he tells me his is going to call but then doesn't until the next day. He hasn't told anyone that he has a girlfriend, we've been dating for over three months. We both have kids, but he doesn't feel he can tell his kid he has a girlfriend. We see eachother maybe twice a week. I told him I would like to see him more, but it hasn't changed. He forgets to tell me he won't be over until after the fact or I call him to find out if he is seeing me that night. Am I over reacting or too impatient? I really like this guy, but I really don't know and can't figure out if he feels the same about me. Any advice?
2006-09-08 01:35:53 · 12 answers · asked by mariajd3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he has been scorned before and wants to see where things lead.
He could really like you and is afraid to get too close. Some men are like that.
Or maybe you're just nothing but sex to him.
Advice? Lay it on the table and see what he says. Be straightforward.
2006-09-08 01:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guys scared of getting hurt, or of committing,He also has his kids to think about, give him time it is a waiting game when you are dating someone with a past life .Its hard but give him the space let him know you are there ,but live your own life you have to give and take on both sides. See him twice a week and make this time special ,who know what will happen. If he calls and you are doing something don't go running you are a person in your own right and he has to learn that you are not always available either.
2006-09-08 01:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by lady_di_ar125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are blind. There's a saying that goes something like this ' there are none so blind as those who will not see.'
You know in your heart he doesn't feel strongly for you. You also know that the odds are he has someone else, since he hides your relationship.
I am sure you'd like to hear something else, but I am not gonna lie to you just so you will give me points, the truth is he is not in your relationship. He is using you when he feels like it and you have placed the word welcome on your back making you the perfect doormat.
You can either accept this as all you deserve and try to be happy with it ( you won't) or you can throw a little cold water in those tear filled eyes, stand up tall and proud and walk away.
2006-09-08 01:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It maybe a little early in the relationship for him wanting to tell his child that he has a girlfriend. When it comes to children, you don't want temporary people coming in and out of their lives, it isn't good for them.
Take things slowly and let it stay casual for now until both of you feel more secure in what is going on.
2006-09-08 01:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing you OR he is seeing other people also.
Stop calling him. He'll either start calling you more or he won't. If he doesn't start "chasing" you as you've been chasing him, he is a waste of your time.
If he's not seeing other people but he's just avoiding you to see how bad you'll chase him and how much you'll give him a hard time when he doesn't call or when he doesn't see you, he's playing you. He probably does it to several people.
2006-09-08 01:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time u meet him talk to him about how ur feeling and let him know that ur confused, but dont look desperate. if hes having doubts about the relationship then move on cause thats the same as saying i dont like u
2006-09-08 01:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by emaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you have to ask, the answer is never good.
it could be that this man has poor organizational skills. It could be that he isn't ready for a relationship an can't admit that to himself, which is why he hides you... or it could be something else... he could have another relationship that YOU don't know about.
I'd bail... too many red flags here.
2006-09-08 01:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by KB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him hw youfeel about it and ays you would like it to change. If he doesn't want it too maybe he's not ready for a relationship yet?
2006-09-08 01:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by Vanessa~Yeah!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he is gun shy and scathed from his previous relationship(s) or it may be because they ended because the pattern of his behaviour has not changed. if you are intimate with someone enough to share your body with him, then you should be intimate enough to share your thoughts. all the answers you get here will be based on pure speculation. you need to have a chat with him and get his perspective. good luck to you.
2006-09-08 01:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes!! get a new one. This boy friend is not mature enough!! You don't state your ages, But I bet he is around 15, And I think he is playing with someone else too!!
2006-09-08 01:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by alfonso 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋