why can't a father's bond be just as great as a mothers?

Question

i just answered a question about if i would give up being able to carry a child and give that gift to my husband.. now the question was focused on the bonding aspect between the mother and child.. what the father does not bond with the child at all? i never really understood this. it is all about the mother and the child's experience? NO! my husband plays a huge role in the childs life and i think they have all bonded just fine.. by the way i would love to give my husband the chance to give birth.. maybe then the role of a father would be more accepted...

Answer 1

I am a stay at home dad for my 8 and 4 year old. They are both Daddy girls. When they get up in the middle of the night they come to dad and when things are bothering them as well. As a dad it is hard to fix all the worlds from for my girls.

I also have a married daughter and we would fight over the minor stuff but when big things happen (sexually active, pregnant) she always came to dad first.

I don't believe it can't happen but the man must want it to and devote the time to make it happen

Answer 2

I dont really feel a bond with either of my parents. I can assume that father's have a harder time than mothers because they dont carry and feed the baby for 9 months. There are probably many more smaller reasons, but that seems to be the biggest. The father doesn't make a bond til the child gets a bit older I dont think.

Answer 3

A father can bond very tightly and closely
with their children,and being that the child
came from their body too,it only makes
sense. I have seen Fathers & their kids bond
very closely,so I know it happens,and some
times the father is more bonded to the kids
than the Mothers are.

Answer 4

Dads can, and do, play huge roles in their kids's lives.

However, mothers and children do have a special biological bond because of a mother's ability to feed a child from her own body. It's a survival instinct in all mammals which motivates the mother to offer her milk to the child and the child to seek it.

Of course, not all kids are breast-fed. That can depend on many things (the parents's comfort with breastfeeding; the mother's ability to produce milk; the child's success in learning to breastfeed properly; and so on).

But the instinct remains. So young kids usually feel a tiny bit closer to their moms than their dads---because, unconsciously, they associate them with their physical survival.

But look at it this way: When a dad cares enough to have close, loving relationships with his young kids, the kids bond with him just because he's a great guy---no unconscious breastfeeding instinct required. Nothing wrong with that! :?)

Answer 5

Interesting question.

I think a father's bond is extremely important and can be very strong. But I am not sure if the potential for the strength of the bond to be as strong as the mother and child.

We carry them in our body for almost a year and they are truly part of us when they are born.

A friend once told me that her husband bonded with their child when she had to have surgery. Daddy had to do everything and be almost everything for the baby. She said it was an amazing experience for him and their child.

I would be happy to give my husband the chance to give birth but the fact is, I don't think he would be able to handle it.

Answer 6

If the father is as active in the child's life, who says they don't have an equal bond? However, the same sex parent does have the most influence on that child.

Answer 7

It can be just as great as a mothers and this would not require a man giving birth.
We focus too much on physical bonds, psychological bonds don't develop for a while but they may be even stronger than physical ones.

Answer 8

a bond between father and child is strong it's just that because we carry them so close to us while they grow that a mothers bond is just that tiny bit greater, but saying that some woman just aren't paternal and that's when the fathers bond is greater, so i suppose it goes both ways.

Answer 9

My wife always accuses me of stealing the baby's after I cut the cord. She carries them for nine months then I take over. I love the smell of babies and to have them go to sleep on my chest is such a great feeling. I love to take care of them every minute I am home with them. My wife feels my bond with the kids is actually stronger than hers, I do not agree. I think it is equal.

Answer 10

so you want a wanky too huh? actualy thats deep but understood alota people actualy wanna know exactly what each other pheals but the sexes are just like magnets while men tighten women loosen and to change the polarity of the sex is to change what makes that person who they are so one you would hae to acept being gayly attracted to your own sexual gender and for some that is not what attracted them together girls are generaly attrackted to the male masculinity and the loving moralities and guys usualy seek the nurturing traits which are generaly associated with bold rounded curves and gentileness and an essence of vulnerabilty signafying at looseness and softness and men are sought for their firmness like armor fit for a queen the right suit will activate if he feels the right vibrations but if its guys in the suit and girls that are on then we have been callin each other the wrong names for quite a while but as for the family bonds it realy depends on the person but in most families both do have their own bonds from the kids and their own special discusions depending on what the child thinks you like or have experience with or what you supportively allow hints that you understand whatt they like or want but the roles of both parents are equaly accepted and im not speaking for those guys who abuse women but for those who do respect women and are respected by women for their good nature and strong morals besides some men look at the role of women and think the same like what do they do which is realy dumb for both sides to think that way because both are contributing to the creation of life yet i have wondered and decided if i did ever truely find the right one providing that we would keep our image that we are atracted to and not loose our exhisting sexual organ in such that we both are able to do the same to contribute in fullness of equality then yes i probly would but she would have to be extremely special and truely faithfull and loyal besides that you never know if some world disaster would kill everyone except you and women could allways go to sperm banks to get pregnent and bring civilization back but guys? alone? the closest we could get are test tube babies and thats if the machines and nutrients survive along with the eggs of women and that this last standing guy knows how the darn thing works ,and if men did not support sperm banks what would the only standing woman do alone without the sperm of men or even if for some reason they are all destroyd too what would a man or woman do being totaly alone in the whole world and if we did have both sexual organs would it be possible for a person to pregnate themself and if god did create us with both in the beginning would they fall apart socialy by the thoughts that if i did have both i wouldnt need anyone else cause i could do myself and perhaps it was for a time and such did occure and perhaps it got so bad that one of them thought hey if i can do it all by myself i could whipe out the whole world and start it all over make it all about me and who knows what did happen in the past or even how many times someone was that destructive to end the world humanity and play god and it might be one reason that we dont know where exactly humanity truely came from or even how maney planets have become earth or how maney earths have feuled the sun or how maney noah space arkships have been made but on one hand double sex is a risk and on the other a security of lifes liveabilty but all things considerd