Please answer this?? what should I do?
What should i do?
Could you please give me the best advice you have? I am just not ready to let her go yet??
this is an email she replied to me...is she letting me down easy, or is she scareed, like she says she is...because she is only 13 and never been in a relationship before??
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
This happened about a week ago. I havent barely talked to her since, and am respecting her decision. My question is.
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23 hours ago
Does she not like me like that, or is she just scared. Because, me and her obviously had something goin, and then she just kinda stopped, and now this. So what should I do. I know not to smother her, and not to bring it up. I am respecting her wishes, because I want her to be happy. she is 13 and i am 15 . And dont say Im to young. I know, I've like many girls, but none like her, and I am jsut not ready to let her go.
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because she said..she just doesnt want to ruin a friendship, because we have been friends since I was like 5 ..so please help
2006-09-08 00:58:30 · 19 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is trying to let you know that while she likes you as a friend she is not interested in dating you. You should honor her decision and go on with your life. If you are swimming throw yourself into that because between that and homework you should be able to keep busy. Also, there are rules that say swimmers from competing schools cannot date. I know that one from a friend of mine whose husband wasn't allowed to ask her out until he was out of school. She also may be uncertain as to what she wants from her life yet or she may have a rule that states she cannot date until she is 16. Don't push anything. Just remain her friend.
2006-09-08 01:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By what you wrote, she obviously didn't think of you guys having anything.She clearly says:
"I've never thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think that's how things should stay"
What made you think there was anything more?
Maybe she just feels really close to you 'cause
of the friendship you guys have had and she doesn't want to ruin it.
When she says: "First of all I don't hate you. Second I haven't been avoiding you either because it's not just been swimming that I've been busy with it's been life". It definitely sounds to me like she is having some kind of problem. Whatever it is maybe she is not ready to talk about it or it's something that she doesn't feel like talking to you about it. Tell her you are concerned and that whenever she feels the need to talk to you, you will be there.
In my opinion it doesn't sound to me like she likes you like that. Sounds to me that she feels there is just a simple friendship with you.
2006-09-08 08:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by hilda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you are both very young to be committing your self's to each other. She has a life ahead of her, she likes you but doesn't know what she whats. YOU on the other hand are all hormones and these are ruling your head at the moment. Take a step back and look at the situation . She is still a child were you are turning in to a man , If you really care for her you will wait be there for her as a friend don't chase her go out with your mates. It takes time to make a lasting relationship who know what is in store for you both. If it is meant to be it will happen in its own good time if not then move on. The first love is always the hardest Take your time.give her space and who know what may happen good luck.
2006-09-08 08:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by lady_di_ar125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has make herself perfectly clear. Don't try to read any more into what she has said. After being friends since the age of 5, she probably considers you more of a sibling and to try and take it to another level would absolutely ruin the existing relationship. Just let it go and let her know that you respect her decision and that you would like to continue to be her friend. She is certainly too young for any type of intimate relationship at this time.
2006-09-08 08:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon..your 15.. I know even at that age..you have feelings, but you are way too young to be worrying about a serious relationship with anyone.. And she is definitely too young!! I'll tell you the same thing that I tell my son's (19 and 12).."There is
nothing wrong with being good friends only with a lot of girls..When you are old enough to be in a committed relationship, one of them may stand out more than the others..or they may not.." Concentrate on your school work and whatever else you have going on for now..True love will come when it is time..
2006-09-08 08:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by Termite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time! Both of you are not ready for a commitment. You are 15 she is 13, she still toooooooo young. And women matured faster than boys. So, I can say you could be 13. I'll bet this is the first time you take a girl serious! Enjoy life!! It's beautiful, meet people. One day, you'll meet you'r future wife. But it wont be now.
2006-09-08 08:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by alfonso 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked to not be told that you are too young...well you said it yourself. And so is she. She is only 13 and too young to be given an ultimatum. Life is just beginning for the two of you. You're too young to be getting serious about each other like that. Listen to what she said...she likes being "just friends" with you. Keep it like that and respect her wishes, otherwise you may loose her as a friend. Take your time growing up and becoming involved in a serious relationship. Enjoy your youth.
2006-09-08 08:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by pampam50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to be only friends. Respect that and don't push her. If she changes her mind as you both grow older (as it appears you have known each other a long time), than all the better. Just try and be the best friend you can be. Sometimes that is more important than a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. I would rather have a best friend for life than to lose someone because I wanted more.
2006-09-08 08:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Hcrafty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear that you are too young but you are and so is she. She is at an age when her body is changing and she has a whole lot of new things going on including emotions.
Be her friend and maybe in a few years you guys can be more. For now, just enjoying each other as friends, nothing more.
2006-09-08 08:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have been friends for ten years and that is all she wants. You say you respect her wishes but it seems like you still want it to be your way. Because you have been friends for so long you got used to having her around. That is all it is. Go out with other girls and enjoy life. You are - irrespective of what you think - too young to sit with thiss type of problem.
Enjoy life - you still have a lot to learn and will still learn how to handle the knocks life dishes out.
2006-09-08 08:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋