call center as a guest, it was as if she and the people I worked with were already acquainted, especially the women, that way, "There was no mistakin... that all I was doin was bringin home the bacon!"
2006-09-08 02:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by mrchozen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf, ( now hubby) did almost the exact same thing!!! we broke up after several of those incidents and I didn't take him back for a long time (we have 9month old twins together) he gave me the same excuse and at first i bought it and i felt like i was just psycho, until a couple of days later a really good point hit me, i asked him, if you love me as much as you say you do, and you claim to think i am so jealous, than why would you do something just to test me when you know it is going to hurt me emotionally. isn't that kind of mean! i told him i dont get jealous to ruin his fun on purpose, i feel disrespected when we are together and yet he does this with other women. than i told him if he wants to chalk it up to me being jealous, fine, but which is more important to him, being able to be "friends" with coworkers, or the feelings of the mother of his child. My bf didn't buy it at first, but the next day i got a bouquet of flowers with a hearfelt apology from him in which he said that while he felt i was being unfair by not wanting him to be friends with girls, he realizes that being friends with girls that bother me is unfair to me because he loves me.ultimately our relationship was worth more to him than the relationship with his "girlfriends".
2006-09-08 01:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by jwpsgirls 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes actually they can, but this doesn't really sound like you typical girl/guy friendship. I have plenty of friends who happen to be guys and my other half has a lot of friends which are female. Unfortuantely though I know how it feels to be blanked as most of my b/f friends always blank me and don't include me in any conversations, that and I prefer guys as friends anyway girls are to bitchy and gossip to much!
Ask him about it and if you think something is going on tell him, and if he acts like he doesn't give a damn ask him why he's doing it coz it's obviously upsetting you.
2006-09-08 02:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Rachie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, men are the weirdest! I think he did it on purpose but I'm sure that he enjoyed it. nasty as it can be but u didnt have to overreact, u had to play it cool and get out of there as fast as u could. What connects u two is a child not ur love. Or is it? Do u still have feelings for him? can u move on?
2006-09-08 01:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women can only be friends if they're having sex together ... It sounds like your boyfriend is VERY friendly with some of the girls he works with and presumably as there are more women than men, they're likely to be predatory and your man seems to have been caught with his fingers in the cookie jar so to speak
Maybe it's time for you to say goodbye for good ... you'll only get hurt if you don't.
2006-09-08 02:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think male & female can be friends, to remain friends there is a line which mustn't be crossed,if you cross that line then you become ex partners/lovers .I think perhaps, in some cases you can be friends with ex's as long as you no longer are attracted to them ,therefore flirting or being overfriendly ,giving them the wrong signals is very much a no-no
2006-09-08 02:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Babycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opion yes men and women can be just friends. I have a friend that I grew up with who is female and we have been friends for a long time. She's like my little sister. All of us have friends like that who are of the opposite sex. So yes both men and women can just be friends no matter what the situation is. So trust your boyfriend if you have a child together and if he loves you with all of his heart and soul then the only person he wants to be with is you. So Trust in him as he trusts in you.
2006-09-08 01:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by The Plague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is, yes they can. But that isn't the question you need an answer to is it? Isn't the real question: is my boyfriend really just friends with all those girls or is he having an affair with one or more of them? The other question is, if he treats you the way he appears to, do you really want to be with him? What caused the split in the first place?
2006-09-08 01:51:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋